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How I used to long to have my wife take me. I would have loved to hear "get on that bed, I'm going to sit on your face until you make my knees knock against your head. Then I'm going to lower myself down on whatever that is sticking up between your legs and keep doing it until you beg for mercy"
Ha! That was nothing but a dream!
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If he never even takes the time to ever try to please u in return than there's something seriously wrong and I'm worried about u
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You are not being selfish at all! sex isn't a one way street, You need something in return for what you're giving for SURE. I WISH my boyfriend would do that to me hahah. have a talk with her! communication is key.
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I feel I am in a similar situation as you. However, my boyfriend and I are not married yet (planning on it though), but we have been living together for 6 months and have been together for a year. And, even in this short period of time, I feel dissatisfied with our sex life. At the beginning of our relationship (first 6 months), he would always be the one to come on to me and initiate sex. We would have sex about 2-3 times a week and it was hot, fun, and enjoyable every time. Now, ever since we moved in together, we only have sex only once a week, (maybe) and there have been times that we have gone 2 weeks (half a month!!) without sex. And I am feeling pretty dissatisfied and frustrated right now. Our sex life has become predictable, mundane, and monotonous. He barely even lets me give him oral, and I love giving him oral!! He doesn't even like me touching him. And I honestly can't remember the last time he went down on me. Something always comes up and there's always an excuse like: "it's too early in the morning", "it's too late at night", "I’m hungry", "I’m tired", "I have to go to work", "I’m not in the mood", or my favorite, "I’m watching the game"... It's very frustrating because it makes me feel like he's not attracted to me, and it makes me feel as less of a woman. And I've told him all this. I've told him for the past 4 months how it makes me feel, but nothing has changed. And I've tried spicing things up, but nothing seems to work. Things don't change, and like in your relationship, we love each other so much, but this makes me doubt his love for me since he's not willing to understand me or my needs. Like you, I feel like he doesn't love me enough to try and change this. I feel I shouldn't have to literally “beg” my partner to have sex with me. One root of our problem I think arises from him pleasing himself too often. He likes masturbating and I think he does it more often than I would like or would like to know. I even almost consider this "cheating" because I think this is what is taking away from our sex life. If he masturbates and takes care of it on his own, then where do I come in??? I don't masturbate. I honestly just don't find it as enjoyable. I've tried it, but I would just much rather prefer to share intimacy with my partner... mutual sex... the natural way... kind of the way God intended... The thought of him masturbating grosses me out... because I think of him looking at porn and naked girls. And it seriously breaks my heart and gives me a kick in the stomach every time I notice he masturbated. It hurts me so much and I don't think he understands. What's more is that I know it's affecting me and our relationship. It makes me feel disrespected, and as if he isn't attracted to me and so needs to get off by looking at other naked girls. And at the same time I feel he's being selfish by only thinking of himself and his needs/pleasures and not considering my needs. And it's affecting our relationship because I feel dissatisfied and not as happy with our relationship as I was before. And, this isn't what I thought "living together" with the person you love would be like. You're right; people can change like flipping a light switch.
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