hi,
I'm 30 and I had sex with my bf 2 days ago, he fingered me afterwards, he was fingering quite hard and for a long time, I didn't feel much discomfort at the time, but I started to feel funny when going to the toilet after that. there is not burning feeling or discharge, but I feel more pressure in my urinary track (I think ) when I go to the toilet; I have to try and pee slowly and even when I finished peeing, I still feel like peeing, I feel like peeing all the time these couple days and peed not much every time with the same feeling. It bleeded when I let go and putting pressure to try to pee yesterday.
Today I was a bit scared because I drank a lot of water on the way home and once I got in, I just couldn't hold it, I literally peed my pants.
Can anyone help me, I feel too embarrassed to ask my friends.
I think my urine track might have been scratched or damaged? Is it possible I won't be able to control my urine any more? or I just need a couple more days to recover? the blood has reduced gradually today.
thank you for your help
I'm 30 and I had sex with my bf 2 days ago, he fingered me afterwards, he was fingering quite hard and for a long time, I didn't feel much discomfort at the time, but I started to feel funny when going to the toilet after that. there is not burning feeling or discharge, but I feel more pressure in my urinary track (I think ) when I go to the toilet; I have to try and pee slowly and even when I finished peeing, I still feel like peeing, I feel like peeing all the time these couple days and peed not much every time with the same feeling. It bleeded when I let go and putting pressure to try to pee yesterday.
Today I was a bit scared because I drank a lot of water on the way home and once I got in, I just couldn't hold it, I literally peed my pants.
Can anyone help me, I feel too embarrassed to ask my friends.
I think my urine track might have been scratched or damaged? Is it possible I won't be able to control my urine any more? or I just need a couple more days to recover? the blood has reduced gradually today.
thank you for your help
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Firstly 'no more' is a long, long time and the human body is remarkably resilient, so I very much doubt you're going to have any permanent repercussions from any activity that wasn't intolerable at the time. Mind you, people have different ideas of what constitutes intolerable, so common sense applies.
Secondly, it is far more likely that the body is deeply appreciative of the water you've given it, and is using it to flush out the system which has been disturbed by your activity.
The blood is disturbing, just what the **** did he do? I really have to wonder what you consider 'normal' and reasonably punishment for your vagina: powerful arousal and orgasmic response do not require such treatment, though again, there's somewhat out there that will have loved what he did, and discomfort tends to distract from participation, relaxation, and response.
If he's that insensitive with a vulnerable part of your body, I have to wonder how he's going to take it if you try to discuss the issue, and request politely, reassuringly, and firmly that (I presume) you don't really want to experience that kind of pummelling again.
'Sport-f**king as I call it, athletic pistoning, may be more obvious visually than deep arousal techniques, which emphasise touch and response, and being sensitive to a woman (or man's) arousal, and tends to have quite a following in the adult (especially US) movie industry, but it's interresting to note there's a strong counter-culture, emphasising touch, sensitivity, and commonly involving female-female participants - go figure.
He may be impressing himself, but if he's damaging you, and I have to wonder just how enjoyable you really found that, he may not be impressing anyone else - and here the only person he has a legitimate interest in impressing, is you, so if you can be big about it, you don't have to be a shrew, but you can legitimately make him aware of your current problem (if he's not already), maybe 'ground' him so to speak, from your body, until you're recovered, and more importantly, he gets the message that more sensitivity might be more appropriate next time.
While I doubt there's any long-term issue involved, it would be sensible (and may make a point to him) if you go the doctor or clinic to have this checked out. It's your body, and that goes for him and any thoughts I might have, but I'd imagine you might enjoy a more fulfiling and rewarding experience of sex than this.
Secondly, it is far more likely that the body is deeply appreciative of the water you've given it, and is using it to flush out the system which has been disturbed by your activity.
The blood is disturbing, just what the **** did he do? I really have to wonder what you consider 'normal' and reasonably punishment for your vagina: powerful arousal and orgasmic response do not require such treatment, though again, there's somewhat out there that will have loved what he did, and discomfort tends to distract from participation, relaxation, and response.
If he's that insensitive with a vulnerable part of your body, I have to wonder how he's going to take it if you try to discuss the issue, and request politely, reassuringly, and firmly that (I presume) you don't really want to experience that kind of pummelling again.
'Sport-f**king as I call it, athletic pistoning, may be more obvious visually than deep arousal techniques, which emphasise touch and response, and being sensitive to a woman (or man's) arousal, and tends to have quite a following in the adult (especially US) movie industry, but it's interresting to note there's a strong counter-culture, emphasising touch, sensitivity, and commonly involving female-female participants - go figure.
He may be impressing himself, but if he's damaging you, and I have to wonder just how enjoyable you really found that, he may not be impressing anyone else - and here the only person he has a legitimate interest in impressing, is you, so if you can be big about it, you don't have to be a shrew, but you can legitimately make him aware of your current problem (if he's not already), maybe 'ground' him so to speak, from your body, until you're recovered, and more importantly, he gets the message that more sensitivity might be more appropriate next time.
While I doubt there's any long-term issue involved, it would be sensible (and may make a point to him) if you go the doctor or clinic to have this checked out. It's your body, and that goes for him and any thoughts I might have, but I'd imagine you might enjoy a more fulfiling and rewarding experience of sex than this.
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