Okay, Where do I start?
Well, I'm 20, and I've had sex around three times. I have no problems with getting erections and I masturbate regularly like most people do!
Anyhow, I've became involved with the person I consider the love of my life, She's 7 Years older, but that's irrelevant I guess.. We had been talking online for a while and we finally met Friday, The afternoon went amazing, and later on we headed back to the Hotel, We had music playing and before I knew it we had been doing foreplay for 2 Hours and really in the mood..
That's till, I pull out a condom ready to use and my erection dies! and i'm somewhat embarrassed, Anyhow she works wonders and it's back again, and then, I lose it again and I'm mortified, and feel real bad. I wanted to make love to her, yet this is letting me down! She was very understanding and we took it easy, eventually I satisfied her in other way's, but I was still dissapointed with myself, even after her trying to re-assure me. She said that we shoudl give it a go again in the morning.. I smiled and agreed.
Morning came, and the same issue happened again and I could of about died! She told me to take the condom off, and it helped - to some degree, It allowed me to penetrate her, (She's actually quite tight in that region, and perhaps one of reasons of difficulties), Until I slipped out and that was that..
But, I'm really upset about what happened, more so embarrassed, She assures me but still it's a hard hit to me.
I've had this issue with a previous ex. But that was only during putting the condom on, but managed to sustain a good erection throughout intercourse..
Any Idea's or help would be very helpful and most appreciated !
Regards
We can safely rule out physical problems if you can get hard erections while masturbating.
It is likely an anxiety or stress issue. Can you think of anything you might be nervous about? Maybe pregnancy? Not being able to please her adequately? Commitment issues? Lots of things can do this.
This is quite common. Fortunately she is understanding. It really does happen to a lot of guys, sometimes out of the blue.
Try to focus on her, not on the act itself. It will happen, eventually.
Hang in there.
Heya,
Thanks for your reply!
Well, I was all fine and was into the groove with things, I think the problem happens when I have to take my concentration off her to put the condom on, and I think that could be it, making sure it's on right etc. But even when it was on, I was trying hard to focus on her and perhaps made things worse. I'm not sure
Regards!
My erection does not last long, and it's really causing a lot of issues in my sex life. How can I maintain longer erections? Any medicines?