My wife is 33; I've known her since she was 19. She would never agree to sleep with me, even though we had a full sexual relationship. It was her mother who eventually explained to me that she had, and had always had, a bed wetting problem. Despite uncounted visits to doctors and specialists, no cause has ever been found.
Sometimes her bed wetting is triggered by a dream in which she is peeing; other times she has no recollection of any dream, but still wets.
Her wetting is very erratic and unpredictable; She can have nightly wetting for an extended period (last year she had a period where she was wet every single night for over three months); other times she stays dry for 2 - 3 weeks. On average, though she is usually wet 2/3 times a week.
She occasionally wets during the daytime but not often.
Now, she always sleeps in a nappy (diaper) and has long since given up worrying about it.
Sometimes her bed wetting is triggered by a dream in which she is peeing; other times she has no recollection of any dream, but still wets.
Her wetting is very erratic and unpredictable; She can have nightly wetting for an extended period (last year she had a period where she was wet every single night for over three months); other times she stays dry for 2 - 3 weeks. On average, though she is usually wet 2/3 times a week.
She occasionally wets during the daytime but not often.
Now, she always sleeps in a nappy (diaper) and has long since given up worrying about it.
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At nearly 50, I am a little older than your wife, but I have the exact same problem (although I no logher consider it a problem - like her, I now sleep in a nappy and have given up worrying about it) I was a chronic bedwetter as a child. It improved somewhat in my mid-teens, but it never stopped completely. Like your lady, I too am very erratic, wetting every night for long periods, sometimes staying dry for a while. Again like your wife, probably averaging 2/3 times a week. I too sometimes have daytime accidents.
No one has ever identified a reason for my wetting either, and I am supplied with nappies on the NHS through the local Incontinence Clinic.
No one has ever identified a reason for my wetting either, and I am supplied with nappies on the NHS through the local Incontinence Clinic.
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I am a 42yo and have been wetting the bed the same as the as the what has been descibed in the last two posts here but i havn't as yet had any day time problems. I to wear a nappy to bed and was I can't remember having a dry night a child till I was about 16, now i do it 3,4 sometimes 5 nights a week.
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i know all to well how you feel. i am almost 60 now. and because of this have been along 95 % of my life. and through out my life has cause me a lot of pain and embareresment
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It would appear that this is by no means an uncommon problem. I am a 38-year-old female and I too have had serious bladder control issues throughout my life. All through my childhood and teenage years. I wet my bed pretty much every night. I do have some dry nights now and then, but I still wet probably 75 percent of the time, or 5 or 6 nights per week, though it has to be said that is only an average; I still sometimes have extended periods of wetting every night and also occasionally a couple of weeks of being dry.
During the day I can normally control my bladder enough to be able to get to a toilet, though I still do have accidents from time to time.
No one, doctor, urologist, continence specialist or any professional for that matter has ever come up with any reason for my poor bladder control, much less cure it, despite trying every medication ever prescribed, alarms and all the other strategies to avoid a wet bed. My bladder seems to have a mind of it's own, and as others have mentioned, I gave up worrying about it long ago. I wear a nappy every night (as in fact I have done all my life), and sometimes during the day too, if there is any possibility of having an accident.
I am very fortunate in having a very understanding and supportive husband and family, and I am never made to feel inadequate in any way whatsoever.
During the day I can normally control my bladder enough to be able to get to a toilet, though I still do have accidents from time to time.
No one, doctor, urologist, continence specialist or any professional for that matter has ever come up with any reason for my poor bladder control, much less cure it, despite trying every medication ever prescribed, alarms and all the other strategies to avoid a wet bed. My bladder seems to have a mind of it's own, and as others have mentioned, I gave up worrying about it long ago. I wear a nappy every night (as in fact I have done all my life), and sometimes during the day too, if there is any possibility of having an accident.
I am very fortunate in having a very understanding and supportive husband and family, and I am never made to feel inadequate in any way whatsoever.
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You do know that bedwetting is a medical condition, one which can be treated. There are many treatment options out there. Have you looked into medication? Like DDAVP? Or Bedwetting Alarms? Your doctor can prescribe DDAVP if necessary.
I hope this helps
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Just like most people here I am still a bedwetter now aged in my mid twenties. Throughout my childhood I had wonderful caring parents (though divorced & living far apart) who helped me with my problem as best they could. This was so important to my self esteem. It happened nightly till I was about 13 then gradually lessened, so now it's only about twice a week.
(It happens so randomly...one never knows when ...sigh)
My mum used to try and find friends who suffered the same complaint, so I didn't feel "so alone" with it. But as we got older they stopped and I didn't.
But two remain great friends of mine, and they understand completely.
I love to travel, often staying in hostels, so thank goodness there is really good
protection out there. Other travellers in hostels are curious but understanding if they realise I wear protection....however I've never met another Traveller who is a fellow sufferer.
(It happens so randomly...one never knows when ...sigh)
My mum used to try and find friends who suffered the same complaint, so I didn't feel "so alone" with it. But as we got older they stopped and I didn't.
But two remain great friends of mine, and they understand completely.
I love to travel, often staying in hostels, so thank goodness there is really good
protection out there. Other travellers in hostels are curious but understanding if they realise I wear protection....however I've never met another Traveller who is a fellow sufferer.
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If you read my post again, you will see that I have in fact tried more or less everything. I've lost count of the number of doctors, specialists and other medical professionals that I've seen over the years, and despite trying numerous different medications (including DDAVP), alarms and other devices and various strategies of what, how much, and when to drink or not drink, nothing has ever helped me overcome my bladder issues. And when it comes to the medications, none of them had any appreciable effect, and some caused unpleasant side effects. I would rather not put any substance in my body unless it's absolutely necessary, and certainly not ones that do not work.
None of these medical professionals has ever come up with a reason for my incontinence, much less a cure. Indeed the nurses who run our local Continence Clinic have said that there are people who suffer with the problem all their lives. As I said (and others as well) I gave up worrying about it long ago. Nappies (or Incontinence Pads if you prefer) are the way I have chosen to deal with it.
Yes, in the majority of cases it is a condition which can be treated; I don't think it can in my case. It really is no big deal as far as I am concerned.
None of these medical professionals has ever come up with a reason for my incontinence, much less a cure. Indeed the nurses who run our local Continence Clinic have said that there are people who suffer with the problem all their lives. As I said (and others as well) I gave up worrying about it long ago. Nappies (or Incontinence Pads if you prefer) are the way I have chosen to deal with it.
Yes, in the majority of cases it is a condition which can be treated; I don't think it can in my case. It really is no big deal as far as I am concerned.
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I'm in this club with you all. I'm 35, and I wet the bed about 3-4 times a week. I also wear diapers, and then don't have to worry about it beyond that.
I was a bedwetter as a kid, she very slow grew out of it, to the point where in college I had a dry spell of 2 years. Then in my mid 20s I started having a random episode a couple times a year, then once every couple months, then a couple times a month, and final (after a cancer scare, that subsequently turned out to be nothing) I started eyeing again several times a week. That was about 6 years ago.
I was a bedwetter as a kid, she very slow grew out of it, to the point where in college I had a dry spell of 2 years. Then in my mid 20s I started having a random episode a couple times a year, then once every couple months, then a couple times a month, and final (after a cancer scare, that subsequently turned out to be nothing) I started eyeing again several times a week. That was about 6 years ago.
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It's amazing to me reading these and seeing that I'm not as alone as I've always thought. I'm 27, female and have literally never had a dry night in my life. I'd love to wake up even occasionally in dry pajamas but I've never managed it. As a kid, I got beat for it every.single.morning. and my dads beatings were enough to change ANY behavior. But I couldn't do it. I tried so hard. Looking back, I think the constant sexual abuse by an uncle and two much older cousins until I was 16 might have contributed to my problem but who knows. I also have some daytime accidents but at least not as often as bed-wetting. After years of sexual abuse much of which happened in the bathroom, I literally have a paralyzing fear of the bathroom. It's nuts I know but when the flashbacks etc kick in, there's no reasoning it away. I literally can't even go into a public bathroom with stalls if anyone else at all is in there. I have literally had to stand outside trying to hold it, waiting for the bathroom to be completely empty. And I can't always wait long enough. It's horrible, but even trying to force myself to go in and use the toilet when someone else is in another stall triggers an all-out panic attack melt down that inevitably results in my bladder emptying in my pants. This fear is absolutely crippling and makes my life hell. The only good thing is I no longer wet my pants during the day near as much as when I was a kid and teenager. Now maybe a couple times a month but not constantly anymore. I'm so glad though to see that other women struggle too and not just me
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I'm 18 years old . And I ve been bedwtting since the age of 7 or 8 approximately . I had stopped wetting ( using diapers)at an early age around 1 yearand a half then I started again around the age of 7 . I still wet my bed and it's really frustrating. I'm afraid to stay like this all my life
My mother was never supportive and always calls me names because I wet my bed . When I visited the urologist he said that i don't have any organic problem. And he told my mom that it's psychological.my father died when I was 3 and I was abused by my grandmother physically and emotionally and bullied at school . I dunno what to do anymore.
My mother was never supportive and always calls me names because I wet my bed . When I visited the urologist he said that i don't have any organic problem. And he told my mom that it's psychological.my father died when I was 3 and I was abused by my grandmother physically and emotionally and bullied at school . I dunno what to do anymore.
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Hi, i am a 32 yr old lady, just like you i started bedwetting at age of 7, also been called names bullied by my older sister, and my mom never defended me. Doctor said it was psycological, i do think so too. Sometimes when am sad i wet the bed every night.
My advice to you is, try to be happy, dont care what pple try to tell you. Do what is best for you. I never succeeded in taking decisions. My life sucks cz i have to worry bout my mom opinion. I am in a secret relation cz my parents are too old fashioned. They would never allow me a boyfriend.
I think if you stop thinking about what everyone says and let go of the past your problem will stop.
My advice to you is, try to be happy, dont care what pple try to tell you. Do what is best for you. I never succeeded in taking decisions. My life sucks cz i have to worry bout my mom opinion. I am in a secret relation cz my parents are too old fashioned. They would never allow me a boyfriend.
I think if you stop thinking about what everyone says and let go of the past your problem will stop.
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My name is John and I'm 71 years old. Like other posters in this thread I have a bed-wetting problem. As a child I grew up prone to accidents during the day, and wetting my bed virtually every night. This lasted until my mid teens when I finally became dry (more or less anyway, except for a few episodes); this lasted about 15-20 years and then seemingly out of nowhere, I began to wet the bed again. At first it was fairly infrequent, but as I grew older, the frequency increased. I now wet myself during sleep about 80 percent of the time, and as with other posters I now sleep every night in a nappy (diaper) or incontinence briefs if you prefer.
Also in the last few years I have struggled to control my bladder during the day too, and in certain circumstances and situations I will sometimes, as a precaution, wear nappies during the day as well. Believe you me it has saved my blushes on a good few occasions.
My wife was wonderfully supportive about it when I started wetting again, and has never once complained at having to change the bed or the extra washing this caused. I think she appreciated it very much when I made the decision to wear nappies, since this of course saves her a lot of extra work.
In common with others I too have seen many doctors and specialists, none of whom have ever been able to cure the issue. I've tried lots of medications and alarms, etc., none of which have every helped. I have been told more than once that there are many people who are prone to urinary incontinence all their lives and sometimes cannot be cured, and that it seems I am likely to be one of them. I to have long since given up worrying about it
Also in the last few years I have struggled to control my bladder during the day too, and in certain circumstances and situations I will sometimes, as a precaution, wear nappies during the day as well. Believe you me it has saved my blushes on a good few occasions.
My wife was wonderfully supportive about it when I started wetting again, and has never once complained at having to change the bed or the extra washing this caused. I think she appreciated it very much when I made the decision to wear nappies, since this of course saves her a lot of extra work.
In common with others I too have seen many doctors and specialists, none of whom have ever been able to cure the issue. I've tried lots of medications and alarms, etc., none of which have every helped. I have been told more than once that there are many people who are prone to urinary incontinence all their lives and sometimes cannot be cured, and that it seems I am likely to be one of them. I to have long since given up worrying about it
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I'm a 36 year old bedwetter. Like many of these posts, I was a bedwetter as a child, mostly dried up by my late teens. I slowly started have nighttime accidents again through my 20s and at age 30 started wrong the bed again frequently. I have a wife and two kids and I just wears diapers at night, and don't worry much anymore.
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This is actually my post on replying to.
I didn't realize that web links were not allowed. The information i wanted to convey (without adding a link), is that there is an active adult bedwetting on Reddit. If you search for adultbedwetting you'll find it. Currently about 430 members.
I didn't realize that web links were not allowed. The information i wanted to convey (without adding a link), is that there is an active adult bedwetting on Reddit. If you search for adultbedwetting you'll find it. Currently about 430 members.
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