Please, since you are a praying person, please pray for my family, as well. Husband quit cold turkey, and is displaying ALL of these things except the physical violence. He's indicated a divorce might be nice, that he never loved me, that he only "loved" me because he was high for ten years, and on and on. Please pray for us--we are Christians, we have a young son, we are in counseling (Christian). We just need prayer that my husband will find his way back to God.
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You just summed up my life perfectly. If I had any place to go I would be gone. I am sick of living with a narcissistic stoner
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That is exactly what happens when my husband quits. (He has smoked for 40 years) I come home and he says we're selling everything and moving. Claims he hates living on the farm that we've worked on and built with love, says he's not happy, wants a divorce, and yes it is my fault because every little thing I do irritates the he!! out of him. He's very aggressive and angry. When you look at him it looks like every muscle in his entire body is flexing and he's gonna explode at any little thing. He walks fast everywhere he goes, won't speak, won't look at me or even acknowledge I'm there, throws stuff. When he smokes he's the most cool, funny, humanitarian I've ever met. I'm confused, heart broken, and afraid this is going to wreck everything. It's not the first time this has happened. Last time he was on a motorcycle trip with his buddies for 2 weeks. He acted the same way then. He just got medical card but says he's gonna quit. If I knew what to do to make it better for him I would. I want to give him space but then he gets really really mad and says if you leave don't come back. So I guess he wants me there so he can verbally and mentally abuse me? So far I have stayed and just try to remain calm when he verbally stacks me and not cry. Crying really pi&&es him off.
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Lol. I dread trying to engage in a loving way with withdrawing husband. He treats me with contempt. I can guarantee how he will be when he runs out. He doesn’t want to stop so if he can’t get it I am sentenced to a few days of being treated like I am sh*t for as long as he has to wait. It does frighten me, it takes me very down, I live on eggshells and a constant state of sad anxious heightened awareness to try to survive it mentally. I don’t want to go home when I know there is none. The equality and security in our relationship is at his mercy and I can do nothing about it. I can’t reach him under any circumstances and he holds me responsible and extremely inaddaquat and an annoyance until he has a smoke. Then he is kind and loving and protective etc. But there is nobody protective of me when he wants to take his issues out on me. To “get rid”, is an unreasonable reaction though.
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Wow, I have a fiance of 8 years who is addicted to weed. He is protective, loving, loyal and funny but when he runs out of weed he is distant, aggravated, unhelpful, moody and as I found out last night a bit aggressive. It makes me anxious when he has got no weed as his moods change and he is not the same man. He always blames me for his moods saying that I keep on at him he says that the weed is not a problem, I am. It is a rollercoaster, living with an addict. I dont mind him smoking weed as long as he never runs out. Last night he threw the phone at the wall behind me he then pushed me out the room with force and told me to f@@k off as I was having a go at him about his addiction and how it affects me. I stayed downstairs, he then came down and said that he cant put up with my sh*t anymore and is moving out and he doesnt want to be with me and he will take all his things tomorrow. I love him so much and I'm scared that ive pushed him to far. I do deserve better but I love him. I run my own businesses and so far today I have been trying to get hold of some weed in hope that he comes home, smokes it and changes his mind. He wont quite because he says he enjoys it. When he is smoking it, I have got him to admit he has a problem but when hes run out everything is my fault. What will be will be and I am a very strong independant person but I'm weak when it comes to my relationship. Just wanted to share as it gives me some comfort that others are in my position and I am powerless when he is in denial.
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Hi, my husband and I have smoked for 12+ years. He had to stop due to Vertigo. I was able to over come withdraws quickly. He has had tons of melt downs, nothing is ever right. The slightest things set him off. He blames me , hates me ex... It has been almost a month. I hope things get better.
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Hi! I am so relieved to read that I am not alone. I broke up a 7yrs relationship yesterday because of weed addiction. My partner is not aggressive at all, well at least I haven’t seen that side. But it was so hard for me to make the decision. We were planning on having kids next year! I am so heartbroken!... but I am exhausted already, I can’t deal with this lifestyle anymore and it’s affecting me. Weed became the center of everything and it dictates when are we leaving our house, where are we going, sex life, the attractiveness of the person, the mood, smell it’s just not what I want. I am used to people telling me, you can’t change a person, and it became so hard for me to accept that weed defined someone. I saw it as this, I loved this person so much, but when I was deeply in love was when that person had nothing external, without money, without nice clothes or better, without clothes, without makeup, without alcohol or weed, just the very pure personality of that person. What I didn’t realize was that, that person is weak, really weak. Because of this weed becomes part of this person and I just had to cope with that. That is not what I want anymore, I’m over it and I will heal myself and go achieve my goals, one way or the other.
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I'm going through very similar things as well. The only difference is that I'm 6 and 1/2 months pregnant. He's quit before in the past. I hate it. I think everything finally got better after 4 months or so. He was off of weed for almost a year. Could've been longer. He's 1 month in this time and I feel hopeless, useless. He even lashes out at our 8 year old who's a "daddy's boy". It breaks my heart and I hate feeling vulnerable. We've been together for 18 years, today. I try talking to him about it and he lashes out. We're not intimate. Haven't had sex in 2 months. He doesn't want to. I don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I can "hang in there". In the past, if I got to this point when he would quit, I'd go get some for him. I know that was wrong. I can't do that anymore. It amazed me that I'm not alone. Anyway, just wanted to share my story. Good luck to everyone
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