Can't have sex, I think my vagina is closed and these pink wrinkly things are sticking out...help???

Ok so I've never used tampons because I could never find the entrance to my vagina and neither could my older sister. But due to a genetic disorder I've been put on the depo shot that prevents periods because I can't afford to loose blood (long story)...but the fact that I could never use a tampon never bothered me but about a year ago a guy who I thought to have been a friend of mine (and quite a known man-w****) tried to sexually abuse/rape me but he just couldn't find his way in me, with his fingers nor his penis, which I thought was a blessing. But now I've been in a relationship with a guy for seven months and I'm totally in love with him, now I know he's been with another girl before but when we tried to do it he couldn't find his way in and he felt terrible and disappointed with himself and just seeing him frown that way almost broke my heart, he's such a sweet and amazing guy who treats me like a princess and he's told me on several occasions that sex is not important to him, he knows about what happened with the other guy and he's terrified to cross any boundaries or pressure me or that I'll regret giving him my virginity which I won't....I just want to know if there is something wrong with me because I know I HAVE a vagina because I had a period from the time I was 12 to the time I was 14, but I don't know, its strange, I have these pink wrinkly things sticking out which I guess you call 'inner lips' or something and they poke out of my outer lips tremendously...is there something wrong with me??