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Hey all, i just thought i would come on here n let some steam off. The thing is i lost my baby 7 months ago and today would have been my due date so am a bit down, i was wondering is this normal afterwards for this to happen, i dont want to talk to none of my friends and family coz i feel they dont understand and i just feel so lost and alone n that i am a failure. please help!??!
Thank u in advance. xx

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Your feelings are normal but you should be able to keep them in check.
You are not a failure and the loss of a baby either by nature or by choice is a hugh. Sadness comes with a natural loss of a baby and you are certainly entitled to greive, but you also can not let your greif take you over. Many first pregnancies end up miscarried, for some reason it just does, and doctors don't even know why. Both of my girls lost their first baby and so did i. Ya know, i hate it when someone says, "it was meant to be" so i never use that cliche, it just happens that way.
You know your friends and family, i don't, so i can't tell you to choose a close friend or a close member of your family to talk to, only you know how they will respond, or do you? You may be pleasantly surprised.
This would have been your baby's birthday. Quietly embrace it within yourself, then move on. Yes it is sad, i know, but you have to get passed it.
If you can't feel happy on your own, might i suggest a little therapy? There are groups of women that are going thru exactly what you are, you are not alone. Each person has a different story to tell and if you join in you will be surprised at the calmness and the acceptance that you will feel. Don't forget your baby, keep that sweet memory close to your heart, just move it off to the side a bit and continue on with your life.
You are not alone your certainly not a failure.
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Just remember that what you feel is not reality. Just because you feel like you're a failure doesn't mean that you are. It's just a feeling that you have. Your friends and family will completely understand, so you should feel comfortable talking to them as well. They will totally understand where you're coming from and will comfort you, so feel free to reach out to them, too.
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