Hello, I've found out recently that my wife has had bulimia for about 3 years, and I didn’t notice it. I can’t believe that I didn’t realize what was going on, when she would stay for long in the bathroom to purge after binging. Now, she is seeing a counselor. How should I react? Should I stay supporting in her efforts to quit bulimia or actually prevent her from in binging/purging cycle?
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Hi, I'm a female, professional psychologist, and I also suffered from bulimia for 12 years. When I think of catching me in vomiting I feel absolutely mortified, if I knew that somebody is intentionally trying to stop me, for my own benefit, I would feel even worse. It’s such a shame (to see me like that) that it’s very hard to share even with the closest people. I even used to lay people that I quitted binging and purging and I wasn’t only to make them get a better impression of me. I still overeat when faced with some hard problem, or maybe it’s not that huge it just seems to me so. Only building up self-esteem and self-respect can bring your wife back to normal. It has to be done in her head (because that’s where the problem arises).Turn it over to a skilled professional, it will be complicated and long lasting process. Despite your best intentions, your role is to stay supportive. She can overcome it only by herself. It hard enough for bulimics even to admit it and start the treatment.
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