I do not know what to do.

Whoa, your are in a hard situation. I'm so sorrry to hear that. Well, for one you need to be and feel safe, that should be a number 1 thing. The fact that you don't feel safe should send off a red flag. I would maybe admit him. I see this alot and it can be very scary and it can get out of control. Its a hard thing to do, but he sounds like he needs more help then you can give him. You and your family need to be safe.

Hey Tryingtohang,

I agree with Britt brat- the only help you might be able to give him is to have him admitted to a mental health unit.

If he's not taking his meds, he's refusing to take control of his illness- does he believe he has schizophrenia or does he think that it's an exterior control tactic? He certainly has the symptoms of paranoid schizophrenia. There are sub-catagories and not every schizophrenia sufferer has the same experiences. Paranoid schizophrenia appears to be the most common sub-type.

There is little you can actually do, but contact your son's mental health worker or doctor. Schizophrenia is a psychopathic illness and sufferers who have active symptoms cannot define events as connected to their illness. In other words, no matter what you say or how much you try to convince your son that he's ill & having delusions- he won't believe you. 

Perhaps limiting contact- be there, but be there at a distance. When he starts his accusations, try and ignore them- don't get drawn in to trying to defend yourself; it will be useless. As odd as it sounds, if he throws you an accusation- stay calm and ask "why do you think that?" let him answer and then move on- talk about the weather, a TV programme, etc- try and keep to emotionally dead subjects. Do not talk about people- people conversations spark off more emotion.

Even if he tries to steer you away from that subject or throws more accusations- bring the conversation back to an emotionally neutral subject.

And just stay strong- don't get dragged in to thinking that it's personal.

I'm sorry for what you are going through.

Good luck & best wishes.

V