I fully agree with your decision. Sex is instinctive. Why do we spend so much time and effort trying to subdue and stifle that instinct I dont know. It would be easier to assume the teens are going to have sex and prepare them and make them safe.
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How is having sex a form of lack of self respect? What a load of rubbish. Sex is instinctive and a biologic function, like eating, sleeping, crapping and peeing. We are all wired to have sex. Some do it early, some do it later. The partners teens choose also differs. Some like older guys, others will go out with guys their own age. Does it really matter and do you think teens take heed of the law??
When there is no abuse, violence, drugs or alcohol involved and when the two individuals are comfortable with each other, how does having sex relate to lacking self respect. This is totally absurd, equating having sex to lacking self respect.
Trying to enforce and tell a teen to abstain from sex is to encourage them to rebel and do it secretly. There are so many such things happening and that's why teen pregnancy is at an all time high.
When there is no abuse, violence, drugs or alcohol involved and when the two individuals are comfortable with each other, how does having sex relate to lacking self respect. This is totally absurd, equating having sex to lacking self respect.
Trying to enforce and tell a teen to abstain from sex is to encourage them to rebel and do it secretly. There are so many such things happening and that's why teen pregnancy is at an all time high.
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you have such a screwed up mind. You have such a twisted approach to something so normal and instinctive. With a mind set like yours I think guys would have certainly taken advantage of you, to teach you a lesson. You are so narrow minded and I can see you are scarred from your experiences.
I certainly have never come across a situation like yours. I know same age relationships do land in situations like yours BUT I know friends who have been in relationships with older guys who, because of the law, have been very careful, nurturing and caring of the younger girlfriend. Even as teen I know that relationships dont always last. My take on it is to feel happy, enjoy the relationship and break up amicably if that is what is meant to happen. We get disappointed because we expect too much and want everything to last. This does not happen. Delaying sex also does not guarantee that the relationship will last. So your arguments make no sense and you only demonstrate your twisted mind set. You for one seem to get a high from being down in life. Sorry, not all teens are like you. We think differently and understand life better and have limited expectations.
I certainly have never come across a situation like yours. I know same age relationships do land in situations like yours BUT I know friends who have been in relationships with older guys who, because of the law, have been very careful, nurturing and caring of the younger girlfriend. Even as teen I know that relationships dont always last. My take on it is to feel happy, enjoy the relationship and break up amicably if that is what is meant to happen. We get disappointed because we expect too much and want everything to last. This does not happen. Delaying sex also does not guarantee that the relationship will last. So your arguments make no sense and you only demonstrate your twisted mind set. You for one seem to get a high from being down in life. Sorry, not all teens are like you. We think differently and understand life better and have limited expectations.
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I think you should make your daughter understand the consequences as she may be unaware of it. What if she becomes pregnant. There is no guarantee that her boyfriend will support her.
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I have to say, this is not what I expected I'm sorry but I actually am an adult and I can tell you, your carefree lackidascle promiscuity will be regretted when u have your own children and your faced with this problem. 15 is to young for sex. 16 is to young for sex. If you can not deal with the consequences that can occur from having sex ON YOUR OWN, then u are not ready and should not be having sex. (Jobs that pay more than $10, home, a car, a bank account, medical insurance that is not funded by tax payers, a life where you are not relying on anyone else for survival)
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Hi, can I ask why is 15 too young? Where have people got this idea that 15 is too young?
What needs to happen is for that girl to prepare herself and make sure she uses protection to prevent STDs and pregnancy. Sex is NOT wrong or bad. If sex was wrong we would not have been created that way.
You are deciding that our normal natural physiology is flawed and we need to conform to man made laws and norms. How silly is that?
We need to accept that when we hit teens years and have reached that stage of puberty that we will have those desires and some of us will want to have sex and experiment sexually. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. This is why there are so many psychological problems with kids, because of people with opinions like yours.
Sexuality does not need the moral police to supervise or scrutinise or penalise. Sex is instinctive and will happen. Just prepare our young ones and make sure they are NOT exposed to the issues I have just explained - STDs and pregnancy.
What needs to happen is for that girl to prepare herself and make sure she uses protection to prevent STDs and pregnancy. Sex is NOT wrong or bad. If sex was wrong we would not have been created that way.
You are deciding that our normal natural physiology is flawed and we need to conform to man made laws and norms. How silly is that?
We need to accept that when we hit teens years and have reached that stage of puberty that we will have those desires and some of us will want to have sex and experiment sexually. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. This is why there are so many psychological problems with kids, because of people with opinions like yours.
Sexuality does not need the moral police to supervise or scrutinise or penalise. Sex is instinctive and will happen. Just prepare our young ones and make sure they are NOT exposed to the issues I have just explained - STDs and pregnancy.
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Whatever you do, make SURE she knows about and has protection. When I was 16 I wanted to have sex with my boyfriend so I took myself to planned parenthood and got birth control. I wanted to make sure I was responsible. By some terrible coincidence in the universe, as I was walking out my mom's friend was walking out of a store across the street and saw me. When I got home my mom was waiting for me and went ballistic. She took my phone, my computer, my car keys, and made me flush my birth control pills. She thought this would make sure I didn't have sex. I was pregnant within a year. All I wanted was to protect myself. I'm almost 30 now and still resent her for that greatly.
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best thing I ever did was start having sex at 13, thank god I did because at 43 my sex life is absolute c**p, once a month with my wife of 20 years, and even then its not much good, and has been that way for 10 years already, but I don't feel like ending my marriage or cheating etc, because I have the most incredible memories of early teen sex, and I experienced how good it is, so I am content. All these people saying how devastated and disappointed they are to find that their biologically ready daughter is doing what her body was designed to do is insane, the reason they are feeling like this is because someone in the last 50 years came up with the magic number 18 as being ready, rubbish, you are ready much earlier than that, everyone running around trying to hide it etc, oh and the shame etc if you get found out, the whole thing is stupid. western society is backward in this regard.
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I agree with everything you said, once you are in your teens you are ready to go, hormones are through the roof and the sex out of this world, much better than when you are 43 doing it once a month with your wife and even then its basically useless...
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Unfortunately Bilbu, I stand to disagree with your post. As a counselor your response seems more in line with someone who chose to describe his "missed conquests". Seemingly not offering much assistance to try to ease a parent into the thought that their child has decided to have sex and now how do they cope with it.
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Thanks for this note, I just found out last week that my daughter who just turned 15 is having sexual encounters. I will be calm, show her how to protect herself and I will take her to the Gyno. Thanks Nothinatall41386.
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I am a happily married female 36 years old. I have asked my 16 yo daughter several times if she is having sex and the only reply I get is (mother how could think I would be doing it at my age) .I have been happily married for over 16 years. I always go to bed wearing a loose fitting night gown, if we have sex I will usually put some panties on to keep any semen from leaking out of me on the bed sheet. so I can tell what panties look like the next morning after every thing dries out. when my daughter comes home from a date she puts her clothes in the laundry hamper. when I check her panties they look just like mine where the semen has dried up. how should I go about in making her use some type of birth control.
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I was 13 when I first started having sex with this guy who was more than twice my age. I liked him a lot and I would go to his place all the time to have sex. I would never tell my mom I was having sex even if I had the best relationship because I knew she would like me having sex with a much older guy. In fact he got me to keep a change of clothes at his place to wear after we had sex, in order to escape detection. It was well organised.
Dont be disappointed that your daughter is having sex and not telling you. Girls do that because our society and the laws are too restrictive, especially when it comes to having older boyfriends. Girls will never tell anyone for fear the law will penalise their boyfriend.
You've got to assume she is having sex and from the way you describe, she is most certainly having sex. Just tell her you want to take her to the gyno because of her age and because of the likelihood having sex is a reality and you want to prepare her for that event in case it does happen. She will love you for that.
I am sure she is having sex with someone older. Please let her follow her heart and just because the guy is older does not necessarily mean he is harming her or taking advantage of her. Let her have her own experiences in life. Let her explore and find her balance.
All this is because of the useless strict law we have.
Dont be disappointed that your daughter is having sex and not telling you. Girls do that because our society and the laws are too restrictive, especially when it comes to having older boyfriends. Girls will never tell anyone for fear the law will penalise their boyfriend.
You've got to assume she is having sex and from the way you describe, she is most certainly having sex. Just tell her you want to take her to the gyno because of her age and because of the likelihood having sex is a reality and you want to prepare her for that event in case it does happen. She will love you for that.
I am sure she is having sex with someone older. Please let her follow her heart and just because the guy is older does not necessarily mean he is harming her or taking advantage of her. Let her have her own experiences in life. Let her explore and find her balance.
All this is because of the useless strict law we have.
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