mariage,Family life ruined by Methadone

For someone who is going through the exact same thing right now, except I'm on the other side. I am the wife. I am young only 22 my husband only 24. We are not the norm; young couple struggling to make it on the right path. We are not the partying type. He was taking 4 10 mg a day, continuously for only six months. He started taking these after loratab were no longer working for a back problem. I know you have used for a much longer time, but you have come over one big hurdle: Acknowledging the fact that you need to get off the pills. My husband checked into a facility for help with detox and to receive medications for withdrawls. He actually went about everything the wrong way. He up and quit cold turkey without telling anyone what was going on. I strongly suggest getting some type of professional help or advice. No one in the family even knew he was taking Methadone. After the third day he hadn't slept and was driving himself crazy, literally. Thats when everything hit the fan and we decided to enter into a program. This has been the most difficult week of my life and I don't know where things will go from here. But I do know that if he had chosen to not get off the pills and continued to lie, I would have left him eventually. I know your situation is different, but I want you to know that people go through this everyday and homes are restored when the right steps are taken. It is obvious that counseling would probably be beneficial for both you and your wife, individually and as a couple. Hope that this helps and you realize this is possible, not easy but possible. Good Luck.

Im shocked to see there was only 2 post on this topic. I am only 26 and have been dealing with my boyfriend of 10 years taking these methadones. We have a 7 year old daughter that is crazy about him but he pays no mind to her (& I) and its caused our little family to go into flames. I tried to get him help and offered to pay for everything but he thinks he doesn't need help. He takes methadone everyday more than 10mg for 6 years and I HATE IT! Im so depressed bc of my daughter always crying for him but he'd rather be somewhere else high on Methadone. He will not listen to me and I dont know what to do. He's not been paying his bills and not paying our mortgage payments (we dont live together anymore bc of this & I left him the house) I just found out the other day that my house went into forclosure & its bc of his addiction to methadone. Its going to kill him & Ive cried for help but no one will listen. I just know it's going to be the death of him...I finally broke it off the other day bc I can't deal with this anymore but now I can't sleep at night bc Im worried to death. How do I get over this????

Wow....Interesting to read of the destruction. I experienced it first hand. I just recently weaned myself off of methadone after taking up to 120 mg's/day for the last 5 or so years (other opiate's prior). I have two kids (8 and 5) and am married. It was prescribed after a few back surgeries and diagnosis of chronic leg/foot pain. In fact I was scheduled for a 3rd surgery -a fusion, but decided to wait.

In any case, that stuff put me in another world. I lost all sexual interest (after always having a healthy sex drive prior) and started to detach from my wife and kids both emotionally and physically; I was just THERE---barely. Nothing really mattered anymore. I knew I HAD to get off the stuff but really feared the withdrawal. It is hell. Finally, about 6 months ago now, I had made it down to 20 mg's/day and cut off. It was tough for a few days and I felt weak /drained for a few weeks but today.....I feel 10 years younger (I am 42). The sex drive is back. I can look at my kids and feel connected; I notice things that for several years were just a blur...My daughters laugh, my wifes continued love despite years of detachment on my side (something I don't deserve), sunsets. In any case, we have had our problems; I had even tried treatment before but went back to the methadone.

As for the chronic pain...two things to say about that...first, my body's own pain killing system kicked in some once I got rid of the synthetic stuff...also, alot of my pain neuropathic (nerve damage) and new drugs such as Lyrica really help. Believe me...the pain must be dealt with on some level; it is a quality of life issue. I started exercising and swimming...huge help!

Finally, Speaking as a guy who had been on some opiate for about 10 years...vicodin, oxycontin, perc's -- It was like losing 10 years of my life. My message to those on this stuff is...there is a light at the end of the tunnel and allow yourself to have the life you deserve with your family (or just yourself). That stuff robbed me of who I was. Best wishes...

I've been on Methadone for 9 years now i've reduced from 80mls and switched to 10mls of Physeptone. My mrs left me and took our 2 kids they are currently in a Womans refuge. I have taken steps to communicate with her and we want to mend the damage this curse has brought on us. I completely lost interest in just about everything and had zero sex drive. My mrs and I had little or no relations in years she thinks i don't want her and don't love her because of it. I do love her very much and want to get off the final 10mls as soon as i can so we can work out our issues and be a family again. I hate what i have become and that my Mrs thinks i don't want her. I want my family back together more than anything in the world they mean everything to me. Does anyone know what i can do to ease withdrawels so i can get through this relatively comfortably ? I'm on a low dose of Physeptone 10mls but i need it gone out of my life if i'm going to earn my Mrs trust back and begin the healing process. I'm absolutely desperate and don't have much time.

The bottom line is you have to pay for your pleasure. The fairly benign misery associated with withdrawal is nothing compared to the years of pain your family and you have suffered through your addiction. Getting off narcotics hurts, but it's nothing compared to the pain of losing everything. There is no easy way. There is only inertness and action. And if you remain inert you will never be able to heal your relationship with your family.

I'm not saying methadone is the answer because I'm on it myself and it does make you numb to the world especially if your dose is high. I'm only on 65 mg and I don't feel like that. His dose is too high. I will tell you right now coming off methadone after 6 years is going to feel impossible to him. I was on it for a year and got off and it was doable but still horrible. I relapsed and had to get back on a clinic and after 7 years it was impossible. It felt a million times worse because I had been on it so much longer. The one thing that saved my life is called ibogaine. It will not only get him off the drugs it will change his way of thinking. Please research it let me know if you need any help I am a huge advocate of it. Methadone is one of the hardest things in the world to get off of and it feels impossible. He could at least lower his dose though if it's making him sleep constantly he's probably too high. He just needs enough to not feel withdrawal he shouldn't be getting high off of it like that. I am 36 year old female. I have a husband and 12 yr old son. My husband used to be on methadone as well and we've had many fights cuz he thinks I should be able to get off since he did it but he was not on his long as me..he was on 2 yrs compared to my 7 and he doesn't have any of the mental issues I have to begin with... which makes a huge difference with detoxing as well. If you're already an anxious person it makes it a million times worse

I agree but methadone is not that easy to get off of. Have you ever been on it? I was on it for about 2 years and I got off of it but it was absolute hell. I relapsed and had to get back on and I was on for 7 years. When I tried to detox then it was impossible. I have never in my life felt so horrible. And the worst part is that it lasts for months not just a couple days months. The only thing that saved me and that helped me get off of it is something caught ibogaine. It not only got me clean but it changed my way of thinking. It was absolutely amazing and it's what addicts need is a change in their way of thinking. so I agree that it's not good to be on because from personal experience I feel it numbs you to the world but it does allow you to live a normal life and not have to use drugs off the street. People who haven't been through withdrawal don't understand how hard it is and relapse prevention is even harder. Just like anything else if you want it enough you can do it but I wouldn't be so quick to say methadone is that easy to come off off because it is absolute hell and not easy at all

very well said!

have you ever lived with person on this sh*t? but you have taken this sh*t so you would not understand!!!

My husband has been on methadone for over 6 years, for not being "into me" anymore, or in his case, he seems to think he never has been. Yet, we have experienced huge highs, and super lows, because of his addiction. He works away from the home, and is currently also watching his step dad die, while living with his mom, who is likely falling to pieces.In the last month he started sexting another woman, because he wasn't happy, and then realized his mistake, so he made every effort to re-connect with me (emotionally, mentally and sexually - I've never seen him so hyped for sex like this).... then yesterday, he just pulls the plug on me.. Suddenly it's all been smoke and mirror, and the incredible connection that was rekindled was him just trying, but feeling like this whole marriage thing, and kids is too hard... I have no idea what to do!