I am a 22 year old female that has been with the same guy for almost 4 yrs. I can't seem to cum. I come really close to it and then its like it gets stuck and comes out later..... any ideas?
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Are you able to have an orgasm via masturbation?
See, some of us women need more direct clitoral stimulation either by using our hand or fingers on ourself OR by our partner using his hand of fingers. Also you can sometimes gain better clitoral stimulation through positions.
I also want to make sure I also assure you that there is nothing wrong with you or your partner. Believe me I have been there before early in our relationship.
Communication helped a ton. It helps to be able to discuss it and try to make it happen. First by direct stimulation allowing you to become fully comfortable climaxing with him and because of him and then try to find a position or combination of positions to get you there. Communication and being comfortable with your body and with your partner is the most important. Relax and allow your body to just go with it. It does take practice.
I can tell you I was with my now hubby for over 4 years before I climaxed with him and because of him and it took alot of work to be comfortable with that even though we had been together for a very long time. It brings an entire different depth and facet to your relationship.
Good LUck, I do hope some of this has helped you at least alittle.
See, some of us women need more direct clitoral stimulation either by using our hand or fingers on ourself OR by our partner using his hand of fingers. Also you can sometimes gain better clitoral stimulation through positions.
I also want to make sure I also assure you that there is nothing wrong with you or your partner. Believe me I have been there before early in our relationship.
Communication helped a ton. It helps to be able to discuss it and try to make it happen. First by direct stimulation allowing you to become fully comfortable climaxing with him and because of him and then try to find a position or combination of positions to get you there. Communication and being comfortable with your body and with your partner is the most important. Relax and allow your body to just go with it. It does take practice.
I can tell you I was with my now hubby for over 4 years before I climaxed with him and because of him and it took alot of work to be comfortable with that even though we had been together for a very long time. It brings an entire different depth and facet to your relationship.
Good LUck, I do hope some of this has helped you at least alittle.
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Good advice, daisy33loca. All I would add is to recommend Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women, by Julia Heiman, et al. If you aren't able to make any progress on your own, don't be afraid to contact a sex therapist for help. Good luck!
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