My boyfriend doesn't eat me out anymore.

I personally don't understand why a woman wouldn't love receiving,however maybe she's self concious about something? Have she bore children since the sex changed? Is she depressed?
Be careful how hastily you judge your marriage from the bedroom.It is extremely important I agree but as a woman I can say she is probably upset about something entirely different.Maybe try to be more interested in her outside of the bedroom and then when your in the bedroom bring a bit of light humour and fun into something new so she loosens up? Hope something here helps!

try buttering her up first. bring her flowers take her to dinner, get a can of whip cream and ask her if she would like to spice things up and tell her that you can stop any time she likes. it might help to tell her that you enjoy seeing her nude and that you are still attracted to her both emotionally and physically. Have you talked to your wife? maybe she dosen't realize she's changed or maybe you are unintentionally doing something that is turning her off.

You, dear, are whats known as a high maintenance whiner!

Guys eventually get turned off to that no matter how "hot" you look or how good your p***y feels. lol. Look at all the divorces among "hot" people.

Jerking off is pleasureable and fun for guys and girls. Your sound so demanding and already your placing restrictions on how he can enjoy himself. No wonder he's turning off to you. Sex should be fun, alone and together. He's more likely to stay with you and be a great life partner if you weren't so insecure about his having a hard on for you 5 times a week! I| have a feeling you place way to high an expectation on your men because your very insecure. You need to deal with that.

If you love him then try being more accepting and open and quit making it all about you and your needs. Guys get used to jerking off from an early age and we like it. Into our old age. lol. Guys have a range of sex drives. different from guy to guy, age to age, woman to woman. If you need a hard penis more than a great guy, find somebody else or learn to masturbate with a dildo. Better yet, don't make it such an ordeal either way.

I agree! When sex becomes a chore its just NOT fun anymore.....My bf got put on disability and Holy S##* has it affected our sex life.....he is home "bored" all the time and bit***s about sex not being "exciting" Well I have done a million different things and am more than open to trying more but he puts no effort in but bit***s non stop about everything since he "hurt" his shoulder. But he got on an online sex chat site about 2-3 months ago (or so he says) and now he is just obsessed with all the porn & our sex life is just LAME.....He puts no effort in and bit***s that *I* need to come up with new stuff.....Im game for anything that feels good what else is there to say to him to get him back in MY pants and clear his freakin head?? I want sex all the time and he says he does too but zero effort and lots of complaining makes it harder every day to try to always initate(sp) all the touching and what not. I feel like I have to rape him idk wth to do anymore:-(

These are good tips when i turn 18 real soon.
Good to learn things way ahead.
bc me an my bf. Been together for a yr.

Oh good. make it fun. this bull about sex a certain number of times a week to "prove" you love somebody is the problem. of course your turned on for each other in the beginning more so than as time goes on. do fun things together. Don't plan sex on tuesday at ten pm. thats crazy in my eyes. if you do and one partner is turned on and one is not, the turned on one can get pleasured by themselves or with the help of their partner. But don't start judging and pressuring the other partner to feel turned on and either get wet or get it up. Jeez. So much drama around a fun activity. jerk off if you want. in bed in the shower, together, separate, whatever! what is this? 1880 in the victorian era where masturbation is verbotten????? It's freakin fun to do and should not be judged buy the other partner. the freer a partner feel to be sexual in their own way the more likely you will be to have fun together. That's my experience anyway.

I hope no one goes down on you, chode.

I have the same problem! He doesn't sexually satisfy me! So i cheat on him to get what I need to feel happy and calm ! He doesn't care to please me only if he gets his blow job and a lay! It's been almost four years now and I don't give him blow jobs as much nor sex! I my get that satisfaction some where else! I use to be faithful! Not anymore!! I hope one day he will realize how selfish he is!

me and my man have been together for two years as well.. we used to do it all the time then he started denying me cuz he was too tired then cuz it hurt or any excuse.. now i basically beg for sex and it ends in a fight... i recently found porn on his phone... all i can think is bad.. is he not attracted to me. am i not good enough.. our sex life is so bad our relathionship has almost diminished.. I pamper him. cook clean anything he wants and if i even ask for something its a war... I have urges and needs.. should i just move on or accept our misserable life and have him??? please help me with some insight

I know exactly how you feel because I am in that situation. In fact, I am the person who posted the original LONG message 8 months ago saying that my boyfriend and I have literally almost no sex life and that he watches porn, which has affected our relationship. AND, well, guess what... 8 months later... IT IS STILL THE SAME WAYYYY. Nothing has changed. Like you said, I basically beg him for sex, because I too have urges and needs (that I would much rather enjoy them with him, than by myself or with someone else)... but nothing-- it just ends in a fight. We have had many many fights over this and he tells me he's going to change and a month later I find him doing that stuff again. We have been together for almost 2 years and have been living together for a little over a year. And, we have a minimal and almost NO sex life.  I have given him many many chances, but it always ends up the same way. I am at the point that I am thinking about moving out. I don''t see the light at the end of the tunnel and it sucks. I love him, and I know he loves me and cares about me, but his stupid "addiction" is definitely taking a toll on our relationship to the point that I can't even trust him and I have become soooo insecure about myself, like I am not good enough and like he is not attracted to me. I feel not wanted or needed... It STILL really sucks. :( I need some insight, too. still.... I feel like I have invested so much time and effort and energy and emotions into this relationship that I don't know if it's time to move on or keep trying.... 

You turned on ole goat .

Hell, I guess you can call me a freak then. I would LOVE for a woman to want me to constantly give her oral. I would never ask questions, I would just simply do it. I guess I am a just a straight up freak, because if I had a woman who always wanted oral and nothing else, I honestly wouldn't care. I'd give her all the oral she wanted, anytime she wanted. Not like I can't go spank it after she's done getting off. I don't know, man...that just sounds extremely hot to me...especially if she is the type goddess that can ejaculate.

Everyone is different though, some men are more subservient than others...and some women are more subservient than others. Just got to find that right mix. Me, since I am obviously very catering to a woman, not a single woman walks away unpleased. (At least none that has said otherwise...) and when my relationships end, they end to compatibilities in personality, not sexual. But to have a woman who NEVER wants to have intercourse, and constantly wants you to give her oral...would be a freaky fantasy come true for me. Like I said, freak...I know...straight up freak, but wow that sounds hot.

In my eyes you are a lucky guy, my man. You obviously simply was not custom tailored for her. Need to go find a woman who is more compatible with you, and let her move on and find a man who would be completely okay with her individual needs.

Oh, and to the OP of this thread....if you have not already done so, it's simply time to find you a new man.

Why do all that when you can find a man who would really appreciate you without any kind of a spell? We are everywhere...you just have to find us. It truly amazes me how much a woman will go through to keep a man who doesn't love her. The OP wants to keep a man who obviously does not love her...if he truly loved her, he would eat her out even if he was not turned on. Want to know why? Because he loves her so much, he wants to make her feel good even when he is not in the mood. He will not care if he is not in the mood, the simple fact that he knows he is giving her sexual pleasure will be enough for him.

And you...going through such lengths to keep a man who not only cheated on you (which should be enough to be finished with him right then and there) but left you, left his kids, and even after all that, you still want him? You know this will happen again, right? Shame...you try so hard to keep something that is not yours, when there are so many men out in the world that are willing to give themselves to you...completely, without reluctance and willingly...yet you struggle to keep somebody who wanted nothing to do with you.

Let those emotions go, think with your head when your heart gets in the way. Your heart serves you well in the beginning of a relationship...it gets in the way of logic after your relationship is no longer new. Wake up, women...stop struggling so hard to keep somebody who doesn't want you. And yes, it's true, once a cheater always a cheater...mark my words, he WILL do it again. He left you for another woman...he came back to you because something changed between them, not because of some spell. And he went back to you as his backup...not because you were his first choice. Wake the hell up and stop wasting your life on a man who would leave you for something he considered better than you.

And if you don't want to hear my advice and logic...fine...it's your life. Waste it away.

Just f*****g dump his ass... he would eat out a girl he really was turned on by "he's just no that into you".