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The fact that you let your child use marijuana says to me that he has been brought up differently, and rightly so if his test scores show he is a cut above the rest of the crowd.
But if he's very intelligent and has been raised by parents who probably let him take care of himself a lot, depression might be more a side effect of external factors.
Males tend to lose focus on things we aren't learning from, and I can tell you from firsthand experience that it can be incredibly difficult to get by when you're a really intelligent person. I smoke pot pretty much daily, and I blew SAT's, state standardized tests, military standardized tests all out of the water.
Ask him (and yourself) why, exactly, he's not doing well in classes. If he's still showing signs that he's mentally capable--that is, he still could get those good marks on a test or get an A on a paper if he were to try--then perhaps it's a lack of interest or motivation caused by the state of modern education. I went to a respectable institute of technology last year and in spite of being a bit ahead of most people applying to the school, I came out with F's and a c**p GPA and I'm currently on academic suspension.
But I certainly don't attribute this to brain damage. Marijuana use was a factor at times, and once it reaches levels considered abuse there is no doubt that it can get in the way of being productive and healthy. If your son is threatening suicide, I wouldn't doubt he's overusing marijuana, but it is important that you don't attack him for his drug use. Be glad he hasn't got an affinity for liquor, ask him if he might consider cutting back for the financial and health aspects or if he's considered vaporizing (which is basically a medical-grade way of using cannabis--no smoke, just THC).
If his case is anything like mine, the depression stems from being pigeonholed into a career path and a life that other people want for me, rather than being allowed the time to figure out what I want to do on my own, and from seeing how unreceptive the world is to bright people. Colleges make you sit through menial classes that really teach very little and fail to keep students engaged. The most intelligent students are the ones who suffer the most because while there are some teachers who provide a genuinely riveting class that you'd like to do well in, the experience of suffering through the rest of the college experience can absolutely abolish any drive or motivation you might have had coming into it.
If college isn't working for him, get him the hell out of there. I'd advise seeing shrinks and doctors at least once to see if they have anything really useful to offer, but taking all their advice with a grain of salt as a lot of them are bought out by pharmaceutical industries.
Get your son to reassess his life, and what he likes and what he doesn't, and let him do what make him truly happy, on the grounds that he take the research and his own health seriously. If he is gifted like you say he is, the last thing this world and any of you need is for him to die young like so many do.
Don't get caught up in the blame game. Let your son figure out what, if anything really interests him, and have him try to make a career of it. Demand that prospective employers judge him on his actual contributions to the workplace, and not his failed attempt at grinding through the bastard educational system that in a lot of our schools is really just another privatized cash-in.
Take advantage of everything the government or anyone else can offer you to help you get out of this rut, and support your son if he's willing to make the effort to make himself useful.
I'd wager that finding compelling work and romance would give your son's life some much-needed meaning and direction. If pot helps him cope, let him use it. He's too old now for you to be doing any hardcore parenting, so you won't be able to really stop him anyway, just let him know that you're concerned and that you don't want him to get hurt, so ask that he research his vices before he partakes.
Suicide won't get anyone anywhere, and is an easy way out of a serious problem for him, but it would be a horrible burden for you and I think if he's vocal about it towards you he probably wants you (his parents) to listen to what he has to say and take him seriously. Grant him this and just have some intelligent conversation with the guy, and let me know if it doesn't do a world of wonder for all of you.
I guess the main things I'm trying to say are thus:
Your son's marijuana use is comparable to your husband's painkiller use: a SYMPTOM, not a condition.
My guess is that it's mostly other external factors, and a lack of fun and direction in your lives, that causes depression and this awful spinning of the wheels and hostility among all.
Weed is not the problem, and he probably likes it so much because it's a fun way to socialize and relieve stress with comparably few health effects (ironic, eh?).
Check out , and , and try to talk to your son about letting him find some way to be productive and happy.
It's this industrial/consumerist world that's killing us all, I think. A world where you buy diplomas and jump through a lot of meaningless hoops to get them, and then as thanks you enter crummy jobs that use you to solve a specific and arbitrary problem, and not to reap the benefits of your own unique talents. Fk all that.
If your son is still capable, try to get him working a bit, maybe 15-20hrs a week or something just to get out and be a valued part of a community and to be active and receive a tangible reward for his work. I know my work, though menial and under the table and under me intellectually, keeps me sane and pays for weed and gasoline. All that bums me out is a lack of intellectual stimulation, and I'm looking to meeting intelligent, free-thinking people and taking classes cheaply and through continuing ed to solve that.
...what a rant this has become. I've been smoking some pot while I write so I hope I haven't been repetitive or unclear or tangential or anything. I keep faith that this won't be lost on deaf ears, and that maybe it will help you some in your situation, as mine sounds quite similar and I've already done a lot of the mental grunt work.
May you run into the good luck you're due after these years of malaise and worry. Thou art no thy lane. Reassess with a cocktail of shrewdness and compassion, smoke a bowl with your son to understand pot and to socialize with him, and strive always for what truly will make you happy and satisfied in life, and not what the television or the corporate world says will make you happy. The two are very different animals--very few people will give up a profit in an exchange for a sound moral business.
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You must work for law enforcement or you are just uninformed. Why don't you lighten up and go smoke a bowl you might be surprised.
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i am currently seventeen and have been smoking pot since a year after i was diagnosed.
tyhe only thing i have ever found with the use of marijuana and diabetes is that it DOES actually help with controlling blood sugar levels IF you are not just using it for the sake of getting high.
i have always been under a lot of stress and when i'm stressing and find that my blood sugar is through the roof, yes, i smoke a joint or hit a bowl . after that i have a light snack and take some insulin to compensate for the food and the high.
within minutes i feel my stress being relieved and every time i test about half an hour after taking insulin and getting stoned, my blood sugar has been between 4 and 10 as compared to a previous 18-20 something. it is also PROVEN that marijuana decreses stress hormones which raise the blood glucose levels in type 1 diabetics.
as my parents do not know i use it, i do it discretely, and i do not abuse it. i use it strictly when i am feeling stressed out or in pain.
along with diabetes does come thyroid problems, RLS (restless leg syndrome), muscle spasms, frequent headaches/migraines, occasional nause ( when coming from an extreme high to a normal blood glucose level ), and i have found that using marijuana has helped with the pain, stress, and anxiety or each and every one of these symptoms, not to mention the fact that i use to wear glasses because when my blood glucose was over 14, my eyes went blurry.
Not anymore.
like i have said many times already in this post i do not use marijuana for the simple fact of feeling euphoric and as some might say "in my own little universe", i use it because it helps me to deal with having a chronic and possibly terminal illness.
go ahead and puff your doobies, rip your bongs and brew your hemp oil!
you're not going to die of 'lung cancer' or 'lose brain cells'.
if you want more information, watch 'The Union' great movie (not directed at diabetes, but rather the decriminalization of marijuana, both for pain medication and freedom of choice.)
thanks for the interesting post, good luck with everything .
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More importantly I was able to maintain much better blood sugar levels and felt healthier when using weed than I do now. My blood sugar levels are unpredictable now and often high, blood sugar was definitely better when using weed everyday. not once did i ever feel the need to progress onto harder drugs and I have never been involved with the law other than a speeding offence.
I can honestly say that smoking everyday (approximately 2 ounces per month) has caused no damage to my health or well being.
you should not worry about taking marijuana with diabetes, in fact quite the opposite.
Regards
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nonah wrote:
Hi, diabetes type one is very serious condition. I can understand your friend is under a lot of stress because of her situation. However, marijuana is definitely not the answer. She may think that this substance is helping her, but I believe she is wrong. Marijuana is an illegal substance so therefore there are not any valid studies that show it can help with lowering blood glucose level. You have every right to worry about her condition. I think you should try talking to her about her habit and the effects of marijuana smoking. This is a drug that alters person's state of mind. Under the influence of marijuana your friend can even endanger her health, because she might forget to take her insulin injection on time. If she refuses to listen to you, you shouldn't hesitate to talk to her parents. Believe me, it is for her own good.
your honestly a ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting** diabetes causes alot of pain with constant injections and nerological damage common pot really helps the pain as well as Getting your b.g. up you fool its called munchies and the fact that most diabetics cannot drink cause alcohol screws the blood sugar up hardcore makes pot a very reasonable option its a plant it grows it should NOT be against the law its a gift from god truly. it helps anxiety depression and pain aids and cancer patients reap the benefits why shouldnt everyone. the fact that you assume that pot is evil means your ignorant to the wonderfull things that it allows you to do not every smoker is a stoner being high opens mental channels that if not high you could never have conceived you have a pure and free flow of free thought
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