masturbation has done no good to me

Hello,

You need to stop is not for a month but for permanently because it is not good for your health as well sexual life...

You might want to see a doctor.  Masturbation does not normally - should never actually - cause back pain, change skin tone, erectile dysfunction, or any of the conditions you mentioned.  The fact masturbation is not harmful to your health is well established, but even so, ask a doctor you can trust about it.  Or are you in an area where this is so taboo that you cannot risk discussing this confidentially even with a doctor ? 

Something is wrong and it goes beyond masturbation.  There are many medical conditions which can give you those symptoms, some of them are very serious.  I wouldn't jump to any conclusions and assume this is an STD.  However, it does need to be checked out.

 

hello hypnomorphy, how can it be an std? i never had sex before..iam a virgin how can it be std when iam a virgin...will masturbation cause std? please say truly

I didn't mean to imply it was an std. What I meant is I wouldn't assume an std. But the symptoms need to be checked out. I don't think it is an std, especially since you have never had sex. I am sorry to have made you worry.

What I am concerned about it is you may have medical condition of some kind. Understand I am not suggesting this, this is an example only. perhaps one of the more than 100 types of arthritis. Many have symptoms you would not guess because some are autoimmune diseases like rheumatoid arthritis and lupis.

I don't know what is really going on. Maybe you just have a sore back, maybe you have spinal stenosis (narrowing of the spine), who knows? It is the changes in skin tone that have me concerned. Where is this occurring? How large an areas? When did this start? Did it develop gradually or all of a sudden? Has it gotten worse over time or has it been consistent? Anything else you can tell me about it?

Since I am not a doctor, the best way to find out is to go get it checked by a doctor. If this is just recent, I think it is ok to wait and see how it goes as long as you are not experiencing a lot of pain. Soreness is one, pain is another.

I really, truly, don't think you have an std, but your description does have me concerned something else is going on The questions I asked above would help shed some light on this.

Thanks,

Miles

hey hypnomorph so u sure that i dont have std? and also some semen is leaking when i urinate when i masturbate 2 drops are maximum for ejaculation ?i heard retrograde ejaculation i want to be a father in future what i have to do? plz say :'(

Only a doctor after having done the necessary tests could say for sure. And I am sure there is much I am not understanding. Ultimately, you are going to have to go to the doctor for anything like certainty. As someone who can give an opinion but not really know what is going on, I can only suggest seeing the doctor.

Is there no doctor there who will respect your privacy?

Hey Vishnu

Firstly like these guy's I am not a DR/health care professional,  my first piece of advice would be to go and get yourself looked at by someone who is.  I understand your culture is different to ours and you respect your parents, in turn they are highly respected in your community.  I am not sure about your laws and if you can see a Dr without your parents present if you could, simply see your family Dr alone, or go to the local hospital, another Dr or a sti clinic. I say sti (Sexually transmuted infection) clinic NOT because I think you have a sexually transmuted disease.  I believe whatever the issue is it's medical , and suggested this as an alternative to your DR/hospital as it may be cheaper and they would respect your privacy, you dont even need to give them a name sometimes, if you do make one up if you are very worried your family will find out.  Being a medical issue though shouldn't make your parents think any less of you, you cant help what happens to your body, just as your parents can not help what happens to theirs.

Looking at your post I am not able to help you with everything, being female and not medically trained I do not have the experience to know what the problem is, but I can answer some of it for you.  You mention you stopped masturbating as you feared getting an STI of HIV.  Vishnu you can not get either an sti of hiv from playing with yourself.  The only way you can get either infection is from contact (sexual contact) with another person, or in the case of hiv this is also contracted from blood, so your reasons for stopping masturbation were not necessary.

When you say masturbation now is not as enjoyable as it was when you were younger you feel you 'have lost your charm' you cant masturbate so much that it stops being enjoyable, and if you do loose some interest, you mention you stopped for a time so when you returned to it had it been becoming tiresome you would have had a new freshness to it.  Where I am concerned reading your post is the issue of back pain, and a change in your skins pigmentation.  Have you injured your back?  Or do you have any other symptoms such as burning or problems when you wee?  Our kidneys are located in our lower back (sort of) and I am wondering if perhaps you have a kidney infection it may not be helping the other issues.  A Dr would be able to tell you with a simple urine test if there was any infection, again this would NOT be related to masturbation if you did have an infection it just happens to guys and girls of all ages.  I would also suggest you ask the Dr to check your prostate,  this is the gland responsible for ejaculation amongst other things and although this is highly highly unlikely it is something else that needs to be ruled out as you are mentioning the lower back pain and issues holding an erection,  another possible reason is a hormone imbalance,  this may explain the skin pigmentation darkening, the loss of interest/sensation of masturbation and the problems maintaining an erection.  Again only a medical professional can take these tests for you and treat any problems you may have.

I lastly want to add, whatever the causes for this does not necessarily mean you wont be able to have children of your own, in fact it's highly unlikely this will be an issue and when you do have kids it does not mean there would be any health issues with them.  Again speaking to a Dr will be able to re assure you, find the cause and hopefully treat it, if there were any effects you could pass on to your children the Dr would make you aware of this, deformity would not be one of them I am quite confident when I say that so please do not worry.

The bottom line really is to get some one to take a look and run some tests.  I hope this has helped you<3

I am glad Violet Cherry commented on your case. She has a way with words and an impressive ability to connect with people even when only using text, as you can see here. She gives excellent advice.

The symptoms you describe really don't seem that strange to me. I know some types of autoimmune arthritis have some similarities because my wife has one. A friend of mine has a kidney infection with symptoms like Violet described. I have spinal stenosis and further back injury. My pituitary gland failed leading to wide spread hormonal problems.

Hormones are a real possibility for you. Let me briefly tell you a little more about that. Now please remember, I am not saying this has anything to do with your case. Without a doctor there simply is no way to know, the real diagnosis is most likely something we would never guess. This is only an example of how hormones really could be a factor. Also keep in mind this incredibly compresses what happened, the situation was/is more complex and caused issues that I could not possibly discuss here with anything close to justice.

By the time I was 17 years old, I started gaining weight despite remaining physically active. I was sexually active and had been since 12. My desire for sex kept dropping although I would respond to stimulus and was able to perform. Even though I could still go, the amount of pleasure I experienced was greatly diminished. Sometimes the orgasms would be so weak my partner would think I simply wasn't enjoying it. (I was, just not as much I should have.) The idea of an STI certainly crossed my mind among many other things. Eventually I rationalized it away. Sex became much less important to me, Eventually I just about lost all interest in sex.

I finally did get it checked out, and like I said above, my pituitary gland had failed. It has been described as the master switch of our glands. If it doesn't do its job the entire hormonal system is out of whack. If it had occurred earlier in my life, I would have had developmental issues. It wasn't a tumor or anything, it just slowed and then came to an almost complete stop. (This is important, almost is a whole better world than completely.)

Hormones are important for a lot of reasons. Without the right ones at the right strength you won't have kids. You will have medical complications - perhaps many - that could become life threatening. The satisfaction of your partners, whether short term or lifelong, can be diminished to the point where they leave you. I don't know how familiar you are with hormones, but there really isn't anything they don't impact. With a little bit of research you will see just how important they are and that if - remember this is only if, a big if mind you, but still if - you have a difficulty here you are going to have difficulty in many things.

Without knowing more it is really hard to give any other advice that to go see your doctor. If you want to provide more specific information I can tell you what I think but I really cannot see how my advice would change. I think you need to get this checked out. I don't think you need to tell them all of the parts you're embarrassed about. I think with a few tests they will figure it out without you needing to explain.

You should not be experiencing pain like you describe. There are many possibilities, some mentioned, others not mentioned yet like a kidney stone. (Trust me on this, don't get one, tell the little fragger this is not happening and go somewhere else and leave you alone. It won't listen to you of course, but at least you won't feel guilty about evicting it. Seriously, those really hurt!) Pain indicates there is something wrong and it needs to be checked out. You do not need to mention anything about your sex related concerns. The odds of them being related are really really small. If they are related for some reason, it would most likely be the cause of your sex related symptoms, not the reverse.

I really don't know what to make of the skin changes. You haven't really told us much about it. But even if it is affecting your penis, that doesn't mean anything by itself. Infections of the urinary tract, whether from kidney through bladder to the urethra, can have this affect. I am sure that is not the only possible cause.

If you want to provide more information for us to discuss, or if you just want to talk about it to help clear your mind, I would be happy to try to help. But I have to urge you to see a doctor to see what is going on. I have no idea what it is like where you live, so I really don't know how to help you get this done while protecting your privacy. I would normally expect that to be a given in the medical field, but maybe it is not that way there. In which case you need to look for alternatives. Do you have family or friends you trust well enough to turn to? Any teachers, counselors etc. ? What about Violet's suggestion?

How long has this been going on? This might not clear up on its own. Again, my best advice is to have this checked out, but I think there are ways to approach this without so much embarrassment to you.

thanks a lot violet cherry <3 for ur comment I give two to 4 drops of semen not exact white but yeah somewhat is this normal count I don't have retrogradfe ejaculation right please help