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It’s quite easy for someone who hasn't experienced a miscarriage to appear insensitive and/or indifferent towards women who have had one. This article will help explain some steps to take which can help women who have experienced a miscarriage and will also help them get through the emotional pain.
Don’t blame yourself and forgive yourself
It is very important to take note that the incidence of miscarriages is very high. This doesn’t take away the fact that this issue causes a lot of emotional pain, but rather that the expectant mother shouldn’t blame herself for this occurrence.
Most miscarriages are due to chromosomal abnormalities, which is an issue that is out of the mother’s control and has nothing to do with any neglect from the mother’s side.
There may be some instances where the mother’s actions have led to the miscarriage, but you must forgive yourself.
Try to determine the cause of the miscarriage
Your doctor should discuss any possible causes of the miscarriage. There may be some reversible causes such as tobacco use, alcohol intake, increased stress levels, chronic conditions, the use of certain medications or gynaecological issues such as ovarian cysts, etc. which can be addressed and managed accordingly.
If the doctor can’t help you pinpoint a possible cause then you can take some solace in the fact that the miscarriage wasn’t caused by the above-mentioned issues.
Most of the time even if the cause of the miscarriage was determined, there would still be very little one could do to save the pregnancy.
Rest and relaxation
Although this is easier said than done, it’s very important that it happens. You should try to rest and take some time off (your doctor can also help to book you off if you’re working).
The experience of a miscarriage is not only emotionally draining but physically draining too. Therefore resting will help to reduce already elevated stress levels which will also help reduce the physical pain you may be experiencing.
Reduction in stress will also help control mood swings and irritability due to the experience as well as hormonal imbalances in the body due to the pregnancy. Relaxation therapies such as breathing exercises, prayer and meditation have been noted to help reduce stress and tension.
Speak to other women to whom you can relate to
Speaking to someone who hasn’t experienced a miscarriage may feel very uncomfortable and the person won’t be able to empathize with you, which is what you’ll need at this time.
By speaking to others who have experienced this situation, you’ll see that you’re not alone and it will help you understand why miscarriages occur. This will also help you get the support you need to get through this situation because they have been through the same problem.
Everyone deals with a loss differently, but interacting with people with whom you can relate to will help you with this process.