I fell in love with much younger man

I'm a 57 year old white woman and I am in an amazing, beautiful, romantic, spiritual, passionate relationship with a 23 year old African man. He is the kindest, most loving, considerate, romantic, beautiful soul I have ever met. We are both incredibly amazed at the love we have cultivated. We are overwhelmed and sincere and honest and secure with the relationship. My love and I are going to spend the rest of our lives togeather showing the world what boundaries true love can transcend. We can't wait until the day that we proclaim our love to the world. So...anyone who judges us...that will be their issue and I'm sorry for them. There are energies and spiritual connections between people that can not be explained or understood by others. I'm so blessed and thank God every day for this love.

I am 63 and have been in a relationship with a man who is 39. We have been together for almost 2 years. I know we love each other. The hard part is his family wants him to have kids and at first he said no but the pressure is getting to him. I don't know how to let go but know its what I should do. my heart is breaking. And he is from a culture where family is what you follow.

I've fallen for a much younger man as well, so I think I may understand your mindset. I would not say fallen "in love" because that is way too complex an emotion for just barely meeting someone, but I can say I am quite unexpectedly smitten with someone I would have never considered before. I am not married though, so that is an issue in itself I think you must evaluate separate from you feelings for this younger man. I haven't ever even considered the possibility of a younger man. I always sought older men because quite frankly they were just more mature. I always found men under 35 just not sure enough of themselves and what they wanted out of life to make the commitment I was looking for. Many men over 35 only settle down because at that point everyone else is doing it. I was recently blind sided by meeting a 35 yr old man by complete accident. I'm 50, no kids and on and off again with a boyfriend my age for 6 years who currently lives in another state. I'm traveled a lot, have a great career, lived many places and lived a pretty interesting life. Recently having some work done on a house. One contractor recommended another for a project. He gave contractor #2 my number, he called, we discussed and got the whole thing set up. I know my way around home improvement projects pretty well after having remodeled many homes over the years. Did a lot of work myself and hired contracts for some of it. After a few conversations, I was immediately drawn to this man's deeply masculine voice, alpha male-ness and charmingly sweet and carefree demeanor. He was very polite, intelligent, but very assertive and I could tell he was rather intrigued with how knowledgeable and on top of handling a home improvement project I was. We spent a solid 45 minutes on the phone at one point chatting and discussing the best way to tackle the project. I thought what a charming man, but he is probably young and married, so I did not think much more of it. The other contractor knows my age and background and they are good buddies, so no big surprise that I am a middle aged woman. I was unable to be on site when he did the work to meet him in person. He sent an invoice, so I replied complimenting the quality of the work and thanking him. He sent a response that surprised me...stating that he is available for any other projects I might need... and that he had never not met any of his clients before and that he would really like to meet me in person at some point. I thought how sweet, and jeez do I need help with a bunch of things that I was stressing about finding someone who was reliable and did quality work! I'll give him a call and see if he can get this other urgent project I need done. I called him a couple days later and he was ecstatic to take on the other jobs I discussed. Scheduled me in right away and we finally got to meet in person with the next job. I thought oh how nice I will get to meet this adorabley sweet young man with the deep voice and devious laugh. My curiosity was up, but never in a million years did I expect the complete fireworks of chemistry that happened the minute this guy walked through the door. I was in sweats and my hair kinda all over the place and my reading glasses, OMG I was not prepared for this. We just stood there and stared at each other and both got this huge grin like a couple of teenagers. He was not my typical type physically at all, so while I was still trying to process why I was having fireworks chemistry with someone I did not find my type I noticed he was looking at me with these huge googly eyes and delirious type grin like a giddy school boy. This is a very masculine alpha kinda rednecky guy and all I could think is.....why is this guy looking at me like I'm the prom queen or something? I think I was more floored at how clearly he was smitten with me than anything. All I could think was this guy is probably used to dating 20 somethings and he is standing her looking at 50 year old disheveled me in sweats like a love sick puppy??? OMG what IS THIS??? Anyways we proceeded to run around like a couple of giddy teenagers, chat, make jokes and plot the various projects that need done. The emotional, intellectual and physical chemistry was so unexpectedly off the charts I was just speechless. I also noticed he was wearing cologne. What contractor shows up to a job at 8am immaculately groomed and wearing cologne? They usually have dirty clothes and stink like BO and cigarettes! Anywho, I enjoyed flirting with him and having fun, but no way I would do anything else and risk losing a good contractor or embarrassing myself. He came back for another job and I noticed him heavily scanning my newly moved in piles of belongings. Maybe he was looking for signs of another man and hopefully not casing the place for his next burglary, hah. Just kidding, its a smallish town we know a number of people in common and he is a pretty wholesome dude from what I can tell. Most I could find out is he does have 2 children already from a 20 something woman, but never married her. I was actually elated to hear that. If he had no kids I would completely write off any interest in him. I just do NOT want to deal with the "I can't give you the babies you want" scenario of heartbreak. I'd rather just date an older man who already has his kids than go through that, no matter how smitten I am with a man.

so glad im not alone there !! same thing.i met this amazing young man at the gym.he is mature,wise and we get along well. its just crazy how the world works.. and im also trying to pull away but I can't yet! hoping it will be more one day .yes, he's 17 and im in my 30s too. i look young for my age and i work out alot.lol.judge me ,i dont care either

Hi I'll be 42 this October and my boyfriend is 29, I don't have a problem with him, he makes me happy everyday the only thing that bothers me was our age gab.. but for him he treat me like we have the same age.. this July our 1st year anniversary.. I love him so much and I know he loves me too..

How's it going now?Do you guys have a plan for a pregnancy?

I thought and still do think age doesn’t matter. If you have feelings for someone then age shouldn’t hold you back from exploring a possible relationship. However he’s not mentally mature enough to even know what he wants. I think guys under 25 think it’s fun to fantasize about women older then themselves but if you are looking for seriousness then look elsewhere. Not saying it can’t work out just be prepared for the heartache that comes when it doesn’t. Enjoy a friendship with this guy and who knows, but it’s better to have that then nothing at all. BTW I wrote the story you responded to and I don’t talk to that guy anymore. Sad that he felt we couldn’t even remain friends. I feel it was something that had to happen in my life but it took forever to get over him. It was a love I had never felt before and can only hope to feel it again someday.

I'm also glad to see this response venue, I to have fallen for a younger man however Im not sure he's as into me as I am him. How do I not run this man away? I can't remember ever feeling what I feel when Im with him. I need advice.

I am in the process of falling in love with a man 31 years old- and I am almost 59, but look a lot younger. The passion and chemistry we have is unrivalled in my lifetime and I wouldn't trade him for anything or anyone in the world. Hes sweet, kind, and attentive and its real, not faked.
Love has no age, forget what all the miserable and lonely people around you have to say or think because if they could feel the love and wake up so happy every day- they would. No risk= No reward !

I love a man 12 years younger that me. I have loved him for a little more than 5 years..I have thought about him for almost every day since. We textd often and talked saw each other about 12-14 times total during a 5 year period. We have a deep incredible connection in many ways. Im 45 and it was this year that I realized I had deeply fallen in love with him and have this first time feelings for someone. I am married with 3 childern. Husband is good person but does not make me happy in many ways. I am with him because of my children and how I need him to help me raise them. We are both responsible for them. I love my children too. I have had the most amazing and extreme cosmic connections and synchronicities with my friend/lover. I just learned that my beautiful lover wants children now and have decided to part ways. It is awfully painful to separate. Still working on that. Feel greatful for the amazing moments with him but will make my best to be happy by knowing that he is looking for a more fullfilling life goal as having his own children. As they say... love hurts. It’s the inevitable downside. I will certainly avoid falling in love again. It is too painful. I know i can still be satisfied with many loving and fun relationships without the falling in love. Though many amazingly incredible moments. Wish time will help me heal and transform my pain into happiness wishes for both of us. I love him and will be happy for him to accomplish his personal family goals.

Hi I met a really wonderful young man 45 years old, I am 67 but he is so sexy and so friendly and he makes me feel young again. Nothing is happened yet but I wish it would. We have a lot in common and he seems a troubled soul. I wonder if I’m just trying to be his mother or if we do have something in common. I met him at a really great public pub and we talked for hours and then he left he did not seem interested in women of his own age. He’s German and comes from a European background. He is unbelievably handsome and I was very attracted to him mostly intellectually and spiritually and of course perhaps physically. My husband and I got married 35 years ago on our honeymoon our sexual relationship ended we have had no sex for 27 years. We are friends. Any advice. Thank you

Hi ladies.I am 46 and engaged to my son's friend who is 27.My son is 28.I dated him for two months then moved into the apartment he and my son lived in.actually it was my son who told me he liked me.My son Knew I liked younger guys.My son had no problem with our PDAs.The very first month into living together I fell pregnant.My bf and my son are both military.My bf is currently in Afghanistan but my son is here to take care of me during my pregnancy.We will marry when my bf comes back.

so i have a friend who is 33 and he 18, is there something wrong with that, she really cares for him and love him and they spoke on a real future together, but is that weird or what..im lost here, i know love doesnt have an age on it but what is that. he loves her too, atleast thats how he feels now..

Hi,
I hope you're well.
I'm in the same situation right now and feeling extremely heartbroken and not knowing how long this pain will last.

I'm 52 Asian chinese and he's 30...handsome Italian. We've been together for about 5 years. He's an amazing man that show me loads of attentions, affections and love...

I'm divorced with 5 kids, 3 are above the legal age.

His culture and family disapproval of our relationship...though I'm in good terms with all of them.

Share your experiences and let us know how you managed the pain of losing the love of your life.



Love,
Jules

I'm 57 and my boyfriend of the past five years is 30. We are happy and love each other very much. He is an old soul and I am definitley young at heart! I have dated men from 25 to 75 and the truth is men are men, no matter the age. The chemistry and personality of your relationship is what matters.