HI,
My healthy 25 year old fieance have been taking depo provera on and off for the past 6 years or so.
She does not have any other ongoing health issues or problems (not diabetic or any other chronic disorders). She is overweight.
She has had a couple check up's with the gyno, invlucing whatever testing that the insurance was willing to cover.
Basically the problem is that when we have sex, she says that in general nothing feels good that I do. I am tried touching her in many different ways, as well as using a small vibrator. Some times she will say the vibrator is working and feeling really good, but then she says it starts feeling sore and that she has lost it and there is no way she is going to climax now. She does not masterbate.
It is very frustrating for me not to be able to have intimate relations with her that she enjoys. I know it is frustrating for her as well. I know she want sex to feel good together, but it does not feel good or only feels good a little bit.
We have a fun, active life together, we are both highly commitied to eachotherand have spent almost 6 years together. I suppose it could be some kind of emotional issue,but it is not something that I can see, since we are happy and well connected. The problem is just that she does not get the positive physical feelins from intimate relations or from intercorse.
Any ideas what we can try? Due to her insurance situation, I do not think we are going to get her insurance to cover any more testing than what they have already done, and thoses tests were normal.
Thanks for any suggestions or idea. ?
jamie
My healthy 25 year old fieance have been taking depo provera on and off for the past 6 years or so.
She does not have any other ongoing health issues or problems (not diabetic or any other chronic disorders). She is overweight.
She has had a couple check up's with the gyno, invlucing whatever testing that the insurance was willing to cover.
Basically the problem is that when we have sex, she says that in general nothing feels good that I do. I am tried touching her in many different ways, as well as using a small vibrator. Some times she will say the vibrator is working and feeling really good, but then she says it starts feeling sore and that she has lost it and there is no way she is going to climax now. She does not masterbate.
It is very frustrating for me not to be able to have intimate relations with her that she enjoys. I know it is frustrating for her as well. I know she want sex to feel good together, but it does not feel good or only feels good a little bit.
We have a fun, active life together, we are both highly commitied to eachotherand have spent almost 6 years together. I suppose it could be some kind of emotional issue,but it is not something that I can see, since we are happy and well connected. The problem is just that she does not get the positive physical feelins from intimate relations or from intercorse.
Any ideas what we can try? Due to her insurance situation, I do not think we are going to get her insurance to cover any more testing than what they have already done, and thoses tests were normal.
Thanks for any suggestions or idea. ?
jamie
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Please don't be too concerned about this issue it's quite common for women not to climax during sexual intercourse and the clitoris is a very sensitive area of the body, over stimulation can cause it to go numb and persistant use of a vibrator will definately cause this.
Sex has never felt good for me, in fact i find it down right boring. It quite literally feels like nothing. I dislike oral sex as well. There is also nothing physically wrong with me, i am young, in excellent shape, work out frequently and am very physically attracted to my partner.
I have probably orgasmed 3 times during the course of our long term relationship during sex, never during oral sex. I would encourage your partner to adopt a method of self stimulation, most women prefer laying on their belly while massaging their clitoris. You can penetrate her from behind, but be careful not to thrust too hard otherwise you can make it difficult for her to keep aroused as she will find it impossible to stay in control of her actions when she's being buffeted back and forth.
I know personally this is the only way i can achieve an orgasm during sex and alot of other factors help to assist in the process. Hearing my partner enjoying me etc. being vocal may help stimulate your partners brain and emotional arousal for a women is vital to achieveing an orgasm.
Hope this helps.
Sex has never felt good for me, in fact i find it down right boring. It quite literally feels like nothing. I dislike oral sex as well. There is also nothing physically wrong with me, i am young, in excellent shape, work out frequently and am very physically attracted to my partner.
I have probably orgasmed 3 times during the course of our long term relationship during sex, never during oral sex. I would encourage your partner to adopt a method of self stimulation, most women prefer laying on their belly while massaging their clitoris. You can penetrate her from behind, but be careful not to thrust too hard otherwise you can make it difficult for her to keep aroused as she will find it impossible to stay in control of her actions when she's being buffeted back and forth.
I know personally this is the only way i can achieve an orgasm during sex and alot of other factors help to assist in the process. Hearing my partner enjoying me etc. being vocal may help stimulate your partners brain and emotional arousal for a women is vital to achieveing an orgasm.
Hope this helps.
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If nothing feels good, that is an issue. Not being able to reach climax but generally enjoying sex other than that might be due to all kinds of things, and the female climax is nice but not essential to having satisfying sex every single time. If nothing feels good at all but the doc says everything is OK physically (after doing a proper checkup), it's likely that something else is going on.
Genital arousal disorder is one possibility. This can also be caused by a hormonal imbalance, so I don't know, I'd check out other forms of birth control. It can be psychological too. A sex therapist can help with that.
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i have had sex for over two years now and it still does NOT feel good to me. i just lay there while my boyfriend gets all the pleasure. it really sucks i just wish it wouls feel good for me too. All i really feel is a lot of pain at first and then nothing. no pain or pleasure. it sucks... ? ? ?
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Erectile dysfunction is the incapacity to achieve or maintain an erection for a dependable period of time. For an erection to arise, the male genital needs both an adequate inflow of blood and a slowing of blood steady flow. Various disorders, diseases and causes can create a scenario for helplessness but here is a general list for those who suffer from an erectile dysfunction.
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