bOYFRIEND WON'T HAVE SEX WITH ME. iS HE CHEATING?

My partner and I haven't had sex in over three months, we've been together almost a year. He won't have sex with me because he thinks I'm cheating. I've tried proving that I would need hurt him like that, he is the only one I'd ever send anything dirty to. He still won't believe me. He says he'd never cheat and that's not what he's like, but I find tiny bits of evidence that he might be :/ plus all the "evidence" he has of me "cheating" looks and sounds staged :/ it looks fake. I made a stupid mistake when I was 18 to somebody I didn't really care for, I'm 21 now and am in a relationship where all problems aside I still love this man. I'd never do anything to hurt or betray him. Is he the one cheating?

I just read this. It is over a year old. I hope you dumped him. You can do better, much better!

I did what you said.. One week became a year :( What do I do?

I've been with my man for almost three years, he was pretty affectionate, missed me alot during sex and when I would go to work. About six months to a year the kissing stopped, and sex had become less and less, he used to come to me in the morning and initiate sex and that has gotten less. I have noticed signs that he was cheating, bruises ,finger prints above his breast cum in his pants, heavy perfume smells. And then when I came home from being out of town I found a condom wrapper in our bed and caught him. He swears it was one time and he got drunk and doesn't remember anything. But I found out who from a text message and she told me everything, he met her online an escort service, paid her 300 for two hours.. He begged me to stay. I left for a week and he went crazy finding me. I came back and he said we would work things out, but our sex life sucks. He never initiates sex, when I try he says his back hurts or its always something. He makes me wait for days, I am very sexually frustrated all the time. We are in our middle fifty's. He is about 350 lbs. I love him but all we have really is a talking relationship, we are always together. We travel alot together. Only when he goes to a job to check are we apart. Oh and one of the biggest things I forgot to say is he has ED. I find Viagra in his car and catch him getting one from his safe and putting it in his car. I don't think he is using them on me......

Nope, you can stand on your head for that type of guy. Once they get like that, it's time to give him the boot. Because they may get better, then they go back. That's just a bunch of c**p. There is a normal man out there for everyone. Just get rid of the creep. He goes hot and cold, that not love anyway.

Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. The first year we were together we had sex multiple times a day if not at least once. We tried to have a baby and lost her when i was 5 months. I got pregnant again just 2 months later with a boy who made it and is now 4 months old. I think i might be pregnant again.....anyways we have had sex twice in a month or so and the second time i didnt even get to have an orgasm. Ive found porn on his phone more than once. Its not like im unatractive im 26 long brown hair petite hourglass figure. Hes 36 . Hes always told me he doesnt watch porn and he would rather have sex with me, well now i know that was b.s. he does lie alot and about small stuff frequently. When ive tried to put on lingerie or be naked in front of him he doesnt act like i exist. He doesnt even listen to me or talk to me the same (dont feel like he respects me). He says im his type but his porn searches were the opposite of what i look like, which made me cry. Like im not good enough anymore. I see that you wrote this over a year ago therefore i dont know if things have changed for you or gotten better :(. We are getting worse and i cant help but to think if hes cheating on me and if hes not going to make me feel like im his, is it wrong if i decided to flirt or talk with other men to get the attention and affection i deserve. I cry every day because i used to be a happy bubbly attractive woman and now i just feel like an ugly baby mama . If you two havent had sex in 4.5 months and when you met you had sex on a daily basis then yes he is cheating. To me cheating is watching porn too because hes fantasizing about other women instead of making love to his wife. You deserve better and sex is a big part of a healthy relationship. If you arent having any theres something very wrong. Im getting sick to my stomach just thinking about it because im going through the same thing:(.

I been in a relationship for 4 years though it was really ruff in the beginning with many fights but we still had time to go out on dates and have sex a year ago the sex started to die down and we had sex very few times until the beginning of this year we have had no sex at all no kisses no hugging I have to literally begged for it and yet it's always an excuse to give me any affection I talk to him about it he keeps telling me that he doesn't think about it but he is frequently jerking off and but I been trying with him and it seems like he doesn't have any more interest in me do u think it's time for us to part our ways

My man and I have been Together for almost 5 year's and the time we had sex was June 30 now we are the month of August he's he cheating on me

Bottom line is that he's not attracted to you in that way right now. Tell him you're unhappy with that area of the relationship, tell him your suspicions. He's probably not happy about something also, marriage counseling can work if both are committed enough to do some hard work. Counseling can also help to end a marriage that needs to end, it's kind of a shock when the counselor says that though.

Most cheating doesn't get caught, some people won't even admit to it on anonymous surveys that are attempts to study cheating. I think a lot of it should be seen as a symptom of some other problem area, or just curiosity, I'd rather my SO never tells me if she ever cheated. And chronic cheaters are going to get caught eventually.
Cheating wouldn't be the first place my mind would but something is going on. with one of my exes I always had to work excessively everytime, which probably felt really good to her, but I became tired of that, and eventually stopped even trying, it just wasn't worth putting that much work.

Btw, I have cheated on multiple occasions and Have to say that it had the opposite impact on the sex in my committed relationship. Cheating always has boosted my drive for my partner and the sex is better for a time. So for me as a man, if I'm not interested in sex with my partner for a consistent span of months, that doesn't mean that i am definitely cheating, Really y'all should talk about it. Oh yeah, drug use can do that too. Like if he's been using more of whatever, I know people that just checked the hell out and stayed high for as long as they could. Just something to keep in mind especially he's ever been a casual user.

Pro tip, if your man watches porn, and he probably does, whatever you do, DO NOT EVER LOOK AT HIS SPECIFIC PORN history or open any strange video files. You may be disturbed by what you see. You would rather not know any of that. Men in my generation and younger seem to be having sex problems in our relationships that might be caused by our almost non-stop consumption of Internet porn that we've had access to since childhood. There isn't anything an SO can do to help us with that problem of watching streaming porn with reckless abandon. If I have increased my porn watching, there is probably something that I'm not happy with but don't want to deal so just watch porn I guess. A change in their drug use can do that, if they started using or using more, or using uppers like coke or speed have people watching porn for hours and hours. So drugs, or he might really stressed the f**k out feeling overwhelmed and doesn't know how to deal with that in a good.
This is true though: he is not happy with something and he needs you and he probably won't ask for help or want to talk about it.

But the kind of things he likes in his porn have no meaning please please resist from digging through that. It's smut. Pure fantasy. Hopefully y'all have found the problem and are willing to work on it. Good luck

The best thing all of you can do is Love yourself and know your worth more. Why wait around for someone to Love you the way you should and deserve to be loved. This is your life! Remember people will treat you the way you allow them to treat you. I would be gone in a flash!!!!! Time and Life goes by so quickly its a crime toward yourself to waste your time with someone that doesnt see you. Love you first, this is your life. Remember everything happens for a reason. You are the main person in your life, why allow another no matter how much you love them hurt you? Learn to love you then you will find a strength within you that will ensure you protect yourself. Dont allow a man or anyone for that matter make you feel ugly and unwanted. If your partner continues to do the things that hurt you, theres your answer. Why would you want to give your time and your being to a person that doesnt really care. Make time for you and know your worth more!!! Happy Days ahead if you choose...

Its overdue - I really hope you moved on and have found peace.. Everyone deserves to be truly loved not all this c**p thats going on in the world. I believe many men have porn issues which I beleive leads to wanting more. Men that need to watch porn need to leave relationships alone.

I'm married, experiencing the same it's horrible!!!!! I'm alienated and depressed now and insecure. My husband and I talk about it but always leads to a humiliating fight. He puts me down....im attractive and in my early 30s , I have a tight body. Guys hit on me constantly. I'm worried that one day I'll give in to someone's advances. It's inevitable but I really don't want that. I just really really want him but he's so far away he's gone!! My husband says make a doctor's appointment, counseling etc. I just feel like it's so abnormal for him to not even let me touch even his hand. He yells STOP!! I'm even on depression medicine now. Nothing's right. I'm lonely. He just wants to Jack off to porn which he denies or goes straight to bed with a blow up argument or a "head ache". I've searched phone records, hired private investigator and when he found out he said I'm an ugly fatass with a "stinky p***y" that's not true at all. It's just horrible. He went to jail for awhile and I think something might've happened to him idk? I asked him, he gets even more pissed off. He's cheated on me several times. I guess that's what's going on now?! Uugh just horrible loneliness. I'm so sad.

Its going to a year now
Like 3weeks now we havent had sex
We have good sex but its been a while.he likes to watch porm then he says he going to see a mate .so im up late waiting for him cos he said he wont be long .how many hours then hes home like nothing happened .we argue cos i say if hes cheatted on me which i would but im honest to him i dont want to f**k someone else but him.
But yea i dont no what to do.i try and kick him out but he wont go cos he has no where or family to go to.
What shall or can do.?
Despread gf .?
Thanks