help still a virgin at 17 and never been kissed

im 15 male and im still a virgin and ive just started a new school where everyone is having sex but i just figure thats good for them because im not ready

That's good, you're supposed to be a virgin. You're just a kid. It wasn't that long ago that you were on the monkey bars.

No one who lost their virginity as a teenager looks back on the experience with fond memories. It's two pimple-faced kids with braces and no experience humping each other on a school night. It's not good.

Hunny, I thought id show an article that puts virginity in context, it does'nt matter what age you are, virginity is'nt even valid in the modern world! Take a nose

https://www.steadyhealth.com/articles/article.php?mode=view&hpr=Magical_Cups_and_Bloody_Brides__Virginity_in_context_&article_id=370&forum_id=0

love always kee

You know what? When you start having sex doesn't matter- only how.

I'm 25, and I remember feeling a tremendous amount of pressure to have sex in my teens. I decided to wait, because I wasn't ready (I wanted to remain a kid for as long as I could...I still do!!). But around age 17, I started feeling like a freak, because I hadn't had sex. I felt like when I did have sex, it would be really obvious that I didn't have experience, and that my partner would laugh at me. But I still wasn't ready to have sex- I was still afraid.

When I got to university at age 18, I felt like a total outcast because of my virginity. But I had also started to feel like maybe I was waiting for a reason. When I was 20, I had sex for the first time, and let me tell you- I AM SOOOOOO GLAD THAT I WAITED!!!! By the time I had sex, I was totally comfortable with my body and with my self, and I had a partner who I really genuinely wanted to have sex with- I wasn't having sex just to have sex, I was having sex, because it's a wonderful adventure two people can take together. I told my first partner that I had no experience, and he didn't mind at all. He was careful with me, and because of this, my first time was not only painless, it was also very instructive. I'm now five years into an active sex life, and I can assure you wholeheartedly: when you start doesn't matter!!

I look back now, and it makes me angry how I was made to feel about myself growing up- there is SO much pressure to be sexual at an early age. And it's true- for some people, becoming sexual when still young works well. But so many other people only do it, because they think that they have to. YOU DON'T HAVE TO. You need to care for yourself and love yourself. And one of the best ways, is to never rush yourself. Take as much time as you need to come to the choice to become sexual. Don't beat yourself up over what your peer groups and what television and magazines tell us we should be doing- it's not real. AND, if you have decided that you are ready, but haven't yet found a partner for your explorations, don't worry- you will find one, or many...when the time is right. You are 17. You have SO many more years to look ahead to. There is no need to rush the shortest time in your life.

Peace,
Kat

Good advice. In the teen years, you are growing and changing so fast that when you're 18 you're going to look back at yourself at 17 and say, "man, I was so stupid. I wouldn't have lasted 10 seconds in sex." And when you're 19, you'll look at pictures of yourself when you were 18 and say, "wow, I am in much better shape now. Thank God I didn't have sex with anyone back then. Plus I had braces, that could have made for some awkward oral situations."

I'm 18, very close to 19, and have gone through my first year in COLLEGE...and still remain a virgin and never been kissed!

Now, I'm not ugly, not at all actually. Nor do I have a bad personality, I get along with people just fine 'n dandy.

But trust me, once you hit college the pressure -really starts to build up-...

Just do what your soul, mind, and spirit feel you need to do. But don't waste such glorious first experiences on something(one) so idiotic.

im 16 nearly 17 and still a virgin and not even been kissed also i been hugged, i have female friends but i feel im not ready yet maybe another few years, all my mates saying they got head off w/e... im not ready yet :-(

dude, im assuming. im 17 still a virgin and i've gotten over it. so what if all the cool kidz are doing it. the cool kidz are also gonna wind up 23 years old with 4 kids and a job under $8.00 an hour. KEEP YOUR MIND FOCUSED ON YOUR FUTURE AND NOT YOUR "SHABOINGABOING" if u catch my drift. YOUR TIME WILL COME YOUNG GRASSHOPPER AND WHEN IT DOES YOU'LL KNOW ITS THE RIGHT TIME.

;-) trust me

Thank You

Oh come on... big deal! I think it's much better to be a virgin than to have sex with strangers or whatever. If one tryes to make you shy of being virgin, that's problablt coz he is trying to use you sexualy.
I don't realy agree with the modern american cultural view of virginity. It's not even healthy having sex in a very early age, thinking it's only a game. Think of this, what is the hymen about? It hurts in the first time huh? That's beacuse it warns you that is kinna serious behavior. You may get pregmant. It hurts yeah... you need someone who will be careful on puppyng your cheery. A good one woul'd be one who can give you some love. And so you will always remember the first time as a nice memory. It's better than having sex with someone who uses you you know. It's normal to be virgin and there's nothing to be ashamed of not kissing one yet. There's a wise word. It's better to be alone than being in a bad friendship. So it is wise if you'll be careful girl ;-) ... it's a good idea to associate the evolutionar theory with the hymen. The female shall choose. And btw there are also many cultures who value virginity a lot. Some won't even agree taking unvirgin wives lol.
Good luck!

I'm seventeen, all my friends are no longer virgins (except me) and one other..who has a bf and will probably soon be leaving me as the only one. I'm not gonna say I'm all fine and cool with it, I feel like you too. I am the lucky one who gets to sit at the table and hear about their 'colourful' weekends with their boyfriends and then how much they already miss them and then they all go onto talking about sexual acts, all whilst I sit there wondering how i'll ever be confident enough to even kiss someone!!

But I guess waiting, rather than finding a random hook up and regretting it, is better. You just have to keep telling yourself that when you find someone who you can really care about all the worries you have now will probably seem laughable..

So, just remember to enjoy the last few years of not needing to act completely as an adult. Don't get so caught up on something that you forget to have fun! Sex is just sex. Nothing more, nothing less. It's just another part of life, and sooner or later it'll happen. Maybe later is better. Who knows.. But it's not as huge as everyone/thing makes it seem (so I've been told).

When the time for these things do come, you'll be more than ready.

But for now, just enjoy life!

=)

You guys are so funny. I'm living in Iran and in our country we don't even have a classmate from other sex. And it's fun to say it's most of our families don't feel alright with their son having a girl friend or their daughter a  boy friend. And having sex before marriage is illegal !!! And it's fun but true they kill homo's in our country.

You guys are really lucky that you at least have an opportunity to have a girlfriend. For example I myself am a 18 year old male and haven't had a girlfriend yet!!!!! 

Hi.should be very proud of yourself.then don t think ever that you re lonely.get a good plan for your future, educate yourself about how to choose a partner, marriage.because you will never get the love before.why, because love always after marriage.
If you choose not to stay virgin, some cowards will take advantage of you, especially one's u become without virginity you constantly need to have a partner for your desires and sexual drives.
Have a good education good degree then good job. You definitely will find a good hasband and partner.
If too many men frequently invited to make love with you, you ll loose the physical & moral beauty
Wish you the best

I'm 15 and still a virgin but I lost my chance to have my first kiss with the one I love.so keep your self clean till you find the that you truly love. And it's good to still be a (VIRGIN)!!!!

are you a girl or a boys