Alright.. I suppose I should explain so this doesn't sound like a bunch of random blabber.
My grandmother was in the hospital from New Year's Eve to the tenth of January. When she was finally brought home, I was assigned to live with her for a little while, make sure she gets her strength back, do her running for her, make sure her bills are paid and that she eats. So, y'know, I agreed to it. She's my granny and I love her, and I want her to get better.
However it is now over a month later. I have seen my apartment three times in the past month, only to do my laundry and take one day off from this per week. My granny is also better, to the point that she moves around on her own without problem, she remembers to take her medication on her own, and has actually started reminding me of her appointments and dinner time.
My grandma does not want me here. The way she even LOOKS at me, it's like she's asking me "Why are you even still here?". I'm prevented from being independent while I'm here. I can't get a job, I can't even LOOK for a job, because my luck the instant I get a hook on a job, that'll be the day that my dad decides on a house and tells me to get ready to move both me and grandma into it.
It's really, REALLY getting to me, because for one, my grandma who I'm giving up my life to take care of, doesn't give a [beep] that I'm here. And her son, my dad, can't make the time to come out on weekends to even give me a full weekend to get my head back on straight. He has nothing to do on the weekends, all he does is see his girlfriend for one day, and then sit in his chair and fall asleep. [I think he's narcoleptic but that's a topic for another day.]
>.< Help? I'm seriously at the breaking point... I can't deal with this.
My grandmother was in the hospital from New Year's Eve to the tenth of January. When she was finally brought home, I was assigned to live with her for a little while, make sure she gets her strength back, do her running for her, make sure her bills are paid and that she eats. So, y'know, I agreed to it. She's my granny and I love her, and I want her to get better.
However it is now over a month later. I have seen my apartment three times in the past month, only to do my laundry and take one day off from this per week. My granny is also better, to the point that she moves around on her own without problem, she remembers to take her medication on her own, and has actually started reminding me of her appointments and dinner time.
My grandma does not want me here. The way she even LOOKS at me, it's like she's asking me "Why are you even still here?". I'm prevented from being independent while I'm here. I can't get a job, I can't even LOOK for a job, because my luck the instant I get a hook on a job, that'll be the day that my dad decides on a house and tells me to get ready to move both me and grandma into it.
It's really, REALLY getting to me, because for one, my grandma who I'm giving up my life to take care of, doesn't give a [beep] that I'm here. And her son, my dad, can't make the time to come out on weekends to even give me a full weekend to get my head back on straight. He has nothing to do on the weekends, all he does is see his girlfriend for one day, and then sit in his chair and fall asleep. [I think he's narcoleptic but that's a topic for another day.]
>.< Help? I'm seriously at the breaking point... I can't deal with this.
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You don't sound like you're ranting. You make a very clear arguement that you need a break and that your Dad could help out.
Just who "assigned" you to stay with Grandma? That's the "authority" you need to lay this arguement out to.
If Grandma is getting around on her own, and she really doesn't need to be supervised, inform the other family members that you are setting up a rotating schedule for them to visit and check on her, and that it's THEIR TURN to shoulder some of this responsibility. Post the schedule, and let those other family members work out who will substitute for whom on which day, and then MOVE OUT.
Don't worry about your Dad finding a house. If you don't want this responsibility for the rest of Grandma's life, now is the time to declare your (and her) independence. Good luck.
Just who "assigned" you to stay with Grandma? That's the "authority" you need to lay this arguement out to.
If Grandma is getting around on her own, and she really doesn't need to be supervised, inform the other family members that you are setting up a rotating schedule for them to visit and check on her, and that it's THEIR TURN to shoulder some of this responsibility. Post the schedule, and let those other family members work out who will substitute for whom on which day, and then MOVE OUT.
Don't worry about your Dad finding a house. If you don't want this responsibility for the rest of Grandma's life, now is the time to declare your (and her) independence. Good luck.
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x.x Thanks for the reply.
The person that assigned me to live here was my dad, actually. I understood it for the first week or two - she was having a lot of problems with her mobility.
As far as other relatives checking in on here, I don't really think I can do that. During the week, my dad works afternoons, (3-11pm every day), and only has weekends free... As far as the other family, one aunt is in California, and her daughter is in Colorado I think. My uncle lives in Florida, but I think he's coming up for a visit soon, which means I might catch a break while he's here... Unfortunately that's not for sure. Also, the grandchildren from that son are in both Florida and the Dominican Republic, I think.
I'm going to try and see if my dad can't give up one of his weekends to come out to see granny... After all, I've given up quite a bit, I think his girlfriend will understand his needing to check on his mother for one day.
x.x Thanks for the luck. It's definitely appreciated.
The person that assigned me to live here was my dad, actually. I understood it for the first week or two - she was having a lot of problems with her mobility.
As far as other relatives checking in on here, I don't really think I can do that. During the week, my dad works afternoons, (3-11pm every day), and only has weekends free... As far as the other family, one aunt is in California, and her daughter is in Colorado I think. My uncle lives in Florida, but I think he's coming up for a visit soon, which means I might catch a break while he's here... Unfortunately that's not for sure. Also, the grandchildren from that son are in both Florida and the Dominican Republic, I think.
I'm going to try and see if my dad can't give up one of his weekends to come out to see granny... After all, I've given up quite a bit, I think his girlfriend will understand his needing to check on his mother for one day.
x.x Thanks for the luck. It's definitely appreciated.
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