Hi im about to be 17 and sexually active with my girlfriend. I have never been able to reach the point of actually egaculation all i ever get is precum in mass amounts sometimes. Yesterday during sex the condom broke i have never egaculated before so i do not know what it would feel like but im almost postive i did not and i know that their was some precum in their, So im confused on what to do from worrying and hoping shes not pregnate or going to get a morning after pill. Also she just got off her period two days ago. So what are the chances that she is pregnate from my precum when ive never reached full egaculation and why do i only produce precum?
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sometimes ill wake up and it will look like i pissed my bed but i didnt its all the precum clear white and sticky im so worried from this whole situation and i cant stop thinking about it.
sometimes ill wake up and it will look like i pissed my bed but i didnt its all the precum clear white and sticky im so worried from this whole situation and i cant stop thinking about it.
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Wow - so a lot is kind of going on here...I'll try to help with as much as possible.
1st - a question - have you ever had an orgasm and ejaculated from masturbating, or is it only when you are having sex that you don't ejaculate?
There is ALWAYS a possibility that a female can get pregnant if you penis enters her. There is conflicting evidence about sperm content in 'precum'. Some studies have shown there is a small amount of sperm (especially if there was a previous ejaculation), and some have shown there is not enough viable sperm to cause pregnancy. Based on the conflict - the safest approach is to always assume there is a chance of pregnancy if you penis enters a vagina without protection!
Now, in your case I don't think we can be 100% sure that the 'precum' you describe in mass amounts is not actually semen. I think I would have to talk to you in more detail to figure that out. I think the best bet for you both is that she gets a pregnancy test. There is certainly no downside of her testing herself.
Now - on to the stuff happening when you are sleeping. If there is so much liquid that it could be confused for you 'pissing your bed', then I would have to lean towards that being semen, and that you had a wet dream. I think in general 16 is a little young to be producing 'precum' in such large quantities that you could not tell if it was in fact 'precum' or semen - not that it is impossible. Again...this is just an educated guess based on my education in development, and what would happen in the 'typical' 16 year old boy.
I wish you the best of luck. I would love to hear a little more about if you are able to ejaculate when you're masturbating, and your experience with having orgasms so I could give you a little more specific advice.
1st - a question - have you ever had an orgasm and ejaculated from masturbating, or is it only when you are having sex that you don't ejaculate?
There is ALWAYS a possibility that a female can get pregnant if you penis enters her. There is conflicting evidence about sperm content in 'precum'. Some studies have shown there is a small amount of sperm (especially if there was a previous ejaculation), and some have shown there is not enough viable sperm to cause pregnancy. Based on the conflict - the safest approach is to always assume there is a chance of pregnancy if you penis enters a vagina without protection!
Now, in your case I don't think we can be 100% sure that the 'precum' you describe in mass amounts is not actually semen. I think I would have to talk to you in more detail to figure that out. I think the best bet for you both is that she gets a pregnancy test. There is certainly no downside of her testing herself.
Now - on to the stuff happening when you are sleeping. If there is so much liquid that it could be confused for you 'pissing your bed', then I would have to lean towards that being semen, and that you had a wet dream. I think in general 16 is a little young to be producing 'precum' in such large quantities that you could not tell if it was in fact 'precum' or semen - not that it is impossible. Again...this is just an educated guess based on my education in development, and what would happen in the 'typical' 16 year old boy.
I wish you the best of luck. I would love to hear a little more about if you are able to ejaculate when you're masturbating, and your experience with having orgasms so I could give you a little more specific advice.
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Ty for answering but no i am not able to igaculate ever i have never been able to get myself their from getting blowjobs from girls to having sex to masterbating by myself only thing i ever get is the clear sticky substance and the same with the wet dreams only a clear liquid. but ive never felt like i had anything ready to just burst out or anything diffrent from just regular only feeling i get is from the actual sex i never go beyond precum.
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Ok. Some questions:
1) How old were you when you started puberty?
2) How often do you masturbate or have some other kind of sexual contact?
3) If you have an idea - how do you compare to your friends as far as sexual development...meaning the amount of pubic hair, the growth of your penis, etc.
4) Do you get an erection when you are masturbating or having sex? Does it stay hard the whole time?
5) What makes you stop masturbating or having sex if you don't have an orgasm? At what point do you decide to stop?
I'll try to help you out the best I can!
1) How old were you when you started puberty?
2) How often do you masturbate or have some other kind of sexual contact?
3) If you have an idea - how do you compare to your friends as far as sexual development...meaning the amount of pubic hair, the growth of your penis, etc.
4) Do you get an erection when you are masturbating or having sex? Does it stay hard the whole time?
5) What makes you stop masturbating or having sex if you don't have an orgasm? At what point do you decide to stop?
I'll try to help you out the best I can!
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1) How old were you when you started puberty?
im not exsactly sure but i started to get pubic hair and leghair ec. only like a year ago
2) How often do you masturbate or have some other kind of sexual contact?
i hardly ever masturbate but in the past month or two ive been getting a ha****b at least once twice a week and sex once twice a week
3) If you have an idea - how do you compare to your friends as far as sexual development...meaning the amount of pubic hair, the growth of your penis, etc. with pubic hair i dont really have a problem with that grows like a weed annoyin as hell my penis size im not really sure dont have anything to compare to but its like only 2-3 inches limp and 5-6 hard
4) Do you get an erection when you are masturbating or having sex? Does it stay hard the whole time?
i get an erection when im making out with my gf mastubating i can keep an erection for alot longer than when im having sex normally i can keep a full erection for maybe 10 minutes but then its more of a half and half where i have the size just not the hardness
5) What makes you stop masturbating or having sex if you don't have an orgasm? At what point do you decide to stop?
when i feel exhausted from having sex so like 30-45 minutes or when masturbating when my penis will start to hurt so about 30 minutes and from all the times ive had sex and checked the condom all thats in their is a few drops of what i belive is precum and the same with masturbating sometimes theirs more than others but normally i only recive a few drops for the first like 10 minutes of masturbating.
im not exsactly sure but i started to get pubic hair and leghair ec. only like a year ago
2) How often do you masturbate or have some other kind of sexual contact?
i hardly ever masturbate but in the past month or two ive been getting a ha****b at least once twice a week and sex once twice a week
3) If you have an idea - how do you compare to your friends as far as sexual development...meaning the amount of pubic hair, the growth of your penis, etc. with pubic hair i dont really have a problem with that grows like a weed annoyin as hell my penis size im not really sure dont have anything to compare to but its like only 2-3 inches limp and 5-6 hard
4) Do you get an erection when you are masturbating or having sex? Does it stay hard the whole time?
i get an erection when im making out with my gf mastubating i can keep an erection for alot longer than when im having sex normally i can keep a full erection for maybe 10 minutes but then its more of a half and half where i have the size just not the hardness
5) What makes you stop masturbating or having sex if you don't have an orgasm? At what point do you decide to stop?
when i feel exhausted from having sex so like 30-45 minutes or when masturbating when my penis will start to hurt so about 30 minutes and from all the times ive had sex and checked the condom all thats in their is a few drops of what i belive is precum and the same with masturbating sometimes theirs more than others but normally i only recive a few drops for the first like 10 minutes of masturbating.
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Ok...thanks for the answers. 2 more questions - then what I think...
Do you know what an orgasm is? Have you ever felt an increase in pleasure while you were doing something - or a pumping type feeling? AND - Does it feel good to you when you masturbate or have sex?
My opinion -
You are still right in the range (about 1 year after puberty starts) where some boys don't ejaculate yet. You seem like, though, you are right where most 16 years olds...a good amount of pubic hair, and your penis is exactly at the average size, and you still probably have a little more time to grow down there too!
I'm still not convinced that the 'few drops' is not semen. That is really difficult to tell really right now I think. What color is it? Has your girlfriend ever seen semen from another guy - maybe she can tell you if it looks like what she has seen before...or (you're 16) have you ever seen it in a 'movie'?
My advice -
Try to wait a week of more (if you can) without ANY sexual activity. When you are alone, and have a lot of uninterrupted time, do whatever you have to to get yourself REALLY excited and aroused. Don't touch yourself until you almost physically can not wait any longer! Then, try masturbating with lube of some kind...just to give you a different feeling. Relax, and just go with whatever feelings your body gives you. Don't be 'trying' to ejaculate. Just go with the flow. I think with the lube you will be able to go longer...and if you make sure your state of arousal is super high the entire time you might just figure out how to get to where YOU need to be to ejaculate. It is different for every person.
FINALLY - and this one completely depends on you...is there a friend you age you trust? It's fairly common for guys your age to experiment with friends. If you and your friend are TOTALLY comfortable with it, maybe you can watch a friend masturbate, see how it works for him, and he can give you advice if he thinks there is something you need to do different. I think it's absolutely try that no one knows a guy's body as much as a guy. Again...this one would depend completely on your beliefs, and your relationship with your friends.
Do you know what an orgasm is? Have you ever felt an increase in pleasure while you were doing something - or a pumping type feeling? AND - Does it feel good to you when you masturbate or have sex?
My opinion -
You are still right in the range (about 1 year after puberty starts) where some boys don't ejaculate yet. You seem like, though, you are right where most 16 years olds...a good amount of pubic hair, and your penis is exactly at the average size, and you still probably have a little more time to grow down there too!
I'm still not convinced that the 'few drops' is not semen. That is really difficult to tell really right now I think. What color is it? Has your girlfriend ever seen semen from another guy - maybe she can tell you if it looks like what she has seen before...or (you're 16) have you ever seen it in a 'movie'?
My advice -
Try to wait a week of more (if you can) without ANY sexual activity. When you are alone, and have a lot of uninterrupted time, do whatever you have to to get yourself REALLY excited and aroused. Don't touch yourself until you almost physically can not wait any longer! Then, try masturbating with lube of some kind...just to give you a different feeling. Relax, and just go with whatever feelings your body gives you. Don't be 'trying' to ejaculate. Just go with the flow. I think with the lube you will be able to go longer...and if you make sure your state of arousal is super high the entire time you might just figure out how to get to where YOU need to be to ejaculate. It is different for every person.
FINALLY - and this one completely depends on you...is there a friend you age you trust? It's fairly common for guys your age to experiment with friends. If you and your friend are TOTALLY comfortable with it, maybe you can watch a friend masturbate, see how it works for him, and he can give you advice if he thinks there is something you need to do different. I think it's absolutely try that no one knows a guy's body as much as a guy. Again...this one would depend completely on your beliefs, and your relationship with your friends.
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Ok well honestly i have never felt like its described a great change in pleasure its just the same thing the whole time. i can make myself feel a pumping thing which feels good but all i do for that is have an erection apply some pressure and move the musscle that allows u to move ure penis but it doesnt do anything or last its all me doing it. also yes it feels amazing to do both but honestly i feel like its almost the same and i have done the wait awhile thing and masturbate including with lube and theirs no change. Also yes ive seen a movie with some egaculation and it looks nothing like mine theirs is a white milky substance mines either completley clear or with a orangey tint on a good day like its mixed with pee.
So are you saying that its average for someone to have just precum and no semen as in havent hit full puberty yet or a "late bloomer" and if so would that mean that i shouldnt need to be worrying so much as im not even physically able to egaculate so i cant inpregnate a girl. And actually ive tryed the masturbating with a friend thing it really didnt show me much i do the same thing and they all seem to be able to do it wonderfully but i cant.
So are you saying that its average for someone to have just precum and no semen as in havent hit full puberty yet or a "late bloomer" and if so would that mean that i shouldnt need to be worrying so much as im not even physically able to egaculate so i cant inpregnate a girl. And actually ive tryed the masturbating with a friend thing it really didnt show me much i do the same thing and they all seem to be able to do it wonderfully but i cant.
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Well - thanks for answering all my questions so I could try to help you best.
Yes - it is normal in the early stages of puberty to not be able to ejaculate...but you should still be able to have a 'dry orgasm' even if you can't ejaculate. You can technically have an orgasm before you even reach puberty.
If you have masturbated with a friend, and your penis and testicles appear to be a similar size, and you are doing the same thing as him...then I'm not sure what to say.
I hate to suggest this because I know it's difficult for a guy your age - but I think it can't hurt to mention this to your doctor. I'm a little more concerned that you can't have an orgasm honestly...especially when someone else is masturbating you...that usually makes it REALLY easy to have a fast orgasm for a guy your age. I don't really think they will find anything wrong - and will most likely just say that you are not to that point in your development yet - BUT, without seeing you personally none of us on here can say that. I think the safest bet is to mention it to the doctor!!!
Good luck!
Yes - it is normal in the early stages of puberty to not be able to ejaculate...but you should still be able to have a 'dry orgasm' even if you can't ejaculate. You can technically have an orgasm before you even reach puberty.
If you have masturbated with a friend, and your penis and testicles appear to be a similar size, and you are doing the same thing as him...then I'm not sure what to say.
I hate to suggest this because I know it's difficult for a guy your age - but I think it can't hurt to mention this to your doctor. I'm a little more concerned that you can't have an orgasm honestly...especially when someone else is masturbating you...that usually makes it REALLY easy to have a fast orgasm for a guy your age. I don't really think they will find anything wrong - and will most likely just say that you are not to that point in your development yet - BUT, without seeing you personally none of us on here can say that. I think the safest bet is to mention it to the doctor!!!
Good luck!
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Well ty VERY much for this help it has given me some peice of mind ive been worried all day and i still will be im sure but this info will give me some peace of mind.
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My pleasure buddy. Get that pregnancy test for your girl. We're here if you need anything else!
Good luck - and be good...and safe!
Good luck - and be good...and safe!
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