%-) ? I need help in understanding why I cannot have an orgasm when having sex with my wife. I am 19 years old, and in good health. I have recently been having problems with the skin of my penis. I am certain that my skin problem isn't caused by anything bacterial, etc. I think that because I ride a moped each day, and have been doing so as a regular source of transportation, that the air that blows around me somehow has irritated the skin on my crotch. When I masterbate, certain lotions cause burning in certain parts of my skin on my crotch, but I am still able to come to orgasm. It is a different story when I have sex. During sex, my wifes vagina is perfect in that it keeps us both comfortable during sex, via it produces plenty of natural lubricant. When I have sex with her, my skin feels most comfortable, and doesn't burn like if I were to use lotion.
Bottom line --> I can have orgasm if I masterbate with my hand and lotion, but I cannot have orgasm when having sex. I bring my wife into having orgasm, and we make love for hours on end, but I can't seem to come to my own orgasm (even though I feel like I'm reaching climax at times). Is there any organic/natural medicine that can help me have orgasm. We both want children, and she wants to get pregnant, but I cannot get her pregnant if I do not have an orgasm while having sex. If there is such a thing as medicine that causes men to orgasm easier/more quickly, please tell me. Thank you for any information on this subject.
Bottom line --> I can have orgasm if I masterbate with my hand and lotion, but I cannot have orgasm when having sex. I bring my wife into having orgasm, and we make love for hours on end, but I can't seem to come to my own orgasm (even though I feel like I'm reaching climax at times). Is there any organic/natural medicine that can help me have orgasm. We both want children, and she wants to get pregnant, but I cannot get her pregnant if I do not have an orgasm while having sex. If there is such a thing as medicine that causes men to orgasm easier/more quickly, please tell me. Thank you for any information on this subject.
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Hi, I believe a lot of bike riders can have their genitals irritated from the seat, this happens quite a lot with professional push bike riders, so l cant see why a moped would be that different.
Your wifes vaginal fluid is the perfect lubricant, and would not irritate you at all, thats what it is for.
Also why not try not masturbating for a while, give it say two weeks, and just have sex, this might work as well.
But if you feel you have to masturbate (which is normal) ,use a natural lubricant like KY jelly, and then put on a condom, the lubricant will last, or if you cant get this product, get something something with out perfume im sure that will help in the irritation area as well.
Now your bottom line... cant orgasm with sex, have you talked about it with your wife, dont keep this to yourself, as lm sure she will understand, as long as you stress the fact that it is not about her, as she might get insecure.
You might be putting youself under a lot of mental pressure, thinking while having sex, that you cant orgasm, therefore catch 22 situation!!
You did say you feel like you can climax sometimes, but maybe then you put yourself under stress, thinking will l orgasm now???? and therefore once again it does not happen.
Try setting a lovely romantic scene, candles, relaxing, making it lovely and emotional, and see what happens, I feel like you have had orgasms before in the past, so if you have their is no reason why you wont again, keep this in mind and relax, mental stress is destructive in lots of ways. l wish you luck.
Your wifes vaginal fluid is the perfect lubricant, and would not irritate you at all, thats what it is for.
Also why not try not masturbating for a while, give it say two weeks, and just have sex, this might work as well.
But if you feel you have to masturbate (which is normal) ,use a natural lubricant like KY jelly, and then put on a condom, the lubricant will last, or if you cant get this product, get something something with out perfume im sure that will help in the irritation area as well.
Now your bottom line... cant orgasm with sex, have you talked about it with your wife, dont keep this to yourself, as lm sure she will understand, as long as you stress the fact that it is not about her, as she might get insecure.
You might be putting youself under a lot of mental pressure, thinking while having sex, that you cant orgasm, therefore catch 22 situation!!
You did say you feel like you can climax sometimes, but maybe then you put yourself under stress, thinking will l orgasm now???? and therefore once again it does not happen.
Try setting a lovely romantic scene, candles, relaxing, making it lovely and emotional, and see what happens, I feel like you have had orgasms before in the past, so if you have their is no reason why you wont again, keep this in mind and relax, mental stress is destructive in lots of ways. l wish you luck.
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I have the same issue; so at least you don't have to worry about the only guy who does.
Speaking entirely from personal experience - it never has got in the way of anything. I've found communication a good way to not make you worry about it :-)
Speaking entirely from personal experience - it never has got in the way of anything. I've found communication a good way to not make you worry about it :-)
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Since my post on steadyhealth, I have had sex with my wife twice, and both times I had an outstanding orgasm! Our sex life is wonderful. We both want to share love making with one another many many times. We want to be intimate each day, etc. Thank you for your input. I realized that I couldn't orgasm before because I was apparently "thinking" too much, and I just needed to relax and "let go" mentally.
May we all have great sex lives!
Woohoo!
May we all have great sex lives!
Woohoo!
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I was into my second marriage before I ejaculated during intercourse. No reason for it that I could find except that my second wife was so understanding and gentle with me in my anxiety because I had let the issue rule my life. When I finally accepted it and relaxed my mind, holding her was like coming home again and again. I finally did overcome it and it was just in my mind, but Linda did it and all she did was hold me when I felt less of a man. You are only 19 or so, but don't let this come between you. As to the skin on your penis, if the lotion burns make certain you do not use it. Of course her natural lubrican is soothing to you, it is made for you. Find a lotion or oil that is a natural product and one that will not cause you discomfort.
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