I fell in love with much younger man

Yes, men certainly are babies! My sister refers to her husband as "My fifth kid."

I'm not a marriage counselor or anything close to one... I'm a musician actually! And I do not know you personally. I am not judging you, however. BUT I will say that married with children + an affair isn't really acceptable in our culture. Someone is definitely without a doubt going to get hurt at some point and do you really want that someone to be one of your children, grown or not? Or worse, one of HIS children. I was married for 10 years and my husband was convinced I was having an affair. There actually was someone I was interested, but I never did have that affair.

I don't know why this happens or why people do it, but I think the two of you both should ... I don't know, I don't wanna give advice. Good luck

I do appreciate your post and thoughts. It is wrong and I have never did this before. I have been married for almost 30 years. I guess it's because I never had a life other than my husband and child. I have been with him since I was 15 got married at 19 and pregnant at 20. I never explored who I really am. Now I find myself 48 and wondering what I missed and not many more good years to explore this. We are extremely careful and really don't want anyone hurt. I know in the end I will be the hurt one. I have fallen in love with him and there is no future. And he needs to stay where he is. But I find it almost impossible to resist him. Think about this... 6'5" dark hair, so handsome that he could be a model with deep dimples and a smile that makes you feel like a women in certian places, if you know what I mean.aND to top it off he wants you! It's extremely hard to say no.... I am only human..

Hi all.  I'm so glad to see how active the board has become on this subject.  I posted 8 months ago that I was dating a younger man.  Today, we are still going strong.  We have been together 10 months now.  We are in love.  I am very happy and my mother is becoming accepting though not thrilled, and for the first time since the summer, my daughter has spent the day with him again, and she said she actually enjoyed herself.  I am now 46, he is 28, and my daughter is soon to be 22.  I think if we all see each as people and not as the 22 year old, the 46 year old, the 28 year old, then we can all get along just fine.  Honestly, I didn't know where I would be at this time.  I had an unhappy mother and embarrassed daughter several months ago.  But they both know that I am happy, so how can I be denied happiness?  I've been divorced for ten years and never have I told another man I loved him until this relationship.  I don't know how long this relationship will last.  He's in for the long haul he says.  I'm willing and I have faith that whatever happens with us, this has been a good thing for me.  I have had doubts about being left behind as I get older, but, life is full of risk.  I could've denied this relationship from the start by worrying about what could be several years down the road, and not have experienced such an easy going, loving union this has become.  I wish you all the best.  I will come back again down the road to share my status.

Just want to add my 2cents

  I am 39 and I am living with my 27 year old bf. I was married for 10 years to a man that was 7 year older than me.  He was not out going enough for me so thing went south and we split. I had 2 babies with him that are now 8, and 6. Jerry and I have been together for 1 1/2 years and are waiting for the 2 year mark before we stop using birth control.  We might get married after the baby if it goes that way. He is very excited about getting a women in her 40's pregnant.  He is very turned on by women in there 40's and this is his fantasy. I'm not to sure how to feel about going though the pregnancy in my 40's.

Not sure how I would feel having a baby in my 40's either but If the man I am currently seeing wanted one and I was your age I would go for it. I would have loved to have his babies if we were married. Not sure why men love women in their 40's. My guess is they know we are still young enough to want sex and are still outgoing. We are confident and mature and def. know what we want... Who knows but I like it! LOL . Good luck to you!

No it's not wrong to be with someone much youger than you. Grown-ups don't mind the age difference and love doesn't ask how old you are to be meaningful and special, it happens and certainly for a reason and if it's meant to be it will eventually last. Jealouse people will always try to destroy something that is beautiful simply because they cant have it. Like they say love is blind so why mind what others say. What counts is that you are HAPPY and thats all that matters.

Hi all I'm new to this... just wanted to share my story on this subject. I to have been involved in a relationship with a much younger guy. All started when I was 56 he was 22. For three an half years we saw each other quite regularly, he lives local to me. When we first met on the night i turned 56 btw, we had sex an I thought ok big mistake won't happen again, but it continued all that time. I really thought I'm in control which i think i was for over a year into it. But after that well i became so attached to him an him for me, emotionally and sexually. His sense of humour, attitude to life uplifted me an of course did heaps for my self esteem. He was a young guy who had problems early on to much drinking an light drugs. To be honest he wasn't overly good looking an found it hard to meet young girls his age because of that. I think that was the reason he did drink and drugs. But all that aside we had this connection and i believe i helped to build his self esteem he has a big heart and adores his family. We never spoke of how either felt about one another. I do think we became co-dependant as I found men my age to be so not into looking after themselves and i have never dated men my age, my ex was 3 years younger. My worst fear happened last August when he met a young girl 23years on the net she lives in the area they have been dating since. Our times together became less to the point i thought thats it i have to deal with this. Then every few weeks he calls me wanting to see me. He made the statement he felt he had ''a banded" me! Its strange to say this but I feel we were meant to meet maybe we are soul mates? Everytime I'm desperate to hear from him i do! I did fall in love with him and I feel he did at some point. I miss him like crazy but came to realise he did want to meet a girl an have a family one day.I do worry though because he has a big heart (cancerian) i just hope she doesn't break it. Im finding it hard to deal with the void i miss an worry about him everyday.

I think it's wonderful that we can fall in love at any age. Love is a good thing. I am very happy for all of you.

I'm 51 and he's 30. I want my guy to be happy...always have. I ws shocked when be seemed to be genuinely more and more interested in me. We went from friends to lovers to friends to big time lovers. I'm attached. Yep. And he is dependent for sure. He is the successful business guy. I'm Suzy homemaker. So I'm not the typical cougar. However..... I seriously can't shame the idea off him looking for a girlfriend. I thought he wasnt. But he considered himself single. It's weird. I guess love means things differently to different people. I'm sad but he doesn't know. I now feel more like a secretary off personal assistant...with a little bit of kindness mixed in somewhere and a little passion when possible. But most I feel life I'm helping build his confidence and get his future set. It makes me so sad. I wanted to spend my time with someone who couldn't wait to see me and who wanted to know everything about me. Frankly I'm sad. Shame on Me for sleeping with someone who wasn't all in, one hundred percent. Anything less than that really is a counterfeit for love.

Dawn
Having kids in your 40s doesn't have to be a negative at all. I had twins at 42! I seriously believe it had kept me going strong. I look at friends my age and they look older act older. Some are childless and bored. But still whatever life takes you can be amazing cleaning on your out look. I asked one of my eight year olds if its ok that I'm old. He says, "Mom I've seen a ton of people older than you. I love YOU." What could be better?

Um....one thought. Have the child for you. A younger man is not a forever guarantee. If he stays, Awesome. So great. Best of luck.

I am so happy that I am not alone having had a younger man. We had too part, he is even more heartbroken than me. He has youth on his side, and I'm left feeling even older than I already am. Nobody w.ins in the end!

I forgot to add that I don't think I will ever be able to love like that again

Mine is talking about marriage! I'm stunned. He told me last week that at first, he was concerned about our age difference (48 / 30) but has now decided that he wants to watch me grow old and be with me until one of us dies! Very scared.

Steff, you are soooo lucky, isn't that great, hLois committed enough to marry you. My guy is already married, arranged.... Go figure.

Don't be scared, be happy, go for it. I wish you all the luck in the world.

I feel as if i am in the same position as yourself. I cant stop thinking about this guy we txt constantly and go out for drinks together nothing has happened sexually yet as i feel too embarresed about the age difference and im normally a real confident person i just do not know what to do im 49 and he is 34 its hurting me so much i never ever thought the day would come ewhen i would feel like this