i have been with my partner two months, and throughout this time we have become seriously intimate, and although the sex is none the less good, or exellent, i cannot reach the designated goal. he gets discouraged with me, and asks me what he has to do to make me cum, but i dont know myself. i cant even make myself do it while masturbating ,and have given up. i did once find a position that stimulated something... but i dont know if it was an orgasim or not. to you woman how had one it was like..
my body just got this big shuddering feeling, and my whole body heated up.. from there i dont know how to explain it. was it some kind of orgasim, or am i just no able? if anyone has any ideas to help me, i'd be happy to hear it...
my body just got this big shuddering feeling, and my whole body heated up.. from there i dont know how to explain it. was it some kind of orgasim, or am i just no able? if anyone has any ideas to help me, i'd be happy to hear it...
don'y worry, only 17% of women will orgasm from sex alone, because of the size and position of the clitoris, it doesnt receive much stimulation from sex.
So you certainly aren't alone. Orgasms are difficult to describe, but easy to recognize when you have one, from its characteristic feeling of sexual release at climax, I do beleive that the shuddering, warming feeling you experienced was the plateau phase, the period of sexual excitement prior to orgasm.
So you certainly aren't alone. Orgasms are difficult to describe, but easy to recognize when you have one, from its characteristic feeling of sexual release at climax, I do beleive that the shuddering, warming feeling you experienced was the plateau phase, the period of sexual excitement prior to orgasm.
I had a wonderful sex life with my husband until 7 years ago and I had to a complete hysterectomy(sorry Can't spell that hateful Name). Ever since then, I have no desire for sex at all, and when we do have sex there is never an orgasim. I am currently taking Estrogel, and vaganial cream.
The mading part of it all, is I had nothing wrong with any of those organs,, they just wanted to know when I was having pain dow there, that it was caused from my Chron's nothing else!!!!!!They assured me that nothing would change, that what they were taking from me they would be given back to me in the HRT patch, which was nothing but a bunch of bull and at that I was still i my thirties!!!!We have tried everything you can think of and still to no avail. Is there anyone out there that can help me, give me some suggestions, or is this the way the rest of my life is going to be, it's just not fair. And as I said things were more than great before the operation, no I can't even stand cuddling at night. Please someone have answers, an to add to it my husband is fr. Newfoundland and you know how much they love sex.....lol. I guess it's better to joke about it than cry.
The mading part of it all, is I had nothing wrong with any of those organs,, they just wanted to know when I was having pain dow there, that it was caused from my Chron's nothing else!!!!!!They assured me that nothing would change, that what they were taking from me they would be given back to me in the HRT patch, which was nothing but a bunch of bull and at that I was still i my thirties!!!!We have tried everything you can think of and still to no avail. Is there anyone out there that can help me, give me some suggestions, or is this the way the rest of my life is going to be, it's just not fair. And as I said things were more than great before the operation, no I can't even stand cuddling at night. Please someone have answers, an to add to it my husband is fr. Newfoundland and you know how much they love sex.....lol. I guess it's better to joke about it than cry.
What you'll need:
A pillow (of your own)
A cushion (of your own)
A book or a hard bath pillow (of your own)
Your bed
You
Alone time
what i do is (steps):
1. get yourself in the mood by lying on your stomach on your bed with something hardish in your pillow cover as well as your pillow like a book or a hard bath pillow, then rub the top of your vagina on it pretend its the person you like.
2. after this then snog a pillow pretending it's the person you like.
3. Grab your cushion and then (this is what i do)
4. i lie on my bed on my back with my legs open
5. get the cushion and turn it so the corners on your vagina then cross your legs and turn to the side
6. hold cushion to chest
7. the while the cushion is there and you have you legs crossed and lying on your side rock you legs and kind of squeeze at the same time
8. after a little while you will feel almost like a pulse down there and you feel your vagina almost gently squeezing itself.
9 this is then an orgasim and it feels great.
10. plus you can do it silently.
11. after you will have a white line which will be wet or just a wet patch on your cushion.
There you go it feels amazing please try it as soon as you find this. I've been doing this since i was 10 and now im 14 and i do this all of the time. The best thing to do is imagine your having sex with the person who you like no matter what age they are (that's what i do).
Hope this helps and works and feels as well for you as it does for me
A pillow (of your own)
A cushion (of your own)
A book or a hard bath pillow (of your own)
Your bed
You
Alone time
what i do is (steps):
1. get yourself in the mood by lying on your stomach on your bed with something hardish in your pillow cover as well as your pillow like a book or a hard bath pillow, then rub the top of your vagina on it pretend its the person you like.
2. after this then snog a pillow pretending it's the person you like.
3. Grab your cushion and then (this is what i do)
4. i lie on my bed on my back with my legs open
5. get the cushion and turn it so the corners on your vagina then cross your legs and turn to the side
6. hold cushion to chest
7. the while the cushion is there and you have you legs crossed and lying on your side rock you legs and kind of squeeze at the same time
8. after a little while you will feel almost like a pulse down there and you feel your vagina almost gently squeezing itself.
9 this is then an orgasim and it feels great.
10. plus you can do it silently.
11. after you will have a white line which will be wet or just a wet patch on your cushion.
There you go it feels amazing please try it as soon as you find this. I've been doing this since i was 10 and now im 14 and i do this all of the time. The best thing to do is imagine your having sex with the person who you like no matter what age they are (that's what i do).
Hope this helps and works and feels as well for you as it does for me