Hello everyone ok so let me start from the beginning, now I am 15 years old turning 16 in august , I'm a 9th grader ever since the school year started which was in September I had been talking to this one guy from school he is one year younger we talked for a while and then December 2 we started dating I was a virgin when I met him he was like my first boyfriend first kiss and everything , then on January 6 I decided to come over to his place it was sorta planned out one thing led to another and I gave my virginity to him we had unprotected sex I really don't regret a thing because I love him the only thing now is that I think I might be pregnant.. yeah we had sex without a condom but he did not finish inside of me this is how I remember it I was laying down and he pulled out and cummed all over my stomach he even said it he was like "I just nutted all over you" it was my first time I remember that I didn't know what to say or do and I didn't want there to be awkward silence between us so I'm not sure but I remember that I got up and I got on him I got his penis in me and then I don't remember what happened but I remember him cleaning me after we were all done I did not bleed or anything due to losing my virginity it was just the cum, the next day I was really thinking hard about the whole situation I was wondering if any cum had gotten in me because I didn't not want to become pregnant so I finally got the nerve to bring up the whole situation to him and I told him things how I remembered them and he said that he is pretty sure that we finished right after he cummed and that everything that I said happened before he did cum so I don't know about that. I really think that there is a possibility that I might be pregnant, my period usually comes around the 20th or after that I don't know I have a really irregular cycle but then the 9th , three days after we had had sex i notice that i start bleeding late afternoon and i just think oh it's my period but that's odd tho because it usually doesn't come around this time it's too early but i was like whatever and i just went on with the though that it was , I'm not sure i think it was 4 days later it was gone and my period usually last more than 7 days 5 the least and another thing is that it wasn't really like my usual period it was not like flowing blood or anything like a regular period for me I just had some light spotting and ever since I've noticed that I've been feeling pretty bloated and I've been really gassy which is now normal for me and every day it's not that I have pain in my stomach but I've been feeling light movement and my stomach has been rumbling and stuff I'm not sure if those are symptoms of early pregnancy I've been doing so much research and some of the symptoms listed like tiredness and constant urination I've been having them ok so it is the 29th now and I never got my period I'm still wondering if that could have been my period that came the 9th I don't know I am really scared now I can't be pregnant I'm too young I've talked to my boyfriend about this and he says the same thing that we are too young that it is not the right time for us to have a baby he doesn't want his parent to know because he will get in a lot of trouble he is encouraging me that if I am pregnant to take laxatives to kill off the baby he says he will get them for me I really don't want to do that but I feel like I have no other choice I have no one else to talk to about this I don't want to tell my parents I am too afraid someone please help I don't know what to do, is it a possibility that I might be pregnant based on everything I said and if I am what should I do ? I don't know, someone please help me I would really appreciate any advice .
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It sounds as though you could be pregnant. You have given quite a bit of helpful information, but more details of your menstrual cycle would help. Do you know the dates of your last 5 period starts (or more)? You say that your periods are very irregular but then you say they usually come around 20th or later so details of your previous periods would be helpful to help ascertain whether the day you had sex (6th?) was likely to be a fertile day.
My initial thoughts are that 6th could well have been a fertile day, maybe even the day you ovulated, and as he entered you after ejaculation, it is very likely that residual sperm entered your vagina.
Where did your boyfriend get the idea of laxatives to kill the baby? It would seem that although he might be your first, you are probably not his first! Just talking about killing the baby sounds callous and cowardly, and certainly selfish. His lack of concern for your welfare, and his readiness to kill the baby because he doesn't want to face the consequences is rather concerning. You say you love him, but it seems clear he doesn't love you (whatever he may say). The killing might be a simple answer for him, but it's not the same for you. You would have to suffer the after-effects, both physically and mentally. Some I have talked to have said they are haunted by the realisation that they should have provided the protection the baby needed at its time of great need, and desperately wish they had the baby they murdered. Some find that after abortion, they have difficulty carrying a baby later when they want one.
You haven't said much about your background, which would help in giving more advice. Where do you live? Are there any cultural and/or religious implications for you?
If you are pregnant, then you do need to talk to your parents at some point - they will probably find out sooner or later. They will probably be very disappointed, even angry, but you will need their support. There are other options available to you (like adoption), but you must speak to someone before you do anything you may regret.
If you want to talk more, please feel free to do so (privately if your prefer)
I hope this helps as a start.
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