strange feeling (almost pain) after strap-on ...

Hi Andy, So, I did some research and here is what I found, sometimes when engaging in anal sex the recipient can get tearing inside, called anal fissures, no matter if they are really small and don't bleed enough to be seen on the outside, ie, when you wipe, they are extremely painful because this area is really sensitive and are regularly being re-irritated by bowel movements. I don't know what or if you used any lubricant, but if not then you would be more likely to tear, if you did use something & had a tear, you could also be irritated by the lubricant as well. If you were bleeding inside it would come out, it has nowhere else to go but out & unless it was mass amounts would not be overly concerned. The weakness could be psychological, because you are worried that something is wrong. Also, If you did use a lubricant, this could be the cause for your loose stool as they can be irritating to the colon walls. You said you are never doing this again but if you should try it again, or try it with your gf as the recipient, try using just your finger first to loosen the rectum before a sexual device or penis, it may help in not getting anal tears. I hope this was helpful and put your mind at ease. Good luck to you! P.S. You might notice some traces of blood when you have bowel movements, but, if this pain does not go away in a few more days, or you begin to bleed more than a drop or two on the toilet paper after using the bathroom, then I would seek medical attention.  

Thank you so much for the reply.. I'm probably overreacting. I know it's stupid., but we actually used vegetable oil as a lubricant... I feel better now , but I'm just worried because I can't seem to normally use the bathroom....I have some problems..ehm... "pushing stuff out". I feel like I'm actually full, but nothing comes out when I try... So I was worried maybe there was some kind of bowel detachment and the 'waste' gets stuck somewhere on the way out...Is that possible?

Well I guess it's possible, but very unlikely. Your bowels are used to going only one way...and they were forced to go they other way, it will take a bit for it to relax. don't try to force stuff out, you will get the urge and the colon will do the work when it's ready, pushing will only serve to maybe tear you further if that is what's going on. Drink lots of water to keep from becoming constipated, as your colon is very good at removing the excess liquids from your bowel movements for your body's use, keep hydrated! It really will help in moving things along.

Alright, I'll drink more water and hopefully it all returns to normal functioning mode... Ah, thanks again... I feel almost no pain anymore, so that should be a good sign. Although I'm still afraid if something is stuck somewhere and doesn't come out for a long time.. And what if I keep eating, will it all burst inside?

no it won't burst inside, however, you should avoid heavy meals, (eating large amounts at one time) and don't eat a lot of bready foods, try eating some salads, (ruffage helps clean you out) and fiber. I was going to tell you too, don't take any laxatives either, in an attempt to clean yourself out! most of those have stimulants that will cause your colon to spasm, not a good idea! Eat several small meals throughout the day, and drink plenty of fluids, i bet you will be back to normal soon.

Thank you... Ahh I feel embarrassed now, overreacting like a baby over this...

You know what? You tried something new, you didn't know what to expect, and anytime your body does not feel right, you should ask questions Andy. I don't know you, I am not going to go post this on facebook or something....ha ha No worries, that's what makes SteadyHealth.com such a great site, you can ask the most embarrassing, deeply personal questions that you need answers to, and no has to know who you are. I am on here almost daily and if you ever have anything you need to ask, you can always PM me, & I will do whatever I can to help you, if I can't find you an answer, I will do my best to find you someone who can. Glad I could help..

Anal sex requires preparation for the male. You should do this either sitting on the toilet, or standing in the shower. Basically you take a hot water bottle with warm water and douche. Insert it, push some water in, and if there is any thing in there, it should wash out. Do this a couple of times.If your bowels are not empty then the act could be impacting , making it hard or even painful when you need too c**p again.Your prostate is inside your anus, and stimulating your prostate should be very arousing. But starting with a full size strap on , and two inexperienced people can end up being painful. She should start with a finger, rubbing around the outside, then sliding her finger in. This should feel good and then when you know what to expect, you should be able to relax your muscles. Usually the best way for the first time is to have her lay down, and then you can sit on it and control how fast and deep you go. If you have gotten ready, start by pushing out like you do when you take a c**p. When the sphincter muscle is tight, it causes a lot of pain. Just ramming some thing in is usually a bad experience to start with. After you know what to to you can become more adventurous.