I black out almost everytime I drink. I am not an alcoholic.

If your all blanking out when drinking and going into dr jeckle and mr Hyde kind of thing. Not remembering what happened the night before. Lost your car can't find phone met some random and did things you wouldn't. It actually means your liver is damaged thats why you blank. Violence etc. My sister goes through this a bit. It's a imbalance in the liver or somewhere around those organs that's what causes it. Your liver may already be damaged by an underlying disease like lupus or another autoimmune. I'm defs not a doctor but I've just been through bowel cancer with my mother. She had lupus and rhumatiod arthritis which caused the cancer and (omg where am I going with this) that's right the cancer stemmed from the lupus she was already stage 4 terminal metastasis. Death certificate was handed to her at birth. Sorry ladies and gents but red hair fair skin and freckles. Your mutation very likely most likely to autoimmunes then cancer also dark skin people are gonna get it. anyways if you havent t already go get your billyrubens tested and vitamin D levels checked. My sisters billy Ruben is high and vital D low. She may have lupus already and it's speeding up the damage from the alcohol makes everything speed up. this may be the reason for black outs. You need 4 out of 11 symptomanto be lupus diagnosed. Look it up Michael Jackson had it got major heart attack. One trigger is meds. He took meds had a fatal flair and it gave him a clot in his leg to his heart. Pulmory embolism I bet it was. It effects your blood and other organs. So clots heart attacks pulmonary embolism etc maybe just check everything you can. A lot of people get lupus 90% women 10% men. ohh and reality check if you drink just once a week. But the point it you may have an auto immune that's already damaged your liver and that's why you can't drink you blank and next minute chaos. If your kidneys hurt that's another sign. I hope this is of use to anyone maybe it might help out someone or I'm just talking BS just have a look and do your own research make your mind up for yourself. But you don't want to get ascites from damaged liver and bile ducts not working all that stuff. For anyone not knowing what that is its bile flowing over into your system. They have to drain it the more they drain the quicker it fills. The quicker it fills the less they can do. Eventually pushes on your organs and airways and comatose state until death hits. Apparently it's aweful to go through. And it's 1-4 months life expectancy for most. Lupus also causes ascites. The way you die is one organ at a time. No bowel control can't move its traumatising to watch a family member or anyone I think get lifted from hospital bed and over to the toilet then lifted back again and into bed. I couldn't deal with it I left the room for 5. but again I hope maybe my jabbering c**p could spark a outsidebox thinking or just lead someone anyone to the right track to finding out why they can't drink. Maybe also allergic to alcohol.

Judgement and using the word "denial" doesn't help. You may not even be an alcoholic. I consider some of these answers to be gaslighting you. 

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Do a little more research before giving advice. It's most likely a alcohol related allergy compounded with a drop in blood pressure. Which accounts for it happening with different drinks and amounts, while having no memory of where she was. Alcohol allergy vs. Food allergies, one in the same. I've seen it first-hand.

Exactly! Great response. The less you know, the more u talk.

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i dont know who you are ..but you exactly described what i've been going through ..i'm a 36 year old male and to be honest i did start drinking when i turned 18 and since then its been a on and off this as in the original post i dont crave alcohol nor do i make plan for it, but just that even 2-3 small drinks are enough for me to wake up in my house with no recollcetion of what happned afterwards (perfectly described in the original post "from being tipsy, to waking up the next morning wondering what happened.") ..initially it started with something like 1 in 20 times but now it just happens anytime ..i dont drink and the only time i do its at a friends get to gather or office parties and even then im scared of this situation..earlier i used to ask my friends if i did anything stupid cus i dont remember nothing but they tell me i was normal even dropped some of them after the party, ate, danced no bumps or dents on my car perfectly parked ...so as per my understanding it triggers a split personality who gets me home safely but now when you said "you can shop, take a bus or do other normal things without others knowing about my blackout" ..i realized this is exactly what i've been dealing with ..i dont know its of any help but i thought i should share

Okay, I am 19 and have been having these blackouts since 16. I appreciate your comment soooo much!! Exactly.

Listen girl! I have the same problem!!! I started drinking at 15 im 27 now and when i drink I have it worse than you, I get horribly violent now and have no memory of it. Buuut I am a seriously heavy drinker, I dont think u realize but when you get that nice buzz you start thowing them back like water. Ask your bf to monitor u .. When I was younger your age I would black out too and do normal stuff while blacked out but its progressed into a monster now. Anyway I recently found a solution for my self. When I get to the point where im drunk right b4 the turning point I mix my liquour with weed, not too much tho dont want the room spinning, and it calms me and brings me down a level. Now I remember the whole night and ppl arent "terrified" of me anymore. Well I hope that helps I feel your pain haha - oh if u dont smoke weed than make sure u eat big meal b4 drinking, and when your feeling really good all hammed stuff your face even if youre not hungry

People who suffer memory loss don't always do so because they drink more than others - certain brains are just prone to losing memories when under the influence, according to a new study using MRI brain scanners.

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Wow you are a narcissistic as****e.

Yes!! I'm in my 30's and this started happening 2-3 months ago. I don't drink excessively and have no problem going 2+ wks without drinking. I don't sit at home drinking alone; I only partake if it's a social situation.
The blackouts are terrifying and shameful. I feel shameful but I know I'm not doing anything wrong. I've intentionally cut back to see if it helps, and it doesn't. One or two drinks is all it takes.

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Most people have a drink on the weekend it doesn't mean they are an alcoholic. There is a big difference between wanting a few drinks on the weekend when you know you haven't got work and been addicted to alcohol This is scaremongering and not helpful advise.

lol so is someone who drinks coffee a few times a week addicted to coffee?

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That is true