I Had Three Abortions! Am I at risk of infertility?

wow. I am pro-choice all the way but yanno, THREE abortions is just ridiculous. And don't jump on me for "pro-life propaganda" Ive had one abortion and as I said Im 100% pro-choice! But if youre an adult, and you know you are financially, emotionally, or mentally unable to care for a child then USE BIRTH CONTROL! It's free! Abortion is not to be used for birth control and in these cases it SHOULD be regulated! And how dare people on here pass out the advice of "just keep trying" to women who dont know if they want to keep the baby this week? You need to be PLANNING. Children are not something you do just because you happen to be in love with the new guy youre dating...children are a LIFETIME commitment that require money, stability, love, food, shelter, education, clothes, diapers, formula, the list goes on and on...if youre not able to provide these things then USE BIRTH CONTROL. I cant imagine sitting there layin down with some man finding out youre pregnant, getting an abortion and then repeating this THREE TIMES!? "Couldnt keep it" then why were you having unprotected sex at all?? Idk...Im done ranting because as much as this outrages me, Im guessing that its not going to help. Like I said, if that first trip to the abortion clinic didnt teach you anything somethings wrong. I am just dumbfounded that no one else on here besides some pro-lifer thought that 3 abortions was wrong. PRO-CHOICE all the way, WOMEN'S rights, etc but come on! These people out lobbying for us to have abortion as a right in this country are not intending for you to use it as birth control. Please stop havin sex and if you wont then for pete's sake get some FREE birth control. 8-|

Hey guess what? if you utter the phrase "I'm pro choice, but" then you aren't pro choice! Pro Choice means choice no matter what, not "choice as long as I think you're not being a dirty irresponsible ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting**"

I don't know about you, but I've lived in a few different states. and In all three I never heard of free birth control. Unless you are unemployed and completely broke. Furthermore the pap to get that birth control is not free either, even at a health district.

To these women who are judging others about the choices they made to terminate their pregnancies; these women are not asking for your ignorant outlook on abotion. They are asking for advice from people who care and know what they have been through and can relate to them. No one asked you what you thought, and we definitely did not ask you whether or not you thought our choices were moral or responsible. So if you insist on ranting, do it in a chat room where someone cares. Furthermore do not criticize others when you yourself have had an abortion, because it just makes you look like a total hypocrite. If you do not know the entirety of the situation then don't sit here and make others feel bad about the choices they've made, or that they were forced to make.

I am going to tell you my story because I think you need to hear it before you judge others. I was married at a very young age, soon after I lost my mother to domestic violence. I met a man and We eloped because I was pregnant and I thought I was in love. I had my child and right after my baby was born, my husband became very abusive and would sometimes force me to be have sex when I didn't want to. I was on a birth control patch and when I ran out he didn't care. He would force himself on me and I got pregnant three times. When I wanted to keep the child he would beat me, and even threatened to kill me. I never had a choice, Or atleast at the time I really felt like I hadn't. I finally built up the courage to leave him and found a shelter that would help me get away from him. 2 years later I moved to another state and met the most wonderul man, he loves me and treats me really good. He showed me traits in a man that I never knew existed. We've been together for four years and he wants me to have his child. I feel really bad about the 3 children I aborted and I think about it all the time but I feel that I deserve to be happy. My ex is in jail, where he deserves to be for what he did to me. And I for one know that every woman has a story. So before you go ranting at the mouth try to understand that if somone had three abortions they probably had a reason for doing what they did, and they don't need you making them feel any worse.

Seeing all these comments relieved me of my worries. I almost quite my marriage because i thought i could not XD have kids because of the abortion i had. But I can still have kids right? my marriage is about 5 months now

I had an abortion using the abortion pill.  If anyone who reads this is considering an abortion, don't do it.  Whatever circumstances you are facing can be worked out.  You probably don't see now how they can work out, but they will.  Babies are always a blessing from God, regardless of the circumstances in which they were conceived.

The pain, regret and consuming grief that follows an abortion is beyond belief.  I was a strong pro-choice advocate before my abortion.  Now, I never want any woman to have to suffer an abortion.  Abortion Hurts Women!  

If I can save one woman (and her baby) by sharing my story, I am happy to do it.  Pray to God to take care of you and the baby and He will make sure things work out. 

Hello! I was reading your post and you said We can ask you anything.I really badly needed a advice right now. I am 22 years of age and I had a abortion when I was 19. I am married now,and We want to have a baby,We want a family.But I am scared now coz many people told me that there is a possible that I can get pregnant anymore coz I had a suction abortion.My husband is 64 years of age and He had two kids from His ex wife.I know you surprised of our age gap.But it really doesn't matter right?LOVE can make things possible.I am hoping that you can help me and give me some advices.We really want to have baby...

lourima wrote:

Icebreaker wrote:

That just does not sound correct.

I work in womens health. ABORTION does not have anything to do with fallopian tubes, unless you get a massive infection that SPREADS. You would have known if you had a massive infection though..

KEEP ON TRYING!

You should also invest in a fertility monitor, so you can have sex at the time of the month that you are most likely to conceive.

You can do it.. Remember, it can take healthy couples up to one year to conceive, and that is when doing everything correctly.

Hello! I was reading your post and you said We can ask you anything.I really badly needed a advice right now. I am 22 years of age and I had a abortion when I was 19. I am married now,and We want to have a baby,We want a family.But I am scared now coz many people told me that there is a possible that I can get pregnant anymore coz I had a suction abortion.My husband is 64 years of age and He had two kids from His ex wife.I know you surprised of our age gap.But it really doesn't matter right?LOVE can make things possible.I am hoping that you can help me and give me some advices.We really want to have baby...

i am so sorry I GOT wrong type of the word CAN'T. i AM VERY SCARED i CAN'T GET PREGNANT ANYMORE.

I've had 2abortions and got pregnant again.

Hi I had two abortions I cry every nyt I had no choic my mom was very sick nd if she had to find out she would have died I'm trying to get pregnant bt can't what may be da cause

nikki3131 i had three abortions too and now i'm trying to get pregnant but no success. your post has given me so much hope. thank you :)

The actual abortion procedure takes approx. 4 min. Maybe not even that, it's very easy and very safe! Do not scare women into not being able to make proper choices for their life style! Have you ever noticed pro-choice people begging other women to get abortions? NO! So don't beg others and feed them BS to keep a baby if it's not in their plan! I knew someone who was married she was on the pill and her husband would also "pull out" and he got pregnant. Sometimes things happen.

possibly... talk to all docters and get tested.

when will you people get a brain! let me see if i can educate you!!!!! & respectfully ask you to mind your own business!!!! im 22 and have been with one and only partner - fell pregnant unexpectedly at the young age of 20 - I was not emotionally ready for a child, nor was I financially stable for a child either! The same went for my partner. WOMAN THAT GET AN ABORTION IS NOT FOR BIRTH CONTROL REASONS!!! IT IS BECAUSE BIRTH CONTROL HAS FAILED!! we are not horrible heartless selfish beings, nobody wants to put themselves emotionally & physically through it unless it is necessary to that persons situation - life is not perfect! in the case of adoption! why would someone who could not have a child (eg work, finance, emotional, relationship reasons etc) be fit to go through childbirth then give up their baby! I think the situation of adoption is for some more traumatic then an abortion! I know i couldn't hand my baby over! especially to some uneducated fool like you- Lets be real!!!! & consider this for me when you decide to judge the topic of abortion: rape (did one choose this, do they deserve to go through any more trauma!)? the under privilege - Every year 15 million children die of hunger - which is worse? an abortion or letting someone come into the world that you know you cannot support! where is god for that??? the total cost in today’s dollars is $448,000 for the average family to raise two children from birth to age 20. For the average couple with two children today, those children cost around $310 a week, or 23 per cent of average gross household income of $1,324 a week. - consider that and tell me that ALL people who fall pregnant are fit to have a child? child abuse - The most recent national figures in Australia, during 2010–11, there were 237,273 reports of suspected child abuse and neglect made - again which is worse?? - would you prefer a drug addicted teen to have a baby or get an abortion?? oh and if your answer is adoption!!!! the babies will suffer the withdrawal symptoms of their mother's addiction. there are numerous reasons why woman choose abortion & quite frankly it is a safe, responsible solution to most cases! so bite your tongue next time & educate yourself before you speak on such sensitive important topics.. do you really think we need to read what you write!!!!?? we all care enough then to be attacked about personal choice!

I think your opinion on abortion is ignorant. DUH. and you should have left before you had to get your first abortion...duh. saved those three children's lives. you should feel bad. Most people have a choice. you did. you could have left earlier.