i am struggling with love. i am with a girl, she is beautiful and i tell her this every chance i get. when its good its great and we have such a good time together. However, there are many times where she just doesnt appreciate the nice things i do or take into consideration certain things ive brought up that would make me feel loved such as a little text message to let me know she was thinking of me or a good morning message before she heads off to work. ive brought up these little things loads of times because the little things mean everything to me but she just gets all defensive and an argument ensues. I tell myself im going to end it with her but everytime i try, she turns it on me saying that my reasons are pathetic and im horrible for trying to end it. The reason i try to end it is more about trying to make her see that it will be over if she doesnt try a little harder. I dont actually want to finish with her, just to 'scare' hee, which i know is wrong. her personality changes so much...one minute she is all over me and full of energy and the next she is on a real downer and not giving me any attention or affection. i need help on how to deal with this because my heart is aching to the point where im actually questioning whether or not i've developed depression and its killing me :(