ive ben with my bf for almost 1 n a half year now ..Honestly ,He was a punk and liar ,n is an addict

Hi Sanchez,

This will sound cold.

You sound like a very caring person. Unfortunately, you aren't going to be able to help your boyfriend. If he is an addict, he alone needs to decide to break the addiction. He may need professional help too. Keeping him away from his friends is only temporary. He wants to go back to them.

The teachers being mad at him are not your concern.
His mom not helping is not your concern.

Tell his guidance counselors what is happening. If you find him doing something he shouldn't, call the police.

Keeping silent is not helping him get better. Getting him help now is what is more important than how your relationship lasts. He may hate you for doing this but long term, it will be the only way to help him and he may eventually come around.

Otherwise, look elsewhere. Move on with your life.

You tried to help him. He needs to want to stop his addiction himself. You can't change him only he can do that.

It is hard to understand, I know.

hunny i had the same problem as you not to long ago. i was dating a guy named josh and he was an alcoholic, smoked weed and tobacco, and even dipped. he even dropped out of high school twice and was working to get his GED again. like you i tried to get him to quit the more dangerous and ilegal things he did and tried to push him to get his GED. we hardly spoke to each other and his friends we're always arounf for our dates. i can tell you from experience someone like that arent going anywhere in life. you may think you love him or what ever but in all honesty with what hes doing he will drag you down in life and make things hard for you. when i was dating josh i didnt know how to handle him eigther but after a while i knew the best thing to do was to let him go. we broke up and honestly im alot happier. u may think you can get him to quit what ever hes doing and go to school but hunny you cant make him do anything that he already doesnt what to do. even if he tells you he quits know that you cant be around him and his friends 24/7 and he will put on a front saying he quit infront of you but when hes back with his friends he will be doing the same stuff as before as uv kindof already seen. hunny i know you may not want to but you may have to let him go. you deserve better and you will be happier in the long run trust me. now i have someone i see and talk to every day and treats me like a princess. i have someone who truly loves me and will go to the ends of the earth to make me happy. thats what every woman needs and its what you need. take my advice on this and let him go. dont cause yourself to much stress and unhappiness tring to make him someone hes not

Move on. Your not his keeper or his babysitter. You can not tell this person what to do or he can do it with. I am the mother of an x addict and all the worry in the world will not help. You can tell his mom, you can tell his teacher, you can tell the police...it wouldn't matter if you told the President, he is what he is. We ALL love to try and help someone we care about, this is a good thing but we can exhaust ourselves trying to be that person.

My youngest daughter (15) at the time, got involved with a punk at school. He was a druggie, he hung out with the worst of the worst, he got a few girl's pregnant and bailed on them, he got kicked out of school so many time's that they sent him to an alternative school, he got thrown out of there as well. His parent's didn't control him and let him do what ever he wanted. I could not stand this kid from the moment i met him. She eventually cut him loose and that happened when he picked her up one day with a 38. in his jacket pocket and bragged about it. I had been having a fit since day one, and when she told me about the gun i put my foot down, hard. She has never seen him again, thank God. I would never let him come to the house but i know she would sneak to see him. Well, that's history.

Find someone else that can make you happy and stop worrying about him and his antic's. We can't save the world.