Hi,
We ve been married 2 years now, but havent been able to achieve orgasm during intercourse.
My husband ,until a year back,was habituated to masturbate by way of rubbing penis against the mattress and wasnt interested in penis stroking methods.Probably this caused some dificulties during intercourse,hence on being advised by a doctor, hes now practiced to ejaculate by pushing the foreskin up and down while fantasizing for stimulation.But he has not yet started liking the way of intercourse movement for ejaculation.
The problem is that by the time we get into the position for intercourse, his thoughts/fantasies get diverted and so as soon as he inserts the penis,it slackens a bit.He is unable to continue his fantasies after that , which he says is extremely essential to retain and build up the crescendo to ejaculate inside.
He expects that soon after insertion I should start liking the feel of his penis (I don’t feel much probably due to penis slackening or may be I should start fantasizing/masturbating at that point ) ,and if I start enjoying,that will give him enough stimulation to ejaculate inside.
Even then, sometimes he does try and ejaculate inside, mostly it is very quickly after insertion itself.
Some other things are- my husband only likes the excitation by sight and by touching breasts and skin.only.He doesn’t like kissing on the lips or licking etc,which involves saliva.Neither is he excited by me stroking his penis .Are these things OK?
My questions are:
1.Once erect ,does the penis need to be continuously stimulated to retain the erection ?To the extent that even if the stimulation pauses a bit ,probably to get to the intercourse position ,the erection slackens ?
2.What can be done for him to start liking intercourse movements?
Because of all these things, I have nt had any satisfaction,except arousal during foreplay,which we indulge in a lot. I do lubricate myself with ky jelly in case, during intercourse.
Kindly help us, as I don’t know if anything is wrong with the both of us and how to get things right.
Thanks for your time!
We ve been married 2 years now, but havent been able to achieve orgasm during intercourse.
My husband ,until a year back,was habituated to masturbate by way of rubbing penis against the mattress and wasnt interested in penis stroking methods.Probably this caused some dificulties during intercourse,hence on being advised by a doctor, hes now practiced to ejaculate by pushing the foreskin up and down while fantasizing for stimulation.But he has not yet started liking the way of intercourse movement for ejaculation.
The problem is that by the time we get into the position for intercourse, his thoughts/fantasies get diverted and so as soon as he inserts the penis,it slackens a bit.He is unable to continue his fantasies after that , which he says is extremely essential to retain and build up the crescendo to ejaculate inside.
He expects that soon after insertion I should start liking the feel of his penis (I don’t feel much probably due to penis slackening or may be I should start fantasizing/masturbating at that point ) ,and if I start enjoying,that will give him enough stimulation to ejaculate inside.
Even then, sometimes he does try and ejaculate inside, mostly it is very quickly after insertion itself.
Some other things are- my husband only likes the excitation by sight and by touching breasts and skin.only.He doesn’t like kissing on the lips or licking etc,which involves saliva.Neither is he excited by me stroking his penis .Are these things OK?
My questions are:
1.Once erect ,does the penis need to be continuously stimulated to retain the erection ?To the extent that even if the stimulation pauses a bit ,probably to get to the intercourse position ,the erection slackens ?
2.What can be done for him to start liking intercourse movements?
Because of all these things, I have nt had any satisfaction,except arousal during foreplay,which we indulge in a lot. I do lubricate myself with ky jelly in case, during intercourse.
Kindly help us, as I don’t know if anything is wrong with the both of us and how to get things right.
Thanks for your time!
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It'll just take both of you working together (but remember to have fun during sex) for him to be able to stay hard & ejaculate inside you. He has probably "trained himself" by his prior positions & porn or his fantasies and "normal" intercourse is kinda' boring for him. He needs to stop master bating without you (so he gets more excited) and also he is used to rough master action and sex with a vagina offers light pressure on the penis. Also his doctor could prescribe Cialis for his ED - this will allow him to be harder easier & for longer. Good luck and like I said, it's about love and having fun while having sex.
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