my husband and i have been trying to conceive for 2 years and he hasnt really been to the doctor that often, but he has 1 testicle and and he has just clear discharge after he "nuts", and i dont know if we will ever have kids, what can we do? he is overweight, he smokes, and he doesnt eat healthy, can someone give me some advice?
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Well, the first question is what do you want advice on?
On trying to conceive? On your husband's poor health choices? On leaving him?
I assume your question is the first one. And for expert advice, you will need to go see a doctor, together.
Fertility issues usually have to do with checking to see if there are sperm and egg available.
Just the color of his ejaculate is not enough to go on. You'll want a motility count, and that's done in the doctor's office or in a lab.
The fact that your husband has only one testicle is interesting, but not necessarily a factor. I wouldn't put any more pressure on him at this time.
Are you sure that both of you want kids? Have you discussed this with your husband? How willing is he to make changes that might result in children?
There is some evidence that smokers have a harder time producing healthy sperm, but smokers conceive every day.
You mention that he is overweight, smokes and doesn't eat healthy. Can you help him with any of that? I assume you cook. Can you make a selection of more healthy meals with some fun, usually treats thrown in?
As for overweight, is this a matter of a few pounds, a large body, or grossly overweight? In otherwords, what if you offered to start walking evenings after dinner with him? You both could start with short walks together, and gradually increase them. You don't need me to tell you about cutting down on sweets and sugars. You know how this is done.
If you want a doctor's assistance in this area, go see one together. Or, if your husband wants to loose weight and have children, he could go alone.
Don't try to make too many changes all at once.
The other thing that seems most obvious is for BOTH of you to read up on sex and conception. That is, a basic book like "Everything You Always Wanted to Know about Sex" by Dr. Rubin (circa 1970) might be a good choice. You might discover things you didn't know about conception, timing, pregnancy and sex in general. There are other books, more recently published, that might also help.
Example: Though my wife wanted to conceive, she was not aware of when her most fertile time was. All books said about 14 days, mid-cycle... but she didn't factor in her 35 day cycle... which shifted the date by 3-to-4 days. That could make all the difference!
Plus, we sat in hot tubs prior to romantic evenings, which cooked the sperm and also made for a form of sterility or birth control without knowing it.
These types of mis-conceptions, can directly affect conception. That's why I urge the reading of a good book on sex and conception BEFORE going to a doctor to discuss your situation.
Usually, the husband's sperm count is checked first. That's where I would start. But the reading can go along with this.
Good luck, and keep trying!
On trying to conceive? On your husband's poor health choices? On leaving him?
I assume your question is the first one. And for expert advice, you will need to go see a doctor, together.
Fertility issues usually have to do with checking to see if there are sperm and egg available.
Just the color of his ejaculate is not enough to go on. You'll want a motility count, and that's done in the doctor's office or in a lab.
The fact that your husband has only one testicle is interesting, but not necessarily a factor. I wouldn't put any more pressure on him at this time.
Are you sure that both of you want kids? Have you discussed this with your husband? How willing is he to make changes that might result in children?
There is some evidence that smokers have a harder time producing healthy sperm, but smokers conceive every day.
You mention that he is overweight, smokes and doesn't eat healthy. Can you help him with any of that? I assume you cook. Can you make a selection of more healthy meals with some fun, usually treats thrown in?
As for overweight, is this a matter of a few pounds, a large body, or grossly overweight? In otherwords, what if you offered to start walking evenings after dinner with him? You both could start with short walks together, and gradually increase them. You don't need me to tell you about cutting down on sweets and sugars. You know how this is done.
If you want a doctor's assistance in this area, go see one together. Or, if your husband wants to loose weight and have children, he could go alone.
Don't try to make too many changes all at once.
The other thing that seems most obvious is for BOTH of you to read up on sex and conception. That is, a basic book like "Everything You Always Wanted to Know about Sex" by Dr. Rubin (circa 1970) might be a good choice. You might discover things you didn't know about conception, timing, pregnancy and sex in general. There are other books, more recently published, that might also help.
Example: Though my wife wanted to conceive, she was not aware of when her most fertile time was. All books said about 14 days, mid-cycle... but she didn't factor in her 35 day cycle... which shifted the date by 3-to-4 days. That could make all the difference!
Plus, we sat in hot tubs prior to romantic evenings, which cooked the sperm and also made for a form of sterility or birth control without knowing it.
These types of mis-conceptions, can directly affect conception. That's why I urge the reading of a good book on sex and conception BEFORE going to a doctor to discuss your situation.
Usually, the husband's sperm count is checked first. That's where I would start. But the reading can go along with this.
Good luck, and keep trying!
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