im a 21 yr old female. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and everything is almost perfect, hes romantic, charming and caring, but we have a major issue in the bedroom department. he is my first and our first try was very dissapointing and every time after. he takes too long by kissing too much, i feel like i have to start everything by the time we start havin sex i have lost interest. but the major issue is could he be too small for me as i cant feel him inside EVER! and as much as we try we get nowhere, i beleive its beginning to show and he has noticed as well. no matter what position we try i beleive hes too small or could there be something wrong with me?
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Have you talked with him about this?
Maybe a simple conversation in a non-threatening location (NOT the bedroom, before or after sex) along the lines of, "Honey, you get me so turned on and interested in sex when you kiss me, but we don't seem to move into intercourse soon enough before I start to cool off. How do you feel about me taking the lead? Or, maybe we could move a little faster and see how we like it?"
As far as never feeling him inside you, that could be many things, from angles, to force, to friction, to lube, to arousal... but it might also be size differences.
If you want to experiment, you could pick up a dildo at a sex positive shop of about his size or different, and try it out.
You might be surprised to learn that most guys do not know instinctively how to perform sex, and have to be taught either outright, or by a series of experiences to know what's going to happen, how they will feel, how to pleasure you, etc.
Have you two ever laid in bed and flipped through a picture book of sex together before? You can both say what looks appealing, and what you'd like to try, or what is not of interest to you. You might find that he's just shy and insecure on what to do or how to procede...if I understand your question right.
Maybe a simple conversation in a non-threatening location (NOT the bedroom, before or after sex) along the lines of, "Honey, you get me so turned on and interested in sex when you kiss me, but we don't seem to move into intercourse soon enough before I start to cool off. How do you feel about me taking the lead? Or, maybe we could move a little faster and see how we like it?"
As far as never feeling him inside you, that could be many things, from angles, to force, to friction, to lube, to arousal... but it might also be size differences.
If you want to experiment, you could pick up a dildo at a sex positive shop of about his size or different, and try it out.
You might be surprised to learn that most guys do not know instinctively how to perform sex, and have to be taught either outright, or by a series of experiences to know what's going to happen, how they will feel, how to pleasure you, etc.
Have you two ever laid in bed and flipped through a picture book of sex together before? You can both say what looks appealing, and what you'd like to try, or what is not of interest to you. You might find that he's just shy and insecure on what to do or how to procede...if I understand your question right.
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