Hi there,
i'm just stuck. my husband has been pressurin gme a lot lately for sex and as i suffer from depression i don't always want to do it.
when i do give in to him(yes i know that sounds awful), it's just a quickie. He just takes my pants off and goes for it.
Sex lately has become painful too as he likes it from behind, and as i'm not aroused enough it hurts me a lot.
I suppose what i really need is help on how to arouse myself quickly enough to make sex less painful. The reason i seek this solution instead of placing the blame on him is becasue it's not his fault. He tries to perform oral sex on me but i refuse him because he always just wants to go in for the kill and forgets that there are other parts of my body. i've tried to explain but he just takes this to mean... nipples.
So it's my communication skills that aren't up to scratch...so please, help on how to arouse myself quickly would be great.
i'm just stuck. my husband has been pressurin gme a lot lately for sex and as i suffer from depression i don't always want to do it.
when i do give in to him(yes i know that sounds awful), it's just a quickie. He just takes my pants off and goes for it.
Sex lately has become painful too as he likes it from behind, and as i'm not aroused enough it hurts me a lot.
I suppose what i really need is help on how to arouse myself quickly enough to make sex less painful. The reason i seek this solution instead of placing the blame on him is becasue it's not his fault. He tries to perform oral sex on me but i refuse him because he always just wants to go in for the kill and forgets that there are other parts of my body. i've tried to explain but he just takes this to mean... nipples.
So it's my communication skills that aren't up to scratch...so please, help on how to arouse myself quickly would be great.
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For Starters, I'd like to that you need to take some responsibility in yourself. If you don't want sex. You simply don't have to do it. He should be supporting you in everyway. He should respect your decision if he truly loves you.
But, you could use some lubricant? like KY Jelly.. x
But, you could use some lubricant? like KY Jelly.. x
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True Touch...but, as a married women you do have to give your husband some lovin, even if it's a couple times a week. If you are depressed enough to the point where you just can not respond to him, you really should seek out some counseling. Or...
You be the aggressor. Have a few glasses of vino, then go for it. You make the first move on him for a change. If he doesn't get the oral part of it, sit on his face, kind of make him do it. While you are taking the mustache ride, tweak your own nipples, this heightens the sensation for you. Reach behind you and play with his penis and his boys, this will help turn him on. Allow yourself to get off orally first. Slide down on him and suck on his nipples (if he lets you) then straddle his penis and rub it around your clit, you will start to get aroused again. Return the favor and pleasure him a little with your lips and tongue. You can play with yourself a little while doing this to him. Sit on his penis and rub the head around your clitoris just until you feel that you are going to cum, then put him inside of you and bring it home.
You do not need to communicate with him with your voice, your body can do all the talking for you. You don't need to get yourself stimulated, just thinking of how you can pretty much "attack" your man should start your juices to flow. Don't be embarrassed either. Once you do this, he won't know what hit him, then i bet your sex life will improve. You be the one in control, you direct him. There are so many other delicious ideas, you'll never want to get out of bed. Have fun and let us know how it goes. If that doesn't work i have many more ideas in my little bag of tricks, silly rabbit. ;-)
You be the aggressor. Have a few glasses of vino, then go for it. You make the first move on him for a change. If he doesn't get the oral part of it, sit on his face, kind of make him do it. While you are taking the mustache ride, tweak your own nipples, this heightens the sensation for you. Reach behind you and play with his penis and his boys, this will help turn him on. Allow yourself to get off orally first. Slide down on him and suck on his nipples (if he lets you) then straddle his penis and rub it around your clit, you will start to get aroused again. Return the favor and pleasure him a little with your lips and tongue. You can play with yourself a little while doing this to him. Sit on his penis and rub the head around your clitoris just until you feel that you are going to cum, then put him inside of you and bring it home.
You do not need to communicate with him with your voice, your body can do all the talking for you. You don't need to get yourself stimulated, just thinking of how you can pretty much "attack" your man should start your juices to flow. Don't be embarrassed either. Once you do this, he won't know what hit him, then i bet your sex life will improve. You be the one in control, you direct him. There are so many other delicious ideas, you'll never want to get out of bed. Have fun and let us know how it goes. If that doesn't work i have many more ideas in my little bag of tricks, silly rabbit. ;-)
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bbfeet, thank you so much.
we had sex last night, and today when i got back from work. and now i'm pretty pissed off that he didn't care what i wanted...i have the feeling that tonight he may be attacked! grr!
feeling pretty frustrated, but am taking your advice.
we had sex last night, and today when i got back from work. and now i'm pretty pissed off that he didn't care what i wanted...i have the feeling that tonight he may be attacked! grr!
feeling pretty frustrated, but am taking your advice.
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Ya girl, sometimes frustrated angry sex can be real good, especially if you didn't get yours, (if ya know what i mean) Dig your heels in and take what you want. Yummy........
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