I've been dating this guy for only a month and we're both very attracted to each other. I usually don't have sex with a guy until we have the label of boyfriend girlfriend, so this is unusual for me. We always say we're going to take it slow but then we get lost in the moment and it results in sex. I've only been with three other partners in the past.
This current guy gets frustrated and upset that I don't orgasm during penetration. I told him straight from the beginning that I have never experienced an orgasm during sex before and I don't think I ever will. It takes a specific way for me to orgasm from masturbation (tension orgasming). He has been arguing with me recently that he will be able to make me orgasm because he made the previous girl(s) orgasm during sex. I told him my opinion that they probably faked it since most women do not, but I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He keeps saying "if only i had a bigger penis" and I told him, the size would not matter in terms of giving me an orgasm (i've had bigger than him and never orgasmed from penetration then either though I didn't tell him that).
Anyway, it's starting to make me feel bad about myself. I keep searching online for other ways to orgasm during sex and I even brought up the topic of using a vibrator during sex which he didn't like. He got offended by the suggestion. Him getting frustrated and feeling less of a man makes me feel bad about myself. But what really irks me is that he claims he knows so much about sex but he has never researched about women orgasms or anything that I tell him about. He continues to insist that I am just abnormal and he will make it happen eventually. I asked him if he wouldn't want to date me if he won't be able to give me an orgasm during sex and he said he would want to date me still but that he'd probably develop a complex.
I'm not even official with this guy yet. We just had an argument about this over the phone and I was supposed to see him today but he hasn't called back yet. Should I keep going with him?
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Why do you feel it's your job to orgasm FOR him?
Isn't he the one who claims he always made others orgasm during penetration?
Just lie back and tell him to get going, you're waiting!!!!!!!!!!!
None of this bigger penis stuff, he made the claim.8-|
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well-is he small?im sorry-IT AINT FUNNY but he already got a complex.you and i are grown women and we can communicate liek grown women.HIS COMPLEX SOUNDS LIKE THE LITTLE PENIS COMPLEX AND ITS STUPID.i think you should not waste your time on this man. the fact that he uses the excuse he needs a bigger penis is a BIG RED FLAG to me.why is his 'recollection' of yalls intimacy focused on whether ou orgasm or not?!!that doesnt even make sense to me BUT my ex boyfriend blames me and says ,"i wish you could cum; ill never make you cum;you need a bigger **** dont you?" honestly after all the manipulating and deceiving to hide his small size im convinced mine will never change.not tomention all the accusing,speculating and creating scenarios of me cheating damn near drove me insane.save yourself a lot of stress and move on bc he just showed you a part of his complex and ITS A BIG COMPLEX THESE MEN HAVE.search on here and you will see how frustrated they are.
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