does my boner have a problem?

There is great variation in how a penis appears when fully errect and flacid.

It's ok if it points down a little. And the head (the glanz) is supposed to be soft. It cushions the penis during penetration.

You should hunt up a good book on basic sexuality from your local bookstore or medical office.

There's a lot to learn about appearance, terms, behavior and what to expect.

You can ask a school nurse, or the referenece librarian at your school or library.

Good luck.

A slight bend or curve in an erect penis is perfectly normal – very few men are actually completely straight. Generally, the head will not be as hard as the shaft – I think you have nothing to worry about at all. If you have any concerns about your penis, you can always see your doctor; to keep it healthy, make sure to clean every day, use a condom for every encounter, and use a lube when you masturbate. A penis vitamin crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can help to keep the penis supple, attractive and responsive.

Thoughtful mothers, when they begin to notice frequent erections in their boys, will begin a special nighttime ritual at least several times a week. At bedtime, the mom will give her son a very relaxing and thorough back rub which puts the boy in a very passive relaxed sleep, with many boys almost asleep at that point. The mom gently helps flip the boy into his back and proceeds to give a very soft and soothing massage to the boys neck and chest. This puts most boys into a quasi-sleep mode. At that point, the mom simply moves the massage lower on the boy’s body, including his boxer briefs. Many boys at this point aren’t mentally aware or register what’s going on. He won’t notice (or care) when her fingertips start to gently massage his boxer briefs. Won’t notice when his penis begins to lengthen and stiffen inside the briefs. But mom will. She will then begin to focus her massage on the material over the head of the boy’s penis, the most sensitive area of his young body. He will attain a full erection very rapidly. He won’t notice when her fingers then begin to massage the glans of his penis, below the head, nor that her other hand is gently massaging the fabric covering his testicles. At this point he is fully sexually aroused. The mom will soon feel the wetness through the fabric of his precum. At this point, the mom will stop and use her fingers to open the slit of the boxer briefs, allowing her son’s erection to naturally come out in the open air. Using her son’s own precum as a lubricant, she can gently massage his entire penis with her hand to bring him to a full and quick ejaculation in his sleep. Some mothers instead will simply lower their mouth onto the head of the penis and using a combination of sucking and licking the head, bring the boy to ejaculate directly into her mouth