Im not so experienced with sex, only had it like 10-15 times in the past 2 years... In the beginning it was hard not to cum too early, but i believe it was only a matter of getting used to it. Now I dont have that problem anymore.
The problem now is that I cant get my penis hard enough for it to penetrate the girl right. I dont cum so easily since i usually have a long foreplay, and can handle oral sex and masturbation (by her) without a problem (so long she doesnt play with it too fast). When we begin my penis is normally hard, but then i give her oral sex for 10-15 min (until she comes) and while im giving her oral sex, my penis gets soft, or at least mid-hard.
But then when i try to get it up so we can begin penetration, i cant. She normally gives me oral sex and masturbation until its kind of hard, but when i put on the condom, it gets soft in a few minutes. And if i try to masturbate to get it up, i feel like ejaculating before it gets hard enough.
However when i masturbate alone (1 or 2 times a week), i can get a normal erection that lasts even after i ejaculate...
Dont know what the problem can be here... am i masturbating too little? I dont know if its in my head, because i feel very comfortable with my partner - the last time, for example, i slept in her apartment for 2 days and we were pretty intimate. Besides she is really attractive, so its not like i dont have desire.
thanks for the help!
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"problem" continues , you should definelty look into it.Worst case senario:You have to take a medicine comonly known as viagra or something similar,so you can get an erection.
I hope this post was helpful to you,and i wosh you luck.
Ps:you should stop masturbating too often..after all,you want to get used to getting an erection WHILE with a parnter ,not own your own.Right?
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1. Let this be the last time you are reading/ talking about your problem of losing/ not getting erection. Stop trying to convince yourself that there is no problem.
2. Good news: I am alright now, and there is no problem. I spent about three months meeting psychiatrists (one of them was an exceptional guide, and has practically saved my life. What I write here is based on his guidance to me), watching useless documentaries (that told me that ‘inability to achieve or maintain an erection is impotence. There is nothing else called impotence’), reading about medication, and reading all sorts of BS (e.g., porn and masturbation causes this problem - this belief can be ULTIMATE c**p, ref. point 4 here) that only scared me further.
3. This post of mine is a definitive guide to the way out of this situation. Solving this problem has been a philosophical journey because of everything (social image, self-respect etc.) associated with a man’s erection.
4. Anything you believe affects your erection, does so. (Proof is all ridiculous and outrageous recipes to ‘boosters’).Accepting all feelings (fear of impotence, fear of your wife/ girlfriend leaving you, the weakness in extremities, the chest pain, etc.) is the best way out (proof is someone posting somewhere that he stopped losing erections when he believed he will be alright even without an erection.)
5. How to accept something even though we KNOW it is unacceptable: when the thought/ feeling comes, feel and live it completely. Sense how it feels in your toes, fingers, eyelids, between your eyebrows, in your back, etc. Meditation in this case was for me to sense my thoughts and my breath in all parts of my body.This ‘sensing’/ ‘feeling’ completely works even when you are in the middle of having/ trying to have sex.
6. With practice of being aware of your thoughts and your body, you will see that the fear and all negative feelings are indeed of a fleeting nature (in fact ALL feelings are fleeting - we should just choose to hook on to the positive ones, and wait out the negative ones), and you will definitely get an erection.
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dude I was on the same train and I just really need to up vote what you said...this is the first time I see the proper solution for all off you who face the same problem just go for it and accept what you feel you will not fail but even if you do dont give up go for it again you will get on your horses soon ;)
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