I have very little/ no feeling at all during sex - this is my first partner. My partner enjoys it a lot but is upset that I feel nothing. No pain, just nothing. I can feel contact just about, but nothing that would get me aroused, which is awful as before we start sex I am very aroused, and after it I can be stimulated by him no problem. I'm wondering what I can do or where to start. I guess I'm wondering if it's possible it could be physical, since our communication together is great and we have no issues between us.
Any ideas?
Any ideas?
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It could possibly be physical, but doubt it. have you tried breathing deeply and thinking about your partner? that usually helps people with that problem, thinking about having an orgasm on the other had can cause anxiety and pressure on yourself, and guaranteed you will never reach that satisfaction. the are loads of techniques if you google it. im sure its nothing, do not stress, and neither should your partner sometimes these things just take time.
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Being comfortable is the biggest thing, both with yourself and your partner.
Another suggestion is kegels. Flexing the Pelvic floor muscels to help strengthen your vagina and muscels so then you can tighten up around him bringing both of you more sensations. It helpped me a ton!
ALso it is not rare to find it nearly impossible to have an orgasm by vaginal intercourse alone, so some clitoral play may be needed. Also try a variety of positions, and also styles like deep, shallow, fast or slow.
I have found beeing ontop gets the deepest penetration and I get to control it all, doing the splits on him while he is laying down, gives the deepest we have ever gotten. Also you can try sissoring, or with a modified missionary with his using a wall to push off of and you with your bum right against his knees when he is kneeling, then once you open up for him he can really give it to you.
But for me, there is no way to climax except for direct clitoral stimulation eith by hand or mouth, but mouth is my fave.
I also read on this site somewhere that excessive moisture can inhibit the feeling, not sure if that applies with you, but keep it in mind.
In closing, talk to your partner, communication can be a wonderful thing and with extra forplay and tenderness to get you relaxed you can get the feelings. Do not forget to try kegels for a few weeks and you shloud see or rather feel the differrence and you can do kegels anywhere and everywhere and no one will know!
Good luck!
Another suggestion is kegels. Flexing the Pelvic floor muscels to help strengthen your vagina and muscels so then you can tighten up around him bringing both of you more sensations. It helpped me a ton!
ALso it is not rare to find it nearly impossible to have an orgasm by vaginal intercourse alone, so some clitoral play may be needed. Also try a variety of positions, and also styles like deep, shallow, fast or slow.
I have found beeing ontop gets the deepest penetration and I get to control it all, doing the splits on him while he is laying down, gives the deepest we have ever gotten. Also you can try sissoring, or with a modified missionary with his using a wall to push off of and you with your bum right against his knees when he is kneeling, then once you open up for him he can really give it to you.
But for me, there is no way to climax except for direct clitoral stimulation eith by hand or mouth, but mouth is my fave.
I also read on this site somewhere that excessive moisture can inhibit the feeling, not sure if that applies with you, but keep it in mind.
In closing, talk to your partner, communication can be a wonderful thing and with extra forplay and tenderness to get you relaxed you can get the feelings. Do not forget to try kegels for a few weeks and you shloud see or rather feel the differrence and you can do kegels anywhere and everywhere and no one will know!
Good luck!
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