I just cant reach a climax and I try so much

Hi Sweetie,

I'm 24 and I am also a virgin. When I first started out it was difficult to maintain the right level of arousal like you were saying. This is normal but it sounds like you're stressing! being tense won't help you - orgasm, as I find it, will not happen unless you're relaxed (no worry thoughts). Deep breathing is a must!

What I'd look out for is a decent amount of wetness first (significant arousal). Rub your slit so that you can coat yourself and get swollen there. Deep breathing helps this.

Rub your clit in circles at different speeds and directions to suit you and what you find most pleasureable. If you're doing it right, the wetness will increase. you may even throb! You can add vaginal stimulation too, but it's unnecessary for me.

(it may take 10-15 minutes) your pelvic muscles will clench :) Good Sign! you may speed up or keep going at your speed and your breathing unevens/start gasping. You may experience anything from muscles spasms to gushing and the mystical female ejaculation!

You really have to persist and try different things though - it could be penetration/simple clitoral or vaginal or anal stimulation that gets you to cum.

Bottom line: If your really just having trouble maintaining high arousal levels: watch porn :3 seriously, I love it! it definitely helps when you're starting out.

I hope that helps you :3

Have fun sweetie! x