I was married for 16 years and sex was very limited just about none at all, now i am divorced and with my new girlfriend we have sex every nite for the last 3 weeks, i am at a point now were i am having problems ejaculating or not at all, what is wrong with me??? she is a wonderful woman and i dont want her feeling like its her fault when it most certainly is not, can someone help me??
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Hi dtown! You would be surprised how often the problem you mention is. At least take comfort that you are not alone with this problem. First of all, are you taking any medication for depression or anxiety? These types of medications, especially those labels SSRI's are notorious for delayed ejaculation as a side effect. If you are not, anxiety (without treatment) can also lead to the problem. If you don't have the issue when you masturbate, it's likely to be a stress issue. Counseling from the right kind of therapist can help you with this problem but you could also "use" your new girlfriend, since you say that she is a wonderful woman, talk to her, explain her the "problem" (though I think there is no problem) try to connect better emotionally and that should do the thing. All the best to you!