I fell in love with much younger man

Jeans art-if you are both single, go for it. There was 15 years between me and my guy also. I have to say it was hard work trying to keep up energy and apearance wise. Made me watch my weight... Lol if he is married, pls pls take my advice, stop now, you will end up very hurt.... Just saying...

I know how you feel but get over it NOW. Mine is 30 and I am 48... We had sex but in a car and in the dark... Finally we went to a hotel room and we took it slow so by the time he saw me completely naked I didn't care! haha He has to know you don't look like a 20 yr. old anymore. And by the way, most 20 and 30 yr. old women look much worse than I do. My belly isn't hanging all over my jeans and I am not a skinny girl.. A size 12 with a size 40D.... When i asked him what he liked most his answer wasn't my stomach or my eyes if you know what I mean.. And gravity has taken over but he didn't seam to mind at all. LOL... and this 30 year old man is georgous.. All the women at work has ranked him number 2 out of about 1500 men in the plant. They don't know he's mine!!! LOL

I am encouraged by this thread.

I have always liked younger men.  I left my ex in 2011 after a very unpleasant 23 years.  He was 5 years younger than me.  No children involved. Since then I have become a genuinely happy person.  I love the company of men but don't really think I want another relationship.  I am registered on a couple of dating sites.  I hoped I might be able to meet younger men but didn't hold out too much hope.  Younger men are funny, fit, sexy and have a full head of hair.  Men my own age look like old men :(

What has surprised me is the sheer number of younger men looking for the older woman!  I have been on dates with men as young as 23. (Under that age they seem to be too immature from the way they chat online)   The 23 year old is an amazingly lovely guy.  I have met men up to the age of 44.  I was 50 last year and in a bit of a mental crisis I put my online age as 45.  I get away with it but now I have a problem.

I met a guy last year who is 31.  He thinks I am 14 years older than him.  We see each other regularly, text and online chat almost every day.  He helps me with jobs round the house, he remembers details of conversations, he makes me laugh and we cuddle.  That's it.  We have social plans as far away as the end of Feb.  I am going to meet a member of his family soon as well.  I don't know if it is going anywhere but all of a sudden I want it to.

My family have asked about the guy I am seeing and, knowing me, they have asked how young he is.  I haven't admitted the exact age but they know he is in his 30s.  I have had several "wait till he wants a family and dumps you" lectures.  I am aware this may happen.  I have read articles on 'cougars' and women who date men younger than them by 10 years or so.  I have been really worried that I am actually 19 years older than him.  (I realise I will have to deal with the issue of my age lie if we get serious)

But reading this thread has given me hope that 19 years does not need to be an issue for the couple.  Just their families.  My friends will be fine about it.  My best friends all know about him anyway.

So thank you to all who have written on here before me for giving me a much needed confidence boost about my situation :)

You never know! My 30 year old and I started "banging" (his term) in October 2011 then "dating" in Feb 2012. His younger ex girlfriend told his parents my age. I waa furious on many levels. But since then, I have met his entire family including 2 Thanksgivings at his Aunt's & the family's annual xmas reunion.

My mother - not accepting. My ex husband, to her, was the best man for me ever. She's wrong - this guy is. Things get better every day.

So my advice - learn from him by living in the present. Take 1 day at a time because as you know, "what if" is a waste of time & times passes fast!

BigCat.. Be honest with him before you sleep with him. I assume by your notes you have not slept with him yet. Me and my man started with an email flirting then I asked him how old he was, when he said he just turned 30 I almost choked.. He is georgous, 6'5, dark hair with a lot of grey in it and a very nice body. I thought he was about 38 or 40.. He thought I was about 38. When I told him I was 48 he was fine with it. That was before anything romantic happened. I will say his maturity level is not up to what I would like it to be. He is like a man one minute and a boy the next. And at times he is more mature than I am. Don't worry about family and friends. Once they see you both are happy they will be ok with it. My man has a daughter and doesn't want other kids but we have issues that keep us apart I would rather not say. I have fallen in love with this man and his age, nor the thrill of a younger man has anything to do with that.. So go for it because you can!!

@hedi and @sueellen Thank you for your very encouraging words :)  

I realise I will need to tell him if things got remotely serious.  So far they haven't. 

Why they haven't I can't really tell but maybe he just doesn't fancy me.  But that's probably a whole new question for another thread....

You may want to ask him. I've never know a man that age or any adult male for that matter that didn't want sex soon. Don't fall for him until you find that out. Believe me the age difference can be difficult you thinking one thing and he another....

I hate to be negative, really, or as you Americans say, rain on your parade, but, having been there, done that and wrung out the T Shirt, it's hard for it to work when the woman is older. This isn't a case of sour grapes, far from it. I loved , I lost, he wants me, but..... The age difference just exists.... It's there, and it won't go away! Good luck and enjoy the moment... It's your life, your decision. I am still coping with a broken heart. I just pray for the day my life returns to normal.

@sueellen I do want to ask him but haven't worked out how or when.

I am prepared for him not fancying me. It will upset me but I will cope. So in some way that's probably why I've not asked yet - delaying the inevitable!

I am still meeting other men so I am not putting all my eggs in one basket.

I suppose whether it turns into a relationship or not is the same issue it would be with any man I met. But I feel now that age is not necessarily going to be the thing that stops it going further.

I have just run the situation by a male friend of mine to ask his advice. He seems to think that I might have given the impression that it's me who just wants to be friends. Maybe that will give me more courage to ask him :)

@Marcella25 What was your age difference?

15 years exactly.... It was never an issue with him.... Me? Well, even tho people say I don't look 53, looking back on the pics, I do look older, luckily he looked older than 38 . 

You don't sound negative. You're absolutely right. Despite knowing that my guy loves me and I him and he's mentioned marriage and all that, he doesn't like it when I tell his friends how old I am and that is definitely a red flag. My head is not in the clouds -- one day at a time and enjoy the moment -- good advice. Fortunately for me, I'm fine alone or in a relationship. I'll deal with the broken heart if and when it comes, but I know I'll be ok.

You sound like my kind of girl!!! KUdos.....

live in the moment, we are longer dead than we are alive-;)

If it comes to something I will definitely give it a go and then face any fallout as and when it happens.  I am very happy as a single person so any sort of relationship is a bonus not my reason for being.

I am still encouraged that lots of people have tried and enjoyed it :)

@BigCat,,,,,,, story of my life, want my epitaph to read;

The records show, she took the blows, and did it her way!!!