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Anyway, hello everyone! I am 22, female, and am not sexually active.. but I would like to be. When ever I date a guy or girl, I think about having sex with them but I always shy away. I'm always afraid of the 'what ifs' and have been raised pretty much without sexual guidance but I know my parents frown upon it. I have my own place at the moment, and a boyfriend, and I want to know how to be ready for sex. It actually kind of frightens me (well, sex doesn't frighten me but trusting someone with my body does). Does anyone have any advice? I'm pretty sure I know to use condoms (I am still in college so a child is out of the question), and to make sure he's clean.
Anyway, hello everyone! I am 22, female, and am not sexually active.. but I would like to be. When ever I date a guy or girl, I think about having sex with them but I always shy away. I'm always afraid of the 'what ifs' and have been raised pretty much without sexual guidance but I know my parents frown upon it. I have my own place at the moment, and a boyfriend, and I want to know how to be ready for sex. It actually kind of frightens me (well, sex doesn't frighten me but trusting someone with my body does). Does anyone have any advice? I'm pretty sure I know to use condoms (I am still in college so a child is out of the question), and to make sure he's clean.
Hi. Good questions....
I assume from your post that you were NEVER sexually active - correct? Do you masturbate? I believe that is a pretty important activity as it tells YOU about your body - what you like, what you don't like, and how YOU can get the most pleasure. If YOU don't know these things it will be very hard for your partner to know!
Next - what 'what ifs' are you afraid of? Let us know so we can address them individually!
Condoms - there are several 'how-to' videos online actually that can reassure you so that you are comfortable with putting a condom on. There is nothing wrong with buying a pack as 'practicing' on something either.
I'm sure it seems like a pretty big step to take. I think the overall most important things is to know that you are ready - AND that he is the person you want it to be with!
Good luck to you!
I assume from your post that you were NEVER sexually active - correct? Do you masturbate? I believe that is a pretty important activity as it tells YOU about your body - what you like, what you don't like, and how YOU can get the most pleasure. If YOU don't know these things it will be very hard for your partner to know!
Next - what 'what ifs' are you afraid of? Let us know so we can address them individually!
Condoms - there are several 'how-to' videos online actually that can reassure you so that you are comfortable with putting a condom on. There is nothing wrong with buying a pack as 'practicing' on something either.
I'm sure it seems like a pretty big step to take. I think the overall most important things is to know that you are ready - AND that he is the person you want it to be with!
Good luck to you!