I fell in love with much younger man

You are both adults, if you love each other focus on that, not on what other people think. You have the awesome opportunity to create something magical with a fellow human being. Love between two consenting adults is not wrong, its a beautiful thing.

YOU GO GIRL!! I am proud of you. Just goes to show that love has no age. Good luck!!

wow - way lot more ladies in the same situation as myself.  To reassure some, my aunt is 19 years older than my uncle and they have been married a very long time now and are still very happy.  I met my younger man playing an online game.  We spent two years getting to know each other very well by talking nearly every night on the internet.  I feel like I got to know the real person, long before I ever knew what he even looked like.  I never once considered that we were destined to be anything other than great friends who had an ability to share and talk about absolutely anything.  One day he wanted to skype with video cam, supposedly to help prepare me for this new era of digital dating technology, the idea being that as we were comfortable with each other it would be ok.  I felt like a rabbit caught in the headlights, so nervous, but things went ok.  Next thing I know he is wanting to skype with me more often.  Time progresses and we talk every night on skype (nearly) and talk, share music, have fun, play games and laugh.  We reached a time when I had the opportunity of a weekend to myself, without the children (completely unheard of normally), so I thought to myself, ok, I can feel that we have chemistry through this computer screen, perhaps I should see if there is chemistry if we meet up in person.  I should say that I live in the UK and my younger man is in Holland.  

I felt like a teenager the way I composed some white lies to my parents about where I was going for the weekend, but even at my age (44 at the time) I felt my parents wouldn't understand me driving all the way to Holland to meet a guy who was 19 years younger than myself.  I was soooo nervous, but I have to say that the weekend went really well.  Just as well I say as when he came to visit me next, my parents insisted on my leaving an envelope with his details in it in case I didn't come back at the end of the weekend.  (Parents, they still worry over you in your 40's - LOL!)  Wind the clock forward some more and he has not only met my parents now, who really like him, and my children, who love him to bits and want to call him Dad, but we have also met up for several holidays together, including family holidays to Spain and Christmas together.  He was still living at home when we first met on the internet, but has his own place now.  We are currently tied where we are at the moment as he is finishing his PhD in astronomy and I am tied to the UK as my son is currently sitting his GCSE's.  Two more years will see my younger man finished his PhD and my son hopefully heading for University.  We take each day as it comes but know that we can't continue this age-gap and long-distance relationship for ever.  We talk about anything and everything and we have covered the difficult questions, including does he ever want children, to which his answer was a very truthful "I don't know!"  I never have to question his love for me as I know it because of how he shows it to me in thoughts, words and deeds.

Our visits to one another have become more frequent and I have met some of his friends.  I have yet to meet his parents, but he has left my photo out, so I think that that may be the next step.  All I know is that we both love each other very much and I believe that age really is just a number.  When he first got his own washing machine, I had to laugh myself silly when he asked me how to fold socks!  I mean, really?  I couldn't believe I was teaching him how to roll his socks - hysterical!  In conclusion, I really don't know what the future holds for us, but I am willing to take the chance and see where this journey takes us.  Right now, I am 46 and he is 28 and our plans include a weekend in Paris where we will no doubt visit the Louvre.  He is way more mature than any other man I have been with who was closer to my age and we relate to each other so well, I often say that I am his Ying and he is my Yang as we connect that well.

Just wanted to share

:) mee too and he is wonderful. haters are haters, Ive stopped saying his age, they dont know any different now.

Oh my gosh, you're situation is almost identical to mine. I am in love with my nephews friend. I am 32 and he is 19. We have been dating for the last month but there was an instant connection when we met 4 years ago. Ever since he turned 18 he pursued me. He flirted and I just laughed it off but the last few months I couldn't help but see him in a different light and give him a chance. Our relationship is so passionate and we can't stay away from each other. No one in our family knows about us. He wants me to be his girlfriend and says he's ever felt this way before and I'm something special. I don't really want to date him but he's just so cute and treats me like I'm princess, I'm beautiful.... things that I don't hear men my age ever say to me. He is so kind and I know that this can never work out but maybe it can? I still have a few more years to get married and have children and by then he will be in his mid 20's. The only obstacle is our families...he's like family to us and a family friend and my nephews best friend.

I was wondering since you're in the same situation, what happened with you? Could you give us an update?

Sounds awful :( And then to find the guy wasn't supportive was all you needed. I hope you have improved a lot since you wrote this?

As an update my young man has grown quite distant and I am no longer bothered by this.  I have been dating several younger men and am now seeing one who is 18 years younger.  

I am also having treatment for the after effects of my 22 year abusive relationship and I am beginning to question whether I pick these young guys because I sub-consciously feel a relationship can go nowhere, thereby protecting myself from having to be in a proper relationship?

I have currently started a relationship with someone 19 years younger than myself.  I have known this person for approximately 3 years and the chemistry has always been there, however I would never act on it because of his age.  At some point, I just gave in and have been enjoying myself since.  The problem is now that I am developing feelings for him (beyond physical attraction), I getting a little fearful of the future.  My youngest daughter has an issue with it, however I cannot not live my life for my grown children, nor will I.  I know there is a stigma for older women with younger men, however, I think I may actually love him; I don't think, I know I do.  Anyways, I just am feeling a little overwhelmed with emotions now, and don't know anyone who has experienced this type of situation.  In other relationships such as this, it was never based on an emotional level, so this is very different for me.  Any suggestions?

weezzee, my relationship has been going on for over a year now. I am 18 years older than he is. Our relationship started out as just a physical one before emotional one also. There are many things in our way and we will never be together. But I do love him and I feel he cares a great deal for me but .... Maybe when there is this great of age differences it does start out as physical before the emotional. It's an ego booster for the older woman that such a younger man finds them so attractive and a lot of younger men like older women because the younger women are so immature now. Who knows but I am so glad to have what I do have with my younger, georgous much much younger man.. Good luck !!

My boyfriend and I are kinda going through a rough time I guess but I think it's mostly just because I'm a little unhappy right now. I'm not gonna lie. I reeeeeeeeaaaaalllly want to be married and have that commitment especially since now I'm 34 weeks pregnant and I'd really like my daughter to grow up under a "family". It's important to me for her. But he doesn't seem to be in any sort of rush and we've talked about it. Back in September he took me to a store to pick out a ring and I saw the ring I wanted. Then when taxes came back this year we had enough money for the ring and I told him that. He knew that I wanted to get married in June of this year but these past few months he's made some comments about getting married June of next year not this year. Then the whole ring thing he didn't really say much of anything until around the time when I was gonna actually go through with us getting it. He started making comments about how maybe I should spend that money on school or something else and that we'd get the ring next year or something, etc. I was really hurt by it all because he took me to look at that ring in the first place months ago so I thought that once we could afford it he'd get it. Now it's like all of these little excuses for why he's in no rush and then he says stuff like he wishes I would help clean and cook more often. I don't know what his real deal is. Maybe he's just scared to commit. He hasn't really had a good example of marriage or relationships growing up in his family and in his own life. Or maybe he just doesn't want to be with me forever really? I don't know. 

hello i have 24 year but i love old women i cant have relation ship woth girl women pls help me that sick or ........... pls answer

Hi, I need some kind of help.  I am a 66 year old widow. My husband passed away almost three years ago now.  I now find my self in a somewhat relationship with a divorced mutual friend of ours. Thats not the problem, the problem is he is 19 years younger than me. I have two daughters who do not approve of this, mostly because of his age.  He is an older looking man, gray haired and bearded, very handsome I might add. We have known each other for over 15 years. Neither one of us really tried to get together, it just happened. I care for him very much, which surprised me, I really didn't think I could ever feel this way again. But I do, I care for him deeply, and I know he cares for me too.  The other day my oldest daughter, told him to stay away from me because, basically, according to her, I guess I'm to old to be having these kind of feelings. Since she told him that, he has been very aloof.  He said he doesn't want to cause any family conflicts. One of the things is she is worried I guess, that I will spend any money I have and she won't get any.  I am not planning on marrying him, I just want to enjoy my life before it slips away. I have been very depressed about this, but I don't know what I should do. I really don't care if they get pissed off, its my life, not theirs.  They do try to tell me what to do all the time! Oh, by the way, we have not had sex yet, but I would like to!

OMG your situation is similar to mine. We both admitted we were attracted to each other years ago, but neither of us would have ever acted on it before. We're not at a point where we can, but I have two adult daughters who do not want this to happen. I know I am in love with him, but he doesn't want any family problems. But, you know what, they have their lives, why shouldn't I have mine. I am on an emotional roller coaster, all I know is I want to be with him. So, I'm sorry I can't offer any advice, maybe someone can help us!

I am 21 and I have been having an affair with my best friends mother. I live with my friend his mother and his sister. I moved into there basement due to some unfore seen things. She is 41 and very sexy.This thing that we have has been going on for about a year now and I would like to move forward with our relationship. No one knows about us.We both work nights and no one is home but us in the day.  I have told her that I love her and would like to marry and have a baby with her. She says she would have my baby but not on purppose. She is on the pill and I am really hoping they fail. She really thinks that I should be with her daughter and what we have going on is just a fling. My one buddy that is the only one that knows we are funking has shown me a site that you can buy fake BC pills. I have ordering them but not swith them out yet.

I posted back in April of 2012 that I had embarked in a relationship with a much younger guy. We had our first meeting in February of 2012 and now it is September, 2013 and we couldn't be happier. We're most definitely in love. He will be 29 this month--I am 47. I'm pretty much over the stereotypes for the most part. My mother, though, still doesn't like it, but is accepting it as is my daughter. I'm happy and I deserve happiness for as long as I can get it. I just try to stay positive and keep moving forward. I didn't think we'd make it this far but I'm so glad we did.