How do I go about talking to him about it.
We have been together for over a year, and the sex has been dwindling down fast. We might have sex one maybe twice a month. This wouldn't be as big a deal if he didn't jerk off every day. If I mention it to him he just denies it. I knows he dose it, he goes to the bathroom for a half hour and just says he was taking a poo. I have a hard time believeing he goes poo that many times a day, he never use to. I find porn on his phone, it's not even closed out as soon as you open safari it's in mid video, with maltipule tabs of it. I try to "catch" him by asking to look something up on his phone but he doesn't let me get on his phone after a bathroom trip.
I have just told him up front that it makes me feel tarriable that he would rather do it him self in secret than just ask me for a hand/blow job, and I'm not asking him to have sex with me.
I just don't know how to get him to talk to me and get him to stop.