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Ok so I've been talking to this kid for a few months and I kinda like him I guess...but he's a virgin. I'm not but I hav only had sex twice so I'm still new to it and it wasn't very good sex either. We hav been talkin a lot and he really wants to lose his virginity and I told him that he should b patient and wait for the right girl, he's almost in a way obsessed with me or in love he thinks. But my original question if I was to hav sex with him wat would b the best way becuz he's never touched a girl sexually not even made out wit a girl. I just want to kno wat I would do or if I should leave it up to him to make him feel powerful or something. Oh and he has a few mental disabilities that make him think a little different but that doesn't bother me. Anyways I told him to go online and look up stuff on how to please a girl and stuff but he refuses and says he will only get porn results, anyways help please or at least suggestions. P.S. we would use protection and I'm on the pill already

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Someone help please!
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You sound like a very considerate girl, which is nice.

Speaking as a man who had a rough start in the romance department, I have to tell you that boys can be the most fragile things in the world.  And, if a boy has a screwed up first experience, it will only make him feel anxious in his second, and a bad cycle can begin.  My advice would be to try to remove as many possible distractions and disturbances from the situation as possible.  Then, you have to try to make it as low pressure as possible.  Set up the right conditions, but then just let things happen as they happen.  If he stumbles, don't fret, don't make a big deal about it, and DON'T be the reassuring mother.  Just go back to kissing or whatever, and pretend you didn't notice.  If the time is right, things will work out. 

However, at a higher level, I'm a little worried to hear that he might love you, and you are not so serious.  That could be really bad.  The thing is this - if you like him "as a friend," and he wants you as a lover, that just won't work out.  You have three options:

1) Have a serious talk with him.  Tell him that you just don't feel that way with him, and that you'd like to be just friends.  This is most honest, but he will be crushed.  But, he'll get over it.

2) Take him through his first sexual experience, but then have the serious talk with him, and let him know that you were only trying to help.  This is less honest, but it could be helpful to the boy in the long run.  However, giving him a taste and then taking it away is sort of cruel.  He may still be crushed, in the end.  But, he'll get over it.

3) Just let your feelings take you where they will.  Maybe you'll fall in love with him... who knows.  But, if the fire just isn't there, just tell him that you don't feel it, and get him to find another girl.

 

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I am agee with you, the guy must be patient, How old is he?.. Probably he could be hurt phisically and emotionally.
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he is 19 and like i said he has a disease called nf type 1 so he is different but he feels like im his last chance and that im his only hope ive already had the talk with him that i only want to b friends i told him i was to busy to b in a relationship but he jus doesnt understand and then i feel like a horrible person when i tell him i like him as a friend only and i dont want the sex to b selfish on my end i havent really hung out wit him but we text a lot and video chat sometimes but im ao confused

i hav an account online for like meeting new ppl and stuff like for relationships and he is my friend on there. i put on there that i wanted a serious relationship and he got wicked upset saying stuff like i want a relationship jus not with him and i kinda loed and told him i didnt really mean it so idk i feel so mean to him bit its not my fault i dont loke him loke that right
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Alright, thanks for your answer, this is a very special case, I guess if you are agree with have sex to him, go ahead but be gentile with him please.
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You could tell him fine, but it'll only happen once, or just ignore him until he understands that your heart is rock-solid and he can't move it, but if you end up taking his virginity, you probably should do plenty of foreplay (sucking on tits, massaging, touchy-feely, kissing, ect.) and then guide him in when ya'll are ready to do it, perhaps guiding his hips by bucking into his thrusts, hope this helps ^ ^
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Strip him naked he might say stop before you take his underpants off in fear you might take the piss out of him for the size of his penis but if he dont sit on his penis he will get hard on his own if he goes inside you depending on his age he might cry his heart out apart from that you can use dildo on him up his bum to make him feel the way its done but when you do that you need to bend him over your knee as skin on skin will make it more easy when he 1st gets hard on but you will need to rub you hand on his bottom to make him feel safe and lets him know its only a dildo and not a real penis up his bare bottom
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That is really inconsiderate advice to give in this case. Also, it borders upon, if it actually isn't, assault.
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I feel like that’s basically rape if he starts crying his heart out... :/ um so don’t do that. Even though it feels good to do that but being raped doesn’t feel good for both genders. (Assuming their is only two genders)

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how can i help you???
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