My boyfriend and I both lost our virginity to each other and we have been have sex for 3 years.
Our last year has been very boring. I don't enjoy sex as much as I should I guess. I start on top and when he slips in it hurts. He doesn't like foreplay, calls it a waste of time; yet he wasn't saying that a few years ago. He's just faded out of it, or I spoiled him. . . I dont know.
So I usually wet his penis with my mouth and er. . . get on. I think that I'm decently wet, but I dont have that excitement I used to. It's like when he goes in it feels like my skin is stretching and it gives a hard pinching feeling.
And I never feel satisfied because my vagina cant take much more and I tell him I'm done so he finishes.
What is wrong?! why does it pinch and hurt like that.
Our last year has been very boring. I don't enjoy sex as much as I should I guess. I start on top and when he slips in it hurts. He doesn't like foreplay, calls it a waste of time; yet he wasn't saying that a few years ago. He's just faded out of it, or I spoiled him. . . I dont know.
So I usually wet his penis with my mouth and er. . . get on. I think that I'm decently wet, but I dont have that excitement I used to. It's like when he goes in it feels like my skin is stretching and it gives a hard pinching feeling.
And I never feel satisfied because my vagina cant take much more and I tell him I'm done so he finishes.
What is wrong?! why does it pinch and hurt like that.
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Because you stopped doing foreplay! It's one thing to "wet his penis with your mouth" as you say, than being turned on by foreplay.
Do you think he would go for giving you Oral sex?
Do you think he would go for giving you Oral sex?
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It probably hurts cause you are not aroused. when aroused the vagina begins to lubricate itself and it also stretches on the inside for the penis to enter. If you just get on willy-nilly it's going to hurt. Tell him to get with the foreplay or you cut off sex completely. no need for you to hurt yourself to please him.
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Both women above are correct.
Women are turned on by stroking, holding, cuddling, and feeling loved.
This takes time. To skip this is to guarentee an end to the relationship, sooner or later.
If you allow a guy to skip foreplay, he may be able to go from 0 to 60 in ten seconds flat, but most women can't. If it hurts, don't do it. If you're done, then he should stop. To allow him to go on, or to finish at your expense is counterproductive. It teaches him that your feelings are not important and that his satisfaction is everything. That's not a good lesson to teach.
You might tell him that you want to practice foreplay without going all the way for a change. Make sure he understands that this particular time, he's to see how wet he can get you, but that it WON'T lead to sex or his climax.
Tell him that you want to revisit those early feelings, and that sex will be so much better for him when he takes his time. If he's caring about you at all, he should get the message that it's in his interest too to allow you time and attention to "get in the mood."
Good luck.
Let us know what happens. ;-)
Women are turned on by stroking, holding, cuddling, and feeling loved.
This takes time. To skip this is to guarentee an end to the relationship, sooner or later.
If you allow a guy to skip foreplay, he may be able to go from 0 to 60 in ten seconds flat, but most women can't. If it hurts, don't do it. If you're done, then he should stop. To allow him to go on, or to finish at your expense is counterproductive. It teaches him that your feelings are not important and that his satisfaction is everything. That's not a good lesson to teach.
You might tell him that you want to practice foreplay without going all the way for a change. Make sure he understands that this particular time, he's to see how wet he can get you, but that it WON'T lead to sex or his climax.
Tell him that you want to revisit those early feelings, and that sex will be so much better for him when he takes his time. If he's caring about you at all, he should get the message that it's in his interest too to allow you time and attention to "get in the mood."
Good luck.
Let us know what happens. ;-)
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Kirk C wrote:
What makes you say that...not saying you wrong...or right...
Both women above are correct.
What makes you say that...not saying you wrong...or right...
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I think both women were making the point that sex is/was more painful due to a lack of lube... which is supported or encouraged by foreplay.
That's all. :$
That's all. :$
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Most of the posts above are right on target. Just because your partners wet and ready doesnt mean you are. Trying new techniques to get you aroused may help to be less painful. When you just "get right to it" you may be too tight in order to get any pleasure. Oral sex first may help you to get more aroused. Altogether you both need to be turned on before performing sexual activities :D
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