Hi, i'm embarrassed about this but recently my long term boyfriend and i have becoe sexually active. He has been in a sexual relationship before and is therefore more experienced than me however, the other day he fingered me and then about an hour after, i got severe abdominal pains and in my lower back, the pains went away after an hour but i'm wondering if it was my body reacting to the change because i have never had any kind of sexual relationship before. Also i was wondering if the same thing will happen if and when we have sex?
thank you :$
thank you :$
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I am not so sure if the act of fingering is really related to your abdominal and lower back pains. Theoretically, harmful bacteria can be introduced into your urethra if his fingers were dirty, resulting in a transient case of urinary tract infection.
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lisalouise,
firstly dont be embarassed
sexual activity is a part of life that most of us go through at times in our life.
and we are not all experienced in every aspect of sexual behaviour, we learn as we go along , or from the experiences of others.
it is understandable you are concerned about the pain aspect.
As a suggestion, before he does fingering inside your vagina again, see if he and you are happy with you having your nipples sucked (gently at first). and then if he can touch your clitoris, (or close by if it too sensitive at first).
If he can keep doing that for around 10 to 20 mins, (as long as it takes), you will probably become very sexually aroused, and penetration of your vagina will feel better, and you may well reach your climax, and have an orgasm.
this should be pleasurable , and pain free.
If it works ok for u then you can use that as a means of foreplay, and when you do decide to have intercourse with him for the first time, hopefully it will be a pleaseant and painfree experience for you.
firstly dont be embarassed
sexual activity is a part of life that most of us go through at times in our life.
and we are not all experienced in every aspect of sexual behaviour, we learn as we go along , or from the experiences of others.
it is understandable you are concerned about the pain aspect.
As a suggestion, before he does fingering inside your vagina again, see if he and you are happy with you having your nipples sucked (gently at first). and then if he can touch your clitoris, (or close by if it too sensitive at first).
If he can keep doing that for around 10 to 20 mins, (as long as it takes), you will probably become very sexually aroused, and penetration of your vagina will feel better, and you may well reach your climax, and have an orgasm.
this should be pleasurable , and pain free.
If it works ok for u then you can use that as a means of foreplay, and when you do decide to have intercourse with him for the first time, hopefully it will be a pleaseant and painfree experience for you.
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i agree with everything said and also would like to add that it may be due to lack of lubricant... if you dont climax or at least get close enough so that some fluid is down there then it may cause pain so please don't hurt yourself but try a little bit of the foreplay that whitbyhill suggested.
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