I have been married to my husband for 1.5 yrs. We have been together for about 4yrs. We we were first together everything was wonderful... He was spontaneous, full of energy and we had a great sex life. After we had been together for a while he revealed that he was addicted to opiates. Since I am totally naive I had no clue and was totally in love with him, I decided to help him through his addiction. Since then he has relapsed a few times and would lie to me and steal my money, write bad checks on my account, etc. I found out I was pregnant right before I was about to break up with him (July 07). I decided to give him another shot and stick it out for the baby. We got married in Nov of 08 b/c he told me he was saving money in order to buy me a ring (which was a cover up for spending mine and his money on dope). He has been to the methadone clinic on 2 different occasions. Now, I am pregnant again and truly concerned. I think he is doing better. I am still naive and really have no idea what's going on. I think he has relapsed again. He went through about 2 weeks of hell from withdrawing from methadone, mainly complaining about restless legs and being unable to sleep. I massage his legs and try to help him any way that I can. He seemed to be doing better, started taking some initiative and helping around the house, but for the past 3 days it has been just like those 2 weeks of DTs. He is not very open and have no idea what he is going through. I know his problems w/ opiates started about 10-12 years ago and he has a family history of drug addiction (his father gave him his first vicodin). I need some advice; we are both depressed and want him to get better. I know he can be a good husband... he has a lot of potential. What can I do for him? When will his sex drive come back? What will help us? Why is he so moody? Will he ever be spontaneous and fun again?
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My heart goes out to you sweetie. My husband and i were both hooked on opiates but i spent some time in jail and that was my bottom. i have now been clean for 5 years. it has not been easy. i have had a few slips but nothing major. My husband on the other hand he relapsed and he got on methadone. The thing with methadone is that you just cant quit cold turkey. The clinic can detox him before kicking him out or he can just sign himself out of the program. I dont know your husband but there seems something is not right. If he was going to a worth while clinic they would not have not just kicked him out or just not dosed him. My husband has gone to 3 different clinic in the past 4 years. And at not point have they ever just kicked someone out and said go be sick b/c it is dangerous. You need to just ask him if hes useing again and put your foot down. It is hard my husband and i have been together for 9 years, and have 2 kids. He knows that he starts to use again he will be gone. We have put our children threw enough i refuse to put them threw anymore. From a mom to a mom put your kids first honey. Its not easy but they are more important.
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If it is too much for your right now emotionally, you need to get some help! Do you have family in the area who will help you and your husband? Having that support is crucial in getting through this and moving on to a happy and healthy relationship. My heart goes out to you as well. This can be a grueling process but there is a great deal of material out there and on the web to assist you with gaining more knowledge. Your family doctor would also be a great resource. If he won't go, you could make the appointment for yourself just to get some advice. Best of luck to you.
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i know exactly what ur going through i am going through the same...but unless they are ready to stop completely there is nothing u can do...rehab wont even help! just stop having children bc they get the worst of it all!!!! just go to church and start praying bc thats the only thing you can do!!
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