Teen Son: 13, caught masturbating by mom

First off, I know this topic is old, but to all the mothers out there I have something to say to you, right after answering my friend above here...

The EXACT same thing happened to me and my best friend, except we were both 14 and in the same class in school. You know the drill, one day, home alone at my house, we "wrestled" and his t-shirt slipped up and I just had to touch his stomach. I just lay my hand flat on it, and asked "OK?"

"Sure" he smiled and looked a little nervous.

"Ahhh" I said, and went up and locked the door, even tough we were alone in the house ... I went back and we lay there for a while, just exploring and we quickly found ourselves naked ... and laughing like crazy, you know 14 year old boys.

But we just talked and it was not awkward, witch is very important! We lay and kissed and touched each other for 15 minutes ... until I could take no more, so I just lay on top of him, kissed him and we ... well .... "rubbed" and ... well, that didn't take long, but Gooood! :)

I knew it was very important then to keep talking and joking, to keep him from hurrying home. Home to feel embarrassed, wrong and alone.

So I kept laying there on top , talking about how I had really liked what we just did, and that I REALLY liked him. Told him he was STILL my best friend in the world, as he was before all this, and if he didn't want to fool around ever again, I'd never be anything than the best friend to him, as I had always been.

And I swear ... then he kissed me and said "Never, ever stop making me wrestle with you" - 'nuff said, right :-) We went on, and at it, as often we could over the next year and a half. My home, The Library, backseat of a bus for the love of god, but mostly in my room, because I could lock the door.

So to the single mother with the totally normal 13 year old, here's some words of wisdom you sorely need:

For you see "lady", my friends mother was just like you! A woman with zero tolerance or grasp on how teen boys evolve, simply a bad parent without any sense of privacy or decency. Only the ability to ruin a beautiful and nervous moment between her son and his best friend, you inconsiderate, selfish .... WOMAN! you just don't DO what you did to them, you just DON'T.

A Judge should force you to prove you're a fit parent, and have YOU move OUT of the house, until your court ordered classes have taught you some simple ... manners, maybe even a smidgen of class! Love for your son, that's never been there, so that can't be taught, but some awareness about ANYONE other than you, you, YOU!

Teens have a right, to have a key to their bedroom door, it's a no-brainer! Ohh, sorry ... forgot you're an "American"!

Sorry, it's just that I'm from Denmark, (that's in Europe by the way lady)! And unlike you intolerable and intolerant Americans, with your "morals".....


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Leave your son and his friend alone when he's in his room, give him the key so he can lock the door, and if the house is on fire, then you knock politely and say "Honey, it's burning"

...and I'm sure his friends reply will be "I told you to use more KY"

i start masturbating when im in 5th grader... for me its normal to masturbate..

dont worry its normal!

Hello, I have something to say on this subject I have a teen son and have witnessed many odd things ,I think you adopting him is just special in its self ,and i know if youwerent ready for this challenge you would have not taken him in ,His behavior has question to it ,but not in the way that he should be ostrisied all teens experiment .Dont feel less of a person just take him to a private setting and start by telling him your experiences and what kind of result came from them .Explain to him how a womans body works and how a mans body works .Dont let any subject taboo or not be left unanswered. and sugest that if he would like you would get books and videos for him. your his parent he needs you especially at this stage.Best of wisheshealth

Tell him to find a girl to do it. I personally love it with girls, it's just, you know, nature. It's ok if he had done it with a girl instead of a boy. tell him that.

for the record. you may be born male, or female. but it doesnt mean that being gay is a learned activity or that it can be changed if you start pressuring the kid to change early on. if you tell him being gay is wrong, you're going to confuse him and make him go into a depressed state. you cant change what he already is, you need to embrace it. to anyone who says any different, you're not gay, so you arent educated on the subject.

im 14 and when i first got caught by my mom i didn't know she was there and she just sat and watched me masterbate.when i finished she came in and said it is ok to do that. later that night she came into my room with a stack of old playboys and condoms. i asked her what the condoms were for and she said if i get lonely later on in life.

I'm afraid this fantasy that you are describing is called "Incest" and in most all cultures, it is illegal.

If this truely happened to you, your mother is guilty of a crime. You should be very careful who you share this info with, as she could not only go to jail, but loose you through the courts. Beware.



But I'm betting this was just a fantasy that you posted on here to try to bluff the original poster.

Dude that post is a dark fantasy. Little weird though.

Holmestrix

Hello!
 When I read this story, I was devastated. A 13year old boy gay? Feel you love that child I don't think you would be coming here to seek advice. What he did is wrong his sexuality is going extreme.As matter of fact he shouldn't even have any sexual preference at that agE. Please read this to see what God said about this case.Nothing is new under the sun.

No No. Do not post about God on this forum. This is a judgement free zone. People come here looking for help and answers. Not to be preached to by you.

Ok i,m going say one more time: MOVE ON IT 201,1 NOT 2008.  time to start a new thread posting xp

NO DO NOT GET ANGRY!!!!!!!!!!!!! YES it was normal!! i started when i was very young (younger than him). As a homosexual 17 year old my advice is under NO circumstances get angry. if your a homophobe well... get over it lol (jk if those are your veiws then okay if you're not forcing them on other people then idc thats your perception of life) but seriously if you DO get angry for his being/finding who he is it will make him feel unloved and uncared for and that is what you want LEAST. when i first started doing "gay"  things i was TERRIFIED of my mother finding out!! honestly that scared me soooo much and when she did i forced myself to become straight, it was detrimental though because i started cutting, smoking and trying to kill myself. after she found out i denied it and she pretended she didnt know but i still forced myself to be straight. i ended up trying to get hit by a train dozens of times and tried to OD on sleeping medicine, advil and some other things. so you can hopefully see how sared he must have been at the time because in my experience most homosexuals we're like that as they started to "experiment" and when they thought somebody may have found out. i know this was posted a long time ago and i hope you let me know how it all turned out. but if this kind of thing happens again (if he still lives with you?) then it's the worst thing you could ever do!! you should respond by letting him "experiment" and hope he will sit down and have an honest conversation about it. do not overeact all young boys and teens experiment to a point with both males and females. if he turns out to be gay then thats who he is and you should love him the same as if he were straight. please let me know what you did in response and how it all turned out?

hey, i m a gay 13 year old and i came out about two months ago, when my mom caught me and my best friend. we were ridaculed mostly by my parents (major homophobes), but his didnt really mind. infact his dad lied and said he was bi, but i heard him and his wife talking later about it. it made me happy that, even though they lied, they accepted us. now we are happy as can be and my parents let up after they figured out there was nothing they could do, but i still feel... cut off from my family. tell me, how would you rather your son assess the situation? would you like to be my parents or my bfs?

 

 

 

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Guest wrote this reply:Im at the age of 13 and Ive been doing it for 2 years now ive talked to my doctor about it and he says.(its ok as long as it is a health practice) just dont lose control.